When girls post a lot on social media, do they come off as needy or seeking validation?

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CubsterShura · Accepted Answer

I upload a lot of selfies. Not anything else cause I suck at photography and just can't keep up with an aesthetic feed. 😂 I like makeup and fashion so many of my pics are me in cute dresses, taken in bright natural lighting. I barely edit/filter my pictures. My feed is all about just a typical girl who loves dressing up. 👗👜👟💄👒 I love to upload pictures that highlight a particular accessory or just the dress.

I never thought of my purpose of uploading my pics so deeply. I wear loose modest clothes. I remain very careful so my body shape or excess skin isn't showing. If I wanted validation from others I could have uploaded the mirror selfies that I take when I'm at the gym and get tons of comments about my legs and booty. I could have uploaded pics of me in yoga poses but I prefer not to display my body. 😂🍑

Isn't it literally the point of using Instagram, getting more followers and likes? It is not something that is my top priority, but it is something that I just enjoy!

I'm a loner in school. Almost no friends, mostly sitting alone reading a book. I know social media won't change my sociability in real life. So I don't seek anything of that sort.

One more thing that I didn't expect was having my insecurities decreased. I barely edit my pictures, so in my no-makeup pictures I have my acne and vitiligo showing. Yet I get a lot of likes and comments on them and it made me realize that people don't care about the things that concern me the most. You might be saying that I actually asked for validation by my pics, but I got it without asking for it, and I'm honestly grateful. Editing is unnecessary.

So really, don't sweat your head off for why people upload selfies so much. Some of us simply enjoy it for no particular reason or purpose.

courtney06 · Accepted Answer

Seeing all the comments here from guy's perspective, this is exactly why I avoided posting too many selfies for a long time. I used to post a lot of selfies and then stopped for a few years because I was so afraid of people thinking I was full of myself, coming off as insecure, or have nothing better to do other than seek attention. However, I recently learned that it's okay to love attention while also learning to love yourself! We're human beings, it feels good be noticed and receive compliments! If someone thinks I'm insecure just because I have a few selfies... oh well... people are gonna think what they want. Honestly, everyone has insecurities. I try not to overdo it though, there are some people who only and always post selfies and I personally find that annoying.

I like to add some variety to my photos so I'll have scenery photos, pictures of themselves taken by others, pictures with friends, a few selfies here and there, cat photos, quotes, etc.

splashofyellow · Accepted Answer

I don't think this is limited to women. Posting a lot on social media is a clear sign of needing attention. But we all crave attention. Most of us, at least. I wouldn't completely condemn that as stupid. I've read about a study that found getting those likes and comments to reduce stress hormones and increase oxytocin levels. Apparently our brain can't tell the difference between "real" and virtual interactions.

What comes to pictures, though, that I've never understood. Most people look exactly the same in all of their pictures. What's the point of posting pictures with little variation over and over again? Maybe they've just figured out it's the best way to get likes.

lumos · Accepted Answer

On facebook, yes. But not on instagram for example, because I consider insta to be a platform where it’s pretty normal to post things almost daily. Facebook, not so much. At least not for the people around me. The norm seems to be to update like once a month, if even that lol. So if someone was spamming on facebook, I’d probably be like ”geez calm down”.
I guess it sort of also depends on what you post. If 99% of your content is just selfies and cringy poses, then I’d be thinking it’s for validation. But if you post a lot about other things, then it’s fine to have the occasional selfie.
I think this applies to anyone though, and not just girls.

That-Guy · Accepted Answer

Well.. yes but i don't think it's as negative as others make it out to be.

Attention WHORE, Why Do you seek so many people's APPROVAL? Fucking dumb bitch, get a brain.

- Alright.. lets crank it back a second. Who doesn't like attention, compliments and people interested in YOU.
-- Okay, sure.. there are outliers however... if i made a post and all of a sudden i got all sorts of positive attention and re-enforcement... i'd probably continue my behavior because it makes me feel good.. I then develop a taste or routine in this activity. Why not? am i hurting anyone? will my need for this attention/validation stop? Maybe... but i can't say that if i ever feel down and simply posting a picture lead to 50+ women complimenting my looks or whatever the heck? shit.. i'd probably be doing the same.

but.. i am a guy, and like most guys.. nothing happens for us. Only women way older who know "it's safe to compliment him because he won't harass me" as we know.. women complimenting a guy = him stalking her (jk).

Anyways.. i get how the behavior starts and hard to stop but.. on social media.. if you are just some chicks i friended because you are attractive and you want to whore out.. go nuts.

i1T2daty · Accepted Answer

Whoever that pic is doesn’t come off. As anything besides a) scorching, arousingly hot and b);someone who I would use everything in my bag of tricks to go home with. m

Needy is when your own self esteem, tastes in music, fashion, politics, spiritual persuasion is adapted to that of the other party in order to stay relevant to him/her. If your senseless f self worth is srong enough to stay individualized regardless of what group or person you are with.

A huge quandary for men is this: they are attracted to you as a person who is mysterious and new. If they reach the stage where they think you are “theirs”, they often try to make you have the same opinions about subjects that they have. Many people succumb to this consciously or not. All of a sudden you are not an exotic, mysterious, other that he is trying to seduce but almost a copy of him in every way except anatomically. This may lead to long term security but it also is the nd of the button popping, pan tie ripping need for see, anywhere anytime and the beginning of that passionately seductive phrase, “honey, do you want to fool around”

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Yes... attention whoring is the thought that comes to mind. Those thirst trap pictures along with a quote of something mundane that has nothing to do with why so many guys are hitting the like button.

It has a kind of pathetic look when it's your sisters are doing it. Only one of my sisters was doing it in a way that made money (fitness model), which seemed a bit more dignified... until she pitched her protein whatever powders to me trying to make a sale.

I eat eggs and drink milk. Don't have time for powders.

lightraid51s · Answer

It's an awful cancerous mind set to be in, to think only about yourself. Literally spending hours taking images of yourself then spending the rest of the time thinking where you can take your next photo. People filming themselves adjusting their hair, filming themselves singing into the camera. It's a condition called narcissism. These people feel worthless without a constant flow of likes and comments and followers. This gives them social standing as popular but without this they literally are worthless people. They become sex objects and the older they get the more their looks fade, the more desperate they become so in comes the surgery. It's a disease.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

Bad parenting, this is simple because every single person need some attention in different phases, the parent attention is most important because that's all the morals and respect comes from and where if the parents are ignorant and respectless guess how their kids turn out? The seek attention from other people and now it is very easy to get attention on media and that's where they get the good feeling, people like me, they write good things to me and how attractive i am and so on. It's all about attention (my opinion)

BrittBratt2416 · Answer

Guy think this way but honestly some people just like taking pictures. It's a hobby, kinda like how guys like to sit around and play video games.. some girls just like to take pictures. It doesn't necessarily mean that girl is needy or seeking validation, it's just joining in on what others do. Like tumblr, I post pictures/story but it's within the gaming community. I like doing this cause it's with others who have the same interest/hobby.

IcyLemonade · Answer

Partly, yes. They come off as self absorbed and a bit needy. I don't understand why people feel the need to document every detail of their life. I stopped going on social media for that very reason. I dont care.

And honestly I will never take fb rants seriously. The amount of grammatical errors on social media and just plain old media regurgitations is enough to make me sick.

Bananaman177 · Answer

Yes, absolutely.

I automatically assume that the more active a girl is on social media, the more she's likely to cheat in relationships, and downvote me all you want ladies, but most men feel the same way. If you're wondering why men treat you like a hook-up instead of a girlfriend, well now you know.

Alice2398 · Answer

Hell yes! especially when they say things like "had a really bad day today😞" and someone replies by saying "what's wrong" and the say "don't want to talk about it" , it's like they don't realise no one cares and everyone else has problems too but keep it off social media because they don't need people who are practically stranger's for validation and attention to make them feel special and over feed their ego. It's very sad when you think about it and we should feel sorry for them really.

freakyzeaky · Answer

If it is mostly selfies and live videos, then yes. If they are legit images of her travels, with her friends, at parties, at social events, concerts... basically pics of experiences, then that is fine.

I also know some chicks who constantly post motivational and "sassy" quotes, and that gets annoying too.

Pinay_ako · Answer

Can it be they just want to post whatever tf they want without being questioned what their motives are? lol Unless they post almost naked pics of them all the time and posting about their drama online then yes that's needy and screaming for attention. thirsty

Shortie75 · Answer

I have this lady on Facebook who will regularly change her profile pic. One minute it’s of her kids then low and behold it’s of her giving the trout pout. She does this several times a month. After a while it’s grated on me. Difinetly seeking validation

estoydorado1 · Answer

Depends on what they post. If they post almost completely naked or a really expensive flashy lifestyle (although people who know them know that they're broke and struggling) it gives the impression that they're fronting for a bunch of strangers "on the gram".

amarahorrorstory · Answer

I don't really give a fuck honestly and you shouldn't either. Post what you want. I get so tired of seeing people trying to diagnose a girl through the internet just for posting a picture of herself, meanwhile their page is blank. If they think lowly of you for that, you can discard their opinions.

itsjustlife75 · Answer

They're probably just trying to keep up and I guess it depends on the post. If it's something like in a club or all dressed up then yes it's for validation - they wanna see how many likes they can get and who likes it. If it's something like pictures with family, sunset, dogs etc it's generally just because they like the picture/what they see and either just wanna share it or think it'll make a good post. But most of the time they just like the picture.

Compodulator · Answer

Depends on the content. Is it lewd selfies? Yeah, drop that and run.
Is it just random life moments, like, say, a foodie that takes fifty photos of the recent roast beef they had two hours ago? Somewhat irritating but not unreasonable.
Personally, I don't think I could tolerate a food, but I also never tried either.
Is it venting? Meh, not unreasonable.

atishsar · Answer

Few months ago when I had IG account I was just like those girls, but I deleted it to distance myself from a thing that had few advantages for me but took a lot of time
The reason I posted many stories and posts was loneliness and forgetting about my real life problems, not seeking attention or show off, I rarely post selfies.

NovaByte · Answer

Comes across Unattractive AF.
It screams you're after attention, and you'll take it from anyone. It also says you have no life. Someone who barely posts pics is way more attractive to me because it shows she enjoys the moment, that she's busy actually doing shit, she has hobbies and she prioritises other things over spending 5+ mins to get a good selfie.

meowcow · Answer

Yes, but there's an equal number of men that act the same way, so they are made for each other. Unfortunately, men and women with social media addictions are not relationship material. And by that, I mean for their entire lives. They are so self-absorbed, that they lack any decent quality of character.

Sur_Superior · Answer

First off, OMG THAT HAIR! Second, no. Girls who post a lot on social media just means they have too much free time. Anyone who decides to over think it, then maybe they could come off as seeking validation. But more often than not, they're fine with their body and validation isn't really something they need. They have a life, so do you

Havengul · Answer

Yes but at the same time it also depends on how she goes about it. What i find most annoying is people who want to take photos for social media instead of just enjoying the moment, because they seem to care more about what others think of their activites over what they and the people around them think.

FutureTrunks · Answer

ISocial media, especially Instagram is kind of meant for validation purposes. Nobody posts a picture online hoping nobody sees it and doesn’t like it so with that being said, to a certain extent... everybody who regularly post pictures are seeking validation

Bliss-taylor · Answer

Yes, most of the time. Unless they have a life. Like posting their adventures. Even if they're in it. That doesn't make me think needy or needing validation. But a ton of bedroom/bathroom/car/etc photos of different expressions and duckface. Yeah its just wanting attention in my book.

martsa · Answer

I think it really depends. I had a classmate who posted new pics everyday and changed her profile pic multiple times in a day (I don't know if she is doing it anymore). I have to admit that it was little bit annoying but I can't say that she was looking attention.

findingdreamland-1 · Answer

We are living a very crazy internet world. I think a girl who does not post and have any social account , is seen as awkard. Crazy right? !
I was dating a guy. And he asked my instagram account. I said i am not comfortable. He said i am weird :)

red324 · Answer

These are girls that have nothing better to do with their time and just want the attention. Let's use my Facebook friends count as an example and the reason why I never bothered getting a Twitter account. I have probably 50 guy friends on there and the 150 girls added and I probably know 10 of those girls. Yes they accept my friend request even though they don't know me. To me it's just one big joke.

daisyriddle · Answer

I post a lot and I’m private and I’m the only one person who can see it, snd many of my friends has admitted to having that as well, so I don’t think it has to be any of those. I've written a whole essay on this, and I came to the conclusion that it’s often about seeking validation

Xiaoo · Answer

Some do look for validation, but I think it's more about the attention it could get more than anything else. It's like appearing on a famous Youtuber's channel, you're not looking to be validated, you just want the feeling that people are looking at you.

ohayoo · Answer

Id say it depends on what they post, if all what they post are revealing selfies of them where they ate obviously trying to impress others and get their approval then yeah, but if they post a lot about what its going on on their life or random moments and still post selfies its fine in my opinion and i guess it includes boys too

Adam_INTJ · Answer

Needy for sure; nobody cares about what you ate for lunch, your new bikini, your dog, or any of your life really; only weddings, birthdays, babies, funerals, and holidays. If a girl posts beyond that, she comes off as self absorped or wanting attention because she doesn't feel noticed.

crazy8000 · Answer

Depends on what it is.
Can give a list what reasons it can be.

1. Atantion
2. Validation
3. Insecure
4. Addiction
5. Try to be one in the bunch
6. Think your gonna fill the empty void inside
7. Do the opposite what is suspected of you
8. Show you live a awesome life when you aren't
9. Live a life for other's
10. Create a illusion

Most of the times it has to to with not feeling so good on the inside (mental issues).

MichaelEllwoodJ · Answer

Not from what I've seen. I only have one friend on Facebook who posts a lot of pictures of herself, and she doesn't seem needy. She has a boyfriend. Girls can post pictures of themselves for a variety of reasons. Maybe they are visiting somewhere new and giving everyone a tour of the place with pictures. One of my females friends posted pictures of herself in Greece on Facebook.

Bear41 · Answer

Well that depends on what she is doing if it is just different places she has been or things she has seen she is just sharing her life. Now if it is sexual, Seductive and different clothes she changing her clothes often then it is not hard to see she is seeking validation of her looks, sexuality, and is coming off needy for attention. Have some private life it is Ok to be single. If it is she is just changing outfits and cute poses she seams to be seeking Validation.

Anonymous · Answer

A lot do. The ones who want attention post constantly pictures of their body. Now I post photography pictures of the moon, nature settings and beautiful rain pictures. None of my pictures have my body or face in them.
Honestly I think it is sick they spend hours taking pictures of their body... a bit narcissistic

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say it depends, i think a lot of girls are looking for valuation through social media but at the end of the day social media isn't who makes them who they are. It's sad a lot of people not just girls live a social media life & they're on it day & night. There's so much more to life.

OtakuJiraiya420760 · Answer

Comes off as pretentious, actually. If they post memes and funny shit, it comes off more human and quirky. If they post more selfies and make up tutorial links, it screams, "I know I'm beautiful but I just need 20,000 comments to reassure me."

Justacatlady · Answer

Depends on the post. If it's constant selfies and status updates like: I'm so angry!! or I can't believe this happened to me! Those are just fishing expeditions so people will ask what.

Rargueta · Answer

Come as insecure. Or someone that needs to show to the world that they are enjoying life and to leave a mark that they did so much so that when they get old, they can look back and say, "I was awesome!". Then, these girls don't realize that social media "Likes" and "Followers" doesn't translate into people actually caring what you do.

YoungManTryin · Answer

Depends on what they post. If half of it is goFundMe's for some random local kid's medical bill with a starting donation by her of 10$, I'd think that's sweet, and that I'm not doing enough with my life.

Professor_Zoom · Answer

Yes and no. No because that is just the culture today. Yes because who doesn't like flattering comments? If you're getting comments that you're cute, or hot af or whatever, that's going to boost your ego and self esteem.

heartbeatsflowers · Answer

It depends. I post it to express myself. Selfies is a form of art in my opinion. But when someone constantly takes selfies and posts it then I'm sure it is for attention. Most of the time it's just confidence.

silvermoon84 · Answer

Sometimes but not necessarily. It depends on the girl really. I post a lot on social media, but I just post jokes, memes or whatever I happen to be thinking at the moment. If people like what I have to say that's great, but if not who cares lol

Jamie1865 · Answer

IMHO seeking attention and validation. Women who keep posting selfies so all their other female mates can tell them how gorgeous they are don't last long on my timeline! Blatant narcissism.

siempreparaiso · Answer

Hell! Ya!! Needy and validation and may be more... I know by own knowledge, and same goes for the guts side too... so we are all equal; I think anyways ☺

InTimoreDei · Answer

They're the worst kind of girls. Always attached to their phones, posting dumb needless selfies 24/7. I saw 4 girls "hanging out" at a cafe and, instead of actually talking to each other, they were all glued to their phones in silence... pathetic...

skel47 · Answer

Yes they do. But depending o what they post no. If its all selfies then yes. If its them doing things then no.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

It depends on the content.

If they are very adventurous and travel a lot and post pictures of all the cool places they travel too.

But if they post a lot and it’s selfies and body shots then yes. They are definitely attention seekers

djmzes · Answer

Yes they do without knowing it and most of them will deny it cuz you have to realise it by urself first.  And it also subconciously make you feel worst

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Psych-O-Derick · Answer

Depends on what they're posting. Try using the back facing camera every once in a while and maybe upload something that's not focused around yourself from time to time. Then you could upload as much as you like. Personally I think the key is to strive for quality over quantity.

g_peresilva · Answer

I hate it when girls post the same photos with the same pose and the same snapchat filters and the same faces made (especially if they never smile in a photo). It gets really annoying after a bit

cheriya · Answer

I think both honestly. But probably leaning more towards the validation side. Or they just do it because they like social media, etc. But if I were to choose, I’m going with validation.

phill5158 · Answer

I don't think so at all, it is not the case in every single girl. I mean there is no harm in showing your life to friends/family and the world, if that is what you want to do then that is fine.

VegetaSSB · Answer

yep, and not just girls, boys too, everyone posting tons of things in social media are just attention seekers and majoriy of time going after validation.

jessicanic · Answer

If it is constant provocative selfies, body photos then I would say yes but I'm not one to judge I personally am very private with what I share on my public social medias

Prof_Don · Answer

Honestly yes, comes off as very insecure and seeking approval from complete strangers to artificially inflate their self-esteem.

ObliviousJester · Answer

It kinda comes across as needy, but more off it shows that you care more about the opinions of complete strangers rather than those closer to you.

yodaiam · Answer

Absolutely. Without a doubt. That is exactly what they are doing whether they admit it or not. I always tell guys stay away from girls who have social media presence.

secretgirlxx · Answer

I think girls who post pictures want validation in some sense. They want to feel beautiful and I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.

KnightCross · Answer

i never view that neither as needy nor as seeking validation. it seems some girls are just being jealous of other pretty girls who do that

aaaae2e · Answer

err-ya-no... or maybe that they got nothing to do and their day is just boring. I like to spend most of my time on social media, etc. I would have ended my life without them xD

p1235 · Answer

In my eyes: Yes. Especially if the pictures are always selfies/belfies similar to each other without other actual content than her body.

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