There are lots of reasons, but this is the one I have both experienced and witnessed.
When a long term relationship ends there's a solid chance that she has been feeling neglected for a long time since guys often become distant well before the relationship ends. This really does a number on a girl's self esteem because since their boyfriend isn't interested in her, then in her mind no one could be interested in her.
Except this isn't true. They'll break up and she'll start going out with friends again and guys will start hitting on her, possibly even guys who she thought were out of her league if she's young and this was only her first or second relationship that ended. Especially if she had only had sex with boyfriends before, she probably doesn't view her rebound as a hookup and will actually have feelings for the guy, but since he was just interested in a hookup and thought she understood that (or didn't if he's just actually a dick) he'll bail and ghost her and she'll feel like crap again.
The number of guys isn't necessarily because she WANTS to have sex with a bunch of different guys, but because guys don't talk to her again after they have sex with her. It takes a little while for young women to accept that, while it's not ethical or fair, a lot of guys, especially younger guys will write you off after you have sex with them. Those same guys might also write you off if you don't have sex with them. If any of those guys she had slept with had wanted a relationship, she probably would've wanted one. This is especially hard if the girl in question had only had sex with guys she was in love with before that. This could easily lead to the situation where even though she was only with one guy for the past few years, she had sex most days of the week for years. Now, she's had sex about 20 times the entire year, but with 17 different guys since most never talked to her again, but she's stuck with being a "slut" for having sex with that many guys even though it wasn't really her choice. She just wanted to feel loved and appreciated again.
Guys usually start to understand this and stop judging girls this way around age 26-30 I've noticed. If you start realizing that ahead of time then you'll be the most popular guy your age around lol.
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I think it happens with both genders when there’s a lot of pent up rage, sadness, and/or an overall feeling of worthlessness. There may just be a bunch of “why?”s leftover from their ex and I think they just want to forget and feel better or even loved. Sometimes they may just want to make their ex jealous.
You play nice and still get burned. Some people get tired of it and lose faith in love and meaningful relationships. This "hoe" phase as you describe is just her trying to move on. Stupid yes, but males and females are guilty of such
I'm guessing it is because she wants to feel loved again and given the same attention that her ex had given her.
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Or they don't... I was celibate before my last relationship and after. Generally if people give someone their all and the person didn't give a damn though they switch paths and try something else.
Rebound. It’s not a slut phase.. They don’t want anything serious just want to move on and have physical contact.
Rebound. Guys do it too
That's a way to forget everything.
Honestly I don't know my ex did the same thing
They have to fill the emptiness somehow
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