Why do I constantly crave hugs?

[Katmac]

I constantly feel the need for hugs and physical contact and I don’t know why. No one in my family is like this and I’m concerned slightly. I cannot go day today without some sort of physical contact or reassurance through touch. I don’t think it’s from being touch starved unless there’s something with my brain that makes me more prone to that. Any ideas?

[markscott]

Needing a hug each day, or a couple of hugs each day, is not excessive at all. We need touch to be emotionally healthy and to feel connected. Some people simply need more touch than do others. That no one in our family is like this, as you say, makes it more difficult for you, as you likely don't get much hugging from you family to fill your needs, so you look elsewhere. You likely just have a different personality type than does anyone else in your family. That not a fault, just a difference.

[Katmac]

This is the most in depth response on here. This makes me feel a lot better so thank you! I really appreciate the explanation. It’s also possible that because no one else in my family is touchy freely makes my tendencies Stand out even more. ☺️

[markscott]

Katmac: Yes, as you say, being as no one else in your family is touchy feely, it makes you stand out more. In a more physically demonstrative family, you would be just like everyone else.

[Adonis_pl]

I don't think you should be too worried about it. Maybe you enjoy the warmth, or you enjoy the intimacy it provides. In either case its ok crave hugs. They cause serotonin (happy sauce) to be released in your body, so its actually a pretty healthy craving

[Katmac]

I’m only ever going I call serotonin “happy sauce” now😂😂😂

[Adonis_pl]

😂 yeah, I study psychology and found that it apparently has a more saucy consistency. So, happy sauce is actually how I referred to it in some essays and exams and the professors were like "i mean, you're not wrong"

[Katmac]

THAT IS THE BEST THING I've EVER HEARD

[lexythelou22]

I felt that way for a long time. My family didn't hug, kiss, or even share emotions, so I learned not to interact with people in that way. I avoided people most of the time, but I found a small group of friends who were very loving and I started to crave the affection I hadn't been getting before.

[Katmac]

My mom is a victim of domestic abuse so she doesn’t enjoy being touched or hugged a lot and none of my siblings live with us anymore so that’s pretty similar to my situation right now. Thanks!

[lexythelou22]

You're probably just craving the affection, because that's something a lot of people need to maintain a healthy mind. I'd say just try to show affection when you can and you'll receive it in return :)

[Katmac]

Thanks! I’ll keep on trying! Have a good day ☺️

[kaskas19]

It all boils down to craving intimacy. Nothing is wrong with you :) I am the same way. I rarely get hugs, but when I do I end up hugging them for too long like an idiot 🤦

[viralsun]

Nothing wrong with that, being tactile is a perfectly normal way to express emotional happiness, may have to do with a desire to feel protected or relate to your parents being huggy

[Katmac]

On the note of being protected- heck yeah. I love when tall people hug me because when they just wrap themselves around me I feel so safe and content? So yeah I think that’s it! My family hate physical contact though 😭😭

[Goochbreaker]

stop eating sugar, watch your body transform into a sex goddess, then be as picky as you can when choosing a perfect boyfriend and have unlimited hugs and love for life :)

[Katmac]

Good idea but I’m already gorgeous and addicted to sugar🤤🤤

[Goochbreaker]

if ur addicted to sugar you will never be the best that you can be, sugar is a terrible drug pushed on us from a young age, get off it

[Katmac]

True, I am trying to get healthier. Started yoga and cutting sugar out of some things but my blood sugar drops easy so I need to have some stuff with it to keep me up and on my feet.

[Goochbreaker]

if your blood sugar drops easy you have all the more reason to cut sugar in general, not all at once. Try juice with natural fructose like ceres, something with no added sugar. Basically just don't have things with added sugar ever if you can avoid it. Get your cardio up with running or biking preferably running and you will become bruce lee

[Katmac]

I’ll try that! Thanks for the tips!!

[DawnFluffes]

Hug your Pillow... Hug The Tree... Hug the Ground... Get a pet (Dog or Cat... But I like Chickens) And Hug It

[Katmac]

Omg your reply made me laugh so hard! I do😂😂 I’m clumsy so I hug the ground a lot 😭😭

[DawnFluffes]

Well... I hug my pillow or The Chicken (Even though it still pecks me)... I would hug a person... but i dont have the energy to do stressful things nor do I have a person to hug on (cant really hug my little cousins... dont want trouble)

[Katmac]

I hug my pillow as well and my cat 🐈. I wish my fam lived closer so I could hug my nephews and nieces.

[DawnFluffes]

Hahaha... Gotta Hug 'em all? Well.. that's cute

[Katmac]

Pokémon but it’s an adventure for hugs. Gotta hug em all 🎶

[DawnFluffes]

Ohh~ Your my best friend... in the world we must defend... You teach me and I teach you... Pokemon~... Gotta hug em all... Pokemon... Sorry , Childhood thingy that's still stuck with me till now

[Katmac]

Ah it’s fine! Had me laughing 😂

[DawnFluffes]

Anyways... Its Fine if you want hug... its harmless... tho some people may find that cute for some reasons

[Katmac]

I’ll take all the extra points I can get😊🙏🏻

[Steffen]

I have the same thing, and it's probably because of some simple hormonal stuff (suppressed oxitocine, idk). Nothing to worry about, just a bit annoying if you can't get the need filled

[GTown]

Maybe you just a more emotional person. Everyone wants to feel a sense of belonging. Don't stress about it

[SovietBall]

Same here...

That's why I never sleep without hugging my pillow tightly between my arms

[Katmac]

May you find something to hug you back!

[Anonymous]

You might want to see a psychiatrist or psychologist if you TRULY cannot go a day without "reassurance through touch. That sounds like an addiction.

[Katmac]

I might, thanks for the help man. ☺️

[aiden0099]

Because hugging has been doing out to get out sexual feelings weather u hug a girl or guy they say it is better to sleep with a stuffed bare so you exert these feelings at night to the bear rather than people

[Dinnye001]

You are a "touching" type of person. Nothing wrong there. :) I have a friend like this. I grew to like hugging her :)

[Katmac]

Yeah man!! 👌🏻👌🏻

[Dinnye001]

And everyone is baffled that I hug her every time we meet. Because I am really not the touching type.

[Katmac]

That gives me so much hope😭😭 none of my friends like physical contact and I’m a leech for it😂😂

[Dinnye001]

Yeah. The hugleech xD they will start accepting it when you guys get older. I learned not to fight it. Then I grew to like it. I mean if that is what makes her happy...

At first I thought she was after my heat (I produce a LOT) on cold winter days though xD

[Katmac]

I need a heater in the form of a big person. I have really bad circulation and my hands and feet are constantly blue because I’m THAT cold. Helps that I was born in Florida as well and now I live up north 😭😭

[Dinnye001]

Are you short as well?

My previous girlfriend practically used me as a giant furnace xDshe was lucky I took cold feet to my warm back that well. I evwn learned not to do womanly screams in a few months xD

[Katmac]

I’m still growing after stopping for like three years. Currently almost 5’6” but my bio father was like 6’2” so even though my mom is 5’2” I’m still a lot taller.

[Auctor]

LOL maybe you just like touching people

[Katmac]

Maybe haha I don't know though because I crave it. Like how when you’re hungry you feel the need to find food? When I’m not being hugged or touched I crave it and seek it out constantly?

[JayLiche]

You’re a hug thief

[Katmac]

Definitely 👹

[TwerkSome4me]

Hit up your bestie and ask her to give you hugs.

[Katmac]

She hates hugs😭😭

[Con_S]

You just in need of some attention, care and love.

[houloulou]

I dont know but I feel the same

[whynot12]

might be turning into a ho

[kaskas19]

How tf do you turn into a hoe from hugging someone?

[Katmac]

This made me laugh so much? I am the biggest prude you will ever meet 😂😂 I won’t even wear a bathing suit in front of people unless it covers a lot of me and I’ve never even held a guys hand 😂😂 I’m crying from laughter rn 😂😂

[Goochbreaker]

HAHAHAH obvious troll is obvious but funny

[Goochbreaker]

@kaskas19 im not sure he's entirely serious

[misterawesome]

Because you're a physical person. Wanna hug lol

[disasterdrills]

maybe your needing to touched ;)

[DanFlingwing]

i dont know