Is She Flirting Or Just Being Nice?

[pezzonovante88]

There is a girl at work who I've known for probably three years. She was a receptionist but now works in admin. She is VERY gorgeous - the kind of gorgeous that woman and men will just say to each other, "wow, that is a gorgeous person". Anyway, whenever I would pass by her, or whatever, we'd just say the typical 'work' hello's, but not much more. I tried to talk to her at a few points and she was friendly but seemed quite uninterested in the convo. Anyway, for the last few months since she started her new position and I joined the company full-time, she has been very sweet and friendly to me. She smiles at me and sort of stares (lots of eye contact), she initiates conversations with me quite often. Today she told me she was surprised to find out that I was only 22 because I act quite a lot older and that that's a good thing (she's 23). Anyway, this semi-sudden change of behavior has caught my attention and I'm hesitant to act on it in case she's just being friendly. Her last boyfriend who worked in the same company was a semi-player, cocky stud, and she left him mainly because of those reasons. So, maybe she's seen something in me, as a 'nice guy,' that has her interested. I wonder if she likes me? Any input would be great. Thanks!

[Asailum]

if your not sure, its just friendliness. If a girl likes you, she's going to give you signals which are pretty obvious and if you don't pick up on them shell eventually lose interest in you in that kind of way.

No offense but, your reading into things the way females often do. There is nothing in what you said that shows she likes you. If you said something like "she brushes up against me slowly all the time" or "she giggles and is shy around me and smiles a lot" then that would be some more likely she likes you type signals. Right now she's just being friendly.

Also, in general girls aren't going to be attracted to you if you are always in doubt and wondering instead of finding out. It would take about 2 seconds to find out if she likes you if you were direct and just brought it up one day, but you've been too afraid to do that. Girls like guys with balls, not wimps who sit around worrying if she likes him back or not!

[Brando]

I'd say be careful with workplace crushes and stuff like that. But definitely keep talking to her whenever you see her at work. Also drop some subtle flirts on her and see how she responds, you know test the water. If she either responds back with something or doesn't seem to mind it then up the flirt just a little bit, nothing drastic. Keep it up with her (no pun intended) and hopefully she'll respond with flirts of her own and you can try making a move on her and asking her for a date.

[rose21]

It sounds to me like she likes you but is hesitant because of the last relationship. I would suggest getting into really long conversations and finding out more about her. Ask what she likes to do outside of work, then during one of your nice conversations ask her if she would like to have dinner with you. Or if you found out a particular activity she likes to do ask her if she would like to do that with you. That way it shows you both heard her and remembered what she likes. It would also tell her you want to do something that would make her happy rather then just a normal first date dinner. ( if you go with asking her to do a particular activity she likes I also suggest waiting a day after she told you she likes it, then ask her to do it with you. If you ask her the day she told you you loose the whole he remembered thing.) good luck

[superwoman]

contrary to popular believe, and you probably don't want to hear this. She might be just being nice. I would do that if I just joined a company full time, and I want to make sure I have a good net work of people. it's always easier when you have people supporting you and like you at work. maybe observe if she has the same conversation and attitude towards other guys at work.

but you're kinda cute so she might have a thing for you, but I'm make sure she doesn't do the same to other people too.

[gilthoniel]

Since she's smiling and looking at you a lot and making conversation, it sounds like she is interested. It sounds like she wants to learn more about you and get to know you better. A word of warning though, she may be interested in just being friends with you but she may be interested in more.

[LaLaJ]

I think that she is interested,but she is affraid to jump back into a relationship because she is affraid of getting hurt again. Just continue to be sweet and she will come around. She seems like she just wants to make sure you are different from the cocky stud.

[Anonymous]

I think there's a big possibility that she is interested in you. She's smiling and making lots of eye contact which is usually what girls will do when they're interested in a guy. It looks like all the signs are there, I'd say she is very much interested.

[Inthemightyjungle]

What do you have to lose? If you like her, ask her out.. Don't worry about it, if she is that freindly to you and intiated convos all of the time, she probably like you. You only live once, try not to fear the rejection.

[chattyally100]

Aw. It sounds like she might have a thing for you. If she smiles at you a lot, seeing you must make her happy and girls only sort of stare at guys that they want to learn something more about. She may not be totally hooked,but she seems interested. Also, if she talks to you often, then that's a sign that she wants to know more about you and wants to get closer to you. :)

[pidgeon]

It sounds like she may like you. You should ask her out to dinner or a movie sometime, but don't say its a date. Get closer to her.

[notapoodle]

I would just ask if she wants to go out for a drink...forget the last guy.

[Anonymous]

Try flirting with her, and casually say that you two should hang out sometime but do not choose an actaul date. This way you can see how she responds, if she's interested then hopefully she will bring it up later and ask when you are free.