Girlfriend wants me to take her virginity?

[goodguybadhabbits]

I've been with her for 7 1/2 months and i do feel like i love her. She's a good girl that why i love her because she has a good heart and pure. she's 17 and im 19 ( my age on my profile is wrong) last month some time she brought up losing her virginity , she didn't really say that she wanted to lose it at the time she just talked about how special she wanted to be. 3-4 days later she said that on her birthday she wanted to lose her virginity to me. I do love her and i have thought about making love to her a couple times but i have a lot of what ifs lol. Like what if she immediately regrets it after or we break up and she hates me. Or what if it wasn't what she thought it was gonna be. Her birthday is next week on Friday. she's really excited about it another is what if im the wrong guy she should be giving it to. I dont wanna disappoint her. .

[Wally48]

Goodguy; Mahasamatman, Danielleo, and most of the ladies here are right. Eighteen is a great time to lose her/your virginity. With the affection you have for each other, this will be one of the great moments of your lives, and you will remember it always.

And don't believe the abstainers when they say your are doomed to a life of promiscuity and failed marriages if you enjoy your sexuality responsibly. Take it from an old guy that has been through this. I was a virgin until age 20, and had six "intimate" girlfriends from 20 up to getting married at 28. I've had a stable, successful life, raised two beautiful accomplished kids, and TODAY just happens to be my 35th wedding anniversary.

I can't tell you how much each of those girlfriends added to the quality of my life, and how we helped each other through school challenges, with emotional support, traveling, professionally etc. Far beyond the sexual gratification (which was huge). Any one of these women would have made good wives and mothers.

Sex is such a HUGE part of our physical existence, and you are in your peak years of sexual desire and performance. Don't waste that time. Go for it. Take good care of her and do it right!

[Danielleo]

just try and make it especial make her feel love d and comfterable not only sexual but everything el se, be a bit romántic kiss her get intimate with her touch her tease her a bit take her out somewhere spontaneous hug kiss foreplay dont reall6 make it about sex make her birthday a good day out with family, friend s you get intimate youd know then Leading to sex tease her a bit touch her kiss rub her clit gently depending how she likes it, her pússy lips too rub it you can kiss your way down if you want make it especial and go down on her , kiss around her clit around her líps then continúe then stop, kiss her a bit on her face líps then if she wants you inside her go for it rub her clit as you have sex with her , girls say they can feel the entrance of the vagina so go in and out you can try it or however youd like at the end cuddle with her a bit may be kiss when you léave send her good Night message.

[Mahasamatman]

Couldn't have said better

[Leanandgreen]

you sound like the sweetest boyfriend ever, my boyfriend back when i was 17 talked me really into having sex with him and i was not ready at that time (he was 19 when we started dating and 2 weeks later on his 20th we had sex). i regret it even though we stayed togetehr for 3 years i wish we waited with sex. i would say feel flattered and be sure she is reall really ready and she doesn't have some kind of magical fantasy about it.

could you also help me with this?
www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q2751227-help-please-explain-this-behavior-please-does-he-have-a-crush-on-me

[GeminiHa]

Wow that's really kind of you. It's both of your choice mister I think you are mature enough to think about that based on how you said. I just hope that your intentions are pure though. She made her choice you make your own. You can refuse or you can agree, good luck.. hmm I know it's wrong for you to hear this from me but if you are going to do it then better use condoms!

[btbc92]

Get out of this relationship. The only reason she is with you is because she just wants sex. That's it. You do NOT want to be responsible for that. She will regret it. Many of them do once the relationship ends. Again, she ONLY wants SEX. If she can't get it from you, then she will find somebody else who will. And your heart is going to get broken.

[WhiteDuck]

One warrior tackles every other crap and get out of the bunker and you're advising him to quit?

[btbc92]

@WhiteDuck

YES! This chick ain't about love she just wants sex. You want to see him get used? He isn't about that. All he wants to do is love her for who she is. If he wanted sex, that would have happened months ago. I'm trying to protect him from a very bad mistake he will regret for the rest of his life. Because once their relationship ends that's it.

[btbc92]

She is not all that innocent. She just wants an experience. She will find some other guy. And sadly, I can tell from what he is writing she is the type that may get sexually wide and be wanting to try out other men if she ain't getting sex the way she wants it.

[WhiteDuck]

Maybe she's just a horny girl who feels awkward being a virgin

[btbc92]

Trust me, this is the classic story every girl or woman who had premarital sex tells. They blame the guy for having sex with her when it's bad enough guys like the Asker only wanted what he thought was best for the relationship. And then those same guys start using girls for sex once they turn bitter. And then girls with her attitude tend's to not be faithful. Premarital sex changes you for the worse. Especially once you lose your virginity before marriage. It literally rewires your mind and how you view sex and relationships.

[btbc92]

@WhiteDuck

That is no excuse. If she hates being a virgin then she hates herself as a person. She doesn't love herself. And she wants to keep up with other people. Either she controls herself or that's it. The asker is going to be heartbroken.

[WhiteDuck]

Wow this kind of crap really happens? I thought that it was just in movies

[WhiteDuck]

Just saw your second reply. Are you religious?

[btbc92]

@WhiteDuck Yes, it does happen. That's why you have to pay VERY CLOSE ATTENTION. THINK. Why do people get bitter once it ends? Why do they have to have ONS and friends with benefits to try to 'forget' their sex partners? Because God designed sex that way. To only be shared with one partner at a time, preferably in marriage. Because sex is designed to bind you to your partner... FOR LIFE. So think about what happens when people breakup and they've been sexually active with them? It's like having schizophrenia with sex because you become ONE with that person and everybody else they had sex with. And it can drive people literally crazy, to the point they either end up turning nympho, god forbid become rapist, or they end up in the psyche ward if they haven't already been depressed and went to see a psychotherapist.

[btbc92]

A Christian, yes. Religious, no. What I'm talking about are real-life situations.

[WhiteDuck]

I understand what you say and I agree with some, but if some two people (forget about this case) really like each other and are loyal to each other, then what's the difference in this case than being married?

[btbc92]

Trust me, you will see this all around you. You just need to know where to look and what to look for. This is not news. And it's not fictional. People are just extremely private about because if other people know, they fear they will get judged about their choices, so they get embarrassed to say anything. In other words, being cowardly by being selfish. This is not a topic widely talked about and it's sad. Could save a lot of relationships and marriages had a lot of people known this.

[btbc92]

@WhiteDuck

The guy will only be about the sexual experience and not who he had sex with. While the girl will only see it as a way to either get pregnant or keep the guy around. In marriage, the guy will learn how to truly love his wife and companion, and when he has sex with her that message get's through to her. And once the wife experience having sex for the first time she will acknowledge his love for her and doesn't have to question it. She will feel safe and desire only his touch and affection. Men outside of marriage view sex as a conquest while women see it as a goal. When you take that into marriage that's what their marriage will always be about: how they are having sex and not viewing sex as a way to love and bond with your spouse. It becomes competition. Therefore it will eventually lead to the wife growing tired of her sex life, let alone with him. Hence how divorce starts. So all that 'she hit the wall' business is just a MYTH. Unless she is sick with disease,

[btbc92]

she just hate's having sex with you. NOT just because she doesn't feel like it. If you mistreat your wife during the day, she will dread having sex with you at night. And YES, I've even experienced knowing this in my own parent's marriage before my mom died.

[btbc92]

Also to add, THIS is why that myth that women wants a man with a large penis and you have to be sexually compatible before marriage carp came about. It's NOT true. This was all done on purpose to screw everybody up, so that those who made up these rules and standards with fake scientific studies, due to people either giving fake answers or untruthful answers can be in control over what society does. And it's making them billions and us poorer.

[WhiteDuck]

"Men out side of marriage view sex as a conquest and women see it as a goal" I really have a problem with that. If two person love each other and want to get married, does their intentions change somewhere down the line? No. They're the same people with the same thoughts and same believe systems. They've not changed. If two soon to be married couple have sex one week before the marriage and one week after that, according to what you said, does it mean that their thought system changed entirely?

[GeminiHa]

Hmm not really just that there are some girls who wants to lose it to a guy who they really care about. Yes that's possible but if you don't really know her you can't and don't have the right to judge her unless proven otherwise. Please don't think that life is just black and white cause it's not.

[Mahasamatman]

It is her gift to you and your gift to her, man up and do it. Be gentle and loving, and patient, use a looooong foreplay even if she is impatient, masturbate several times before that day so that you yourself don't come early, and you can give her her first orgasm, cuddle afterwards, use protection, and don't worry just be happy, guys.

[Mahasamatman]

When you are alone, start kissing and caressing, at one point start taking her clothes off, tell her let you do it, do it slooowly and kiss her everywhere, at this point you tell her that if she wants you to stop at any point just say so, if she doesn't like something just say so, you say this juuuust once, and from there... Have fun. Don't do the mistake of asking every five second "is this okay?" "Does this hurt?". Don't mention negative words. Be confident. Before entering her, ask her just once if she is sure, and ask her to guide your way in with her hand, basically let her put it in. Go in slowly, go slowly for a moment, because she will experience a small pain, being stretched for the first time, after that... Just pick up the pace. Don't worry for anything. Even if you come early, even if she doesn't have an orgasm, don't worry, thank her for sharing this moment with you kiss and cuddle and have no worries.

[PastelWheeze]

Share your concerns with her, virginity doesn't need to be a big deal but it certainly can be. This subject seems to need more discussion between you two. If she still thinks she's ready after discussing this thoroughly AND if you are comfortable as well than relax. And try not to worry about her regretting it after because there's really nothing you can do about that, you can't see the future.

[GeminiHa]

Yup and don't feel pressured. If she feels upset about rejection , if ever, don't worry especially if she really cares about you. By the way why does she want it anyway? I'm just curious you don't need to answer this I just hope you know why. Hey if that may be your first time, your choice is just as important!

[yeneiri]

First of all, i salute you for being a true gentleman and lover. :) She's really lucky to have you. :) Just let her feel how much you really love her.. :) and then tell her how much you respect her that's why you are hesitant to do this things. :) explain to her the possible consequences once she gave it up to you. If she still wants it, and you really love her, why not? If it will make her happy then grant her wish. :)

[SomeStrangeGirl]

As long as there is love and attraction between you two you both should enjoy it. She wants you to be the special one she gives her virginity to. Trying it is the only way you two will know if you like it. Her love for you could also make her feel like she needs to please you. She doesn't want to let you down.

[mooky06]

Voice the concerns you’ve mentioned here with her. After that, find a solution from there. If she still insist on it, just wait. Tell her there’s plenty of time to do that with her, just not now

[Thia18]

If you feel like waiting, than wait. You should talk to her and tell her about these what ifs. You don’t want to be nervous about it, so do what you can to make you and her less scared.

[Thia18]

It’s never bad to wait tell marriage. And you need to do what you can so you don’t feel pressured. If she dumps you because you don’t wanna have sex with her, she isn’t worth your time. Get someone better.

[sean1234]

If you say no, not ready for sex yet and she breaks up with you, then she never loved you anyways. This is why people always got married first. If you are ready for sex you are ready for marriage.

[btbc92]

THANK YOU! Glad I wasn't the only one who said this! I say the same thing.

[sean1234]

@btbc92 MUA!! :kiss:

[airin42]

such a strange birthday's present a girl wants. but it depends on you then. forget about future's worries, if she knows she wants it to be happen with you, then you're special enough for her.

[RuthAnn1781]

She wants to do it with you and you guys love each other, she's not gonna regret it, don't worry about that. Just relax

[kaskas19]

Talk about your feelings with her. Just remember, the first time most of the time isn't going to be as good as you're hoping. It gets better the more experienced you are with it. Good luck!

[girlygirlyyes]

Go ahead.. but be sure to have safe sex... gud luck

[Matt-G]

Tell her exactly what you told us. You're posting a good example here.

[Anonymous]

if she says so why dont you do as she says. My friend gave her virginity to her childhood friend and they're still friends too. Of course be sure to make her comfortable. well if you really love her try and take her heart too. :V

[Anonymous]

Lol some random dude lost his virginity to me a night after a college party and he turned out juuuust fine the next day.👌

[kaskas19]

Some people value their virginity more than that though

[Danielleo]

can i lose mine to you?

[Wally48]

Sounds like you took good care of him. He'll remember you fondly the rest of his life. 👍

[jakeofalltrades]

you are thinking way to hard about this. she wants you to take it, so give her what she wants. make it special for her

[Anonymous]

Wait until she turns 18. Its painful to lose your virginity so you should wait

[Mahasamatman]

Not painful at all, if the guy knows what he is doing. And if she is secure enough that she wants it, not for the sake of sex but for the sake of making love for the first time with someone she loves.

[Opinion Owner]

@Mahasamatman how do know of its painful or not. You aren't a girl who has list her virginity. So you don't know shit. And as right now I changed my opinion. You shouldn't have sex with her at all. You don't deserve it if you can't think about her first

[bente2]

Just do it man.

[GayHowellMeme]

Take it off.

[Anonymous]

Don't take it