Well, it's like how some guys become jerks and assholes to girls they like. And I think most women would avoid a guy cause they don't wanna talk to him, doesn't feel comfortable around him, he's annoying, etc. So maybe you're just getting the wrong signs. But if that actually happens, probably cause they're so shy and like that guy a lot that they can't hold up a conversation without embarrassing themselves, which would be to save themselves from embarrassment.
Well can't blame them, that's cute anyways lol, just kidding. Well I don't see anything wrong with that, It's just because they have some feeling for that guy that they'll actually not talk to him maybe cuz they won't be able to act normally with respect to guy and won't wish to look weird so in another hand, it's just an auto-defence behavior.
I do, for one. I ignored my crush as much as I could in 9th grade. Whenever he would look at me, I’d look away. If he would talk to me I’d answer as short answers as possible.
Had a girl at work like this years ago, everyone at work was generally friendly but she wouldn't even say hello to me when I said it first. I think I got her to smile once in the 9 months I was there.
I ended up just singing She Hates Me by Puddle of Mudd whenever she was around lol
I hold back but I don’t ignore them... like I’ll act more reserved. But that’s also because I’m looking for confident men and the subtle flirtation is 👌🏻😍 It’s fun and men do enjoy the chase
Personally, I don't really go after someone unless I know that it's possible for them to feel the same way. I'm more of a shy person with major anxiety & rejection isn't something I take lightly lol.
In my opinion, because they don't want to mess up or are afraid to say something stupid, but personally I don't have such thing, I just get really shy, that's all
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Yes even I also don't talk to the person I am attracted to until and unless he shows interest in talking to me. There was a case I had a crush on someone but accidentally he also had but he never spoke up so I never spoke up.
Treat him normally. Talk normally to him like you do with anybody else. Psychologically deciding you aren't gonna talk to him because you like only gives you away anyway. He's not gonna know you like him just from acting normal with him like with everybody else.
I thought she hated me... but lately she's been hitting me up on Skype telling me stuff about her life, stuff she does etc. Yeah same girl who called me a stalker and was mean and blocked me.
Dont know... it was all weird. Called me a stalker for liking her profile pic. Then any interaction (I try every now and then) and progressively got worse? Skype then Facebook block. Then avoiding me with the other co-workers
I was beside myself when she wrote. I'm like on God whats she want. You see before, she wouldn't be caught dead having anything at all to do with me. I'll give a few scenarios 1) everyone talking about something, I walk up or have a comment, she immediately leave or turn away and or only talk to the other people.(didnt use to do that) 2) id be at the break room table by the door, she walk in about trip and fall go out of her way to sit at another table (didnt use to do that either, we would always sit with each other during breaks) 3) same table situation, slamming water bottle or purse down right in front of me not saying anything getting something out of the vending machine turn around jerk the item up and leave. 4) getting up from group at lunch table she gets up first comes, stands next to me while talking to everyone
Yeah and i didn't do anything else different, i left her alone because i didn't wanna push it to far. I left for another dept within the company, she even wrote she applied for the same dept as me three different times
Hahahaha it's natural you had a crush on her you stare at her she found you creepy later she start knowing you and thought know I am comfortable with you. I also took time in knowing still in huge confusion. By the way congo you both are now together.
The mixed signals social easy going. Found out I was crushing on her got mad and avoidant. I was fine trying to be friends like it didn't ever happen talk like we used too. didn't happen, each attempt repulsed her more it seemed blocking etc. Then goes on exacly like thst for over a year and suddenly she's ok..
I doesn't know her about her about her situation so I just can't tell as a girl why she did so. In my case the guy gave me mixed signals so I never came up to him neither he. So I use to avoid him becoz I am not sure he really likes me or just want to have fun. He always showed he is scared to talk to me. His friends teases him a lot still he didn't come. I just hate mixed signals.
because a lot of them have been hurt and dont want it happening again because of giving to much confidence... soooo they just dont speak to theyr crushes to run off a situation that meens suffering.
To me, especially if they don't text/call back, she's not worth my time if it happens a lot and it will in fact make me more upset than anything. Sorry but I don't play games
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Personally, for me it was always low self-esteem. I felt like I wasn’t pretty enough so I never bothered.
Well, it's like how some guys become jerks and assholes to girls they like. And I think most women would avoid a guy cause they don't wanna talk to him, doesn't feel comfortable around him, he's annoying, etc. So maybe you're just getting the wrong signs. But if that actually happens, probably cause they're so shy and like that guy a lot that they can't hold up a conversation without embarrassing themselves, which would be to save themselves from embarrassment.
I don't know, but being shy throughout my life, that has been the major reason why I've never dated
It's being shy, scared for rejection, not wanting to ruin the friendship etc etc
Well can't blame them, that's cute anyways lol, just kidding. Well I don't see anything wrong with that, It's just because they have some feeling for that guy that they'll actually not talk to him maybe cuz they won't be able to act normally with respect to guy and won't wish to look weird so in another hand, it's just an auto-defence behavior.
I do, for one. I ignored my crush as much as I could in 9th grade. Whenever he would look at me, I’d look away. If he would talk to me I’d answer as short answers as possible.
Awwwh don't do that again right
Had a girl at work like this years ago, everyone at work was generally friendly but she wouldn't even say hello to me when I said it first. I think I got her to smile once in the 9 months I was there.
I ended up just singing She Hates Me by Puddle of Mudd whenever she was around lol
Cause I look like shit! Lol he like a curly hair cut3i
Because the girls are scared or are too arrogant to make first step
I think arrogance does play a big part in it, yeah.
I hold back but I don’t ignore them... like I’ll act more reserved.
But that’s also because I’m looking for confident men and the subtle flirtation is 👌🏻😍
It’s fun and men do enjoy the chase
Personally, I don't really go after someone unless I know that it's possible for them to feel the same way. I'm more of a shy person with major anxiety & rejection isn't something I take lightly lol.
In my opinion, because they don't want to mess up or are afraid to say something stupid, but personally I don't have such thing, I just get really shy, that's all
Yes even I also don't talk to the person I am attracted to until and unless he shows interest in talking to me.
There was a case I had a crush on someone but accidentally he also had but he never spoke up so I never spoke up.
That's just ridiculous.
What else should I do then go and make fool of myself. Until he confess how can I know he is really into me or just having fun.
Treat him normally. Talk normally to him like you do with anybody else. Psychologically deciding you aren't gonna talk to him because you like only gives you away anyway. He's not gonna know you like him just from acting normal with him like with everybody else.
He used to ran away when it comes to talk to me
I thought she hated me... but lately she's been hitting me up on Skype telling me stuff about her life, stuff she does etc. Yeah same girl who called me a stalker and was mean and blocked me.
@Darknut you mean she also like you back but pretending to be mean
Dont know... it was all weird. Called me a stalker for liking her profile pic. Then any interaction (I try every now and then) and progressively got worse? Skype then Facebook block. Then avoiding me with the other co-workers
Then after some time she's nice?
@Darknut maybe earlier she didn't like you in that way but now she started having feelings for you
I was beside myself when she wrote. I'm like on God whats she want. You see before, she wouldn't be caught dead having anything at all to do with me. I'll give a few scenarios 1) everyone talking about something, I walk up or have a comment, she immediately leave or turn away and or only talk to the other people.(didnt use to do that) 2) id be at the break room table by the door, she walk in about trip and fall go out of her way to sit at another table (didnt use to do that either, we would always sit with each other during breaks) 3) same table situation, slamming water bottle or purse down right in front of me not saying anything getting something out of the vending machine turn around jerk the item up and leave. 4) getting up from group at lunch table she gets up first comes, stands next to me while talking to everyone
And now she is comfortable with you . right?
Yeah and i didn't do anything else different, i left her alone because i didn't wanna push it to far. I left for another dept within the company, she even wrote she applied for the same dept as me three different times
And whatever that waa then, doesn't seem to matter? She unblocked, me... but she won't accept my request either so...
Hahahaha it's natural you had a crush on her you stare at her she found you creepy later she start knowing you and thought know I am comfortable with you.
I also took time in knowing still in huge confusion.
By the way congo you both are now together.
I'm sorry I don't follow?
What? whom?
Together yeah wishful thinking... haven't any contact in two months. I dont wanna bother her or be to needy
I don't follow what you write in your reply
Oops okay you both are again on break. Don't be sad if she feels something for you she will definitely come back
Ohh okay
I guess? I was terrified actually i might be working my last day every day lol.
Why do some women act mean and hateful to people that like them (first time its ever happened)
Ohh don't be sad @Darknut everything will be okay.
If you are pure by heart you definitely get someone like you who give you love like you give.
The mixed signals social easy going. Found out I was crushing on her got mad and avoidant. I was fine trying to be friends like it didn't ever happen talk like we used too. didn't happen, each attempt repulsed her more it seemed blocking etc. Then goes on exacly like thst for over a year and suddenly she's ok..
I doesn't know her about her about her situation so I just can't tell as a girl why she did so.
In my case the guy gave me mixed signals so I never came up to him neither he. So I use to avoid him becoz I am not sure he really likes me or just want to have fun. He always showed he is scared to talk to me. His friends teases him a lot still he didn't come.
I just hate mixed signals.
because a lot of them have been hurt and dont want it happening again because of giving to much confidence... soooo they just dont speak to theyr crushes to run off a situation that meens suffering.
That's not always the case
My crush is the person whom I talk with the most.
Afraid to give away their feelings/embarass themselves.
Not sure how to approach him, fear of rejection.
Well we might overcompensate. We want to talk to you a lot because we like you but we don’t want to be obvious about it.
To me, especially if they don't text/call back, she's not worth my time if it happens a lot and it will in fact make me more upset than anything. Sorry but I don't play games
Because im shy af and to avoid doing something embarrassing in front of them...
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