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Guys, is a girl chasing you considered a 'Turn off'? (Page 2)
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Depends , guys dont respect desperation but they love confidence.
So is chasing, considered "Desperation"?
Guys usually dont play hard to get, if he's interested you don't need to chase him. If he's not there is no point in chasing him
Yeah I believe guys don't play those types of mind games. And yeah I agree with you, if he liked a girl he would approach her without her doing anything...
It is fine. Sometimes we wouldn't know unless the girl chased us
You should be able to notice if she chased you, but wouldn't it be annoying or feel like she is "Desperate" to you?
Yeah it is... But only if its an average or above average girl... Not if its my crush
You wouldn't like to be chased by your crush? That's kind of strange, wouldn't you like it if she liked you back? Her chasing you means she likes you and is Inetersted in you...
But that lowers her value if it gets so easy
Lol but she's your crush, and you want her already... I think it should be the other way round...
Only if she is really hideous or has a terrible personality.
Lol R. I. P 😂😂
It's not a turn off but the problem is that every time it happens they're always physically unattractive.
Lol physically unattractive? So I assume you've been chased by a few girls, and they were all unattractive. So her chasing him isn't unnatractive, Just the girl doing the chasing is unnatractive?
Yes. The act of chasing isn't a turn off. It's how the girl looks. Everytime it happens it's someone unattractive. It's never anyone good looking. Rarely she'll be at least average. I don't mind average.
The thing is pretty girls are over confident and so full of themselves that they think they don't need a guy. Basically in their book whoever stays in their life stays, whoever wants to leave then she'll allow it. She wouldn't chase after him. They could basically be happy either way.
Women who are conventionally attractive and know they are have massive egos. They don't approach any guy because they have guys approaching them. They only approach guys who are out of their league which is going to be rare.
Yeah that's what usually happens, it's usually that guy in the corner that doesn't know what the fuss is all about when all these guys are after that one girl. It's usually the guy that's not Interested or isn't approaching her that she goes after...
No, but, where would it stop? I mean, at what point would he become "the man" in the relationship?
The chasing would eventually stop lol when she has won you're heart... is that alright with you? Or would you rather be the one to chase?😂😂
It's fun to chase
Oh okay, so you'd like doing the chase Instead? That's the original way...
Yeah
Bunch of baloney. It isn't true. It might be true in some cultures where there are more girls generally false. A good guy will always respect her girl I guess
Lol whut?
I meant he will not be turned off if a girl goes after her man
Oh okay...
Well, do it is the way you chase the guy is what counts. Give him signals but not show desperation. Signals like messaging him or talking to him. Or show interest in what he says.
Desperation will be like giving heart reacts all the time for no reason. Or surrounding yourself with boys
Lol surrounding ourselves with boys counts as desperation? What if we Just naturally have loads of friends that are guys?
No as if, it makes a lot easier tbh.
Lol so chasing us is work for you? I always thought that "Chasing" was the fun part that guys liked...
Well i don't and i think there are a lot of inscure guys who perfer women coming on to them
Oh okay, that's Interesting...
no but if i already don't like her, chasing me won't help her XD
😂😂 Would you avoid her even more if she was to chase you?
Only ugly girls chase guys because guys don't approach them
Hahahaha R. I. P 😂😂😭
Nope. But girls like that don’t exist.
Sad but true.
That's where you're wrong. I've heard loads of girls wanting to be so clingy with the guys they liked and even wanted to pursue and chase them. You Just need to open up you're eyes and look around properly. Because there ARE girls like that, that do exist. Almost every girl in the world wants to chase the guy, but fears doing that because she thinks he'll start avoiding her, will push him away by doing so and will see her as "Desperate". And that's the opposite of what she wants.
So that's the real reason you don't see girls chasing at all (To avoid pushing the guy away from her, or scaring him off). But girls DO want to chase. Why do I know this? Because other girls have shared these types of conversations with me. They've told me that they really want to go after him and pursue him, but were reluctant because they thought it would scare him away. So they Just avoided it, and I can guarantee you that every girls mind has thought that and thinks that the guy will pull away. The real reality is that there ARE girls like that and WILL want to chase but will only do so if they like you. You will also have to assure her and hint it out that you like her, Maybe that will encourage her to chase you after she gets the signal 😊
@man_with_a_pan It's not true at all, girls DO want to chase you, read the message I wrote to @Daniel3035...
You basically told me you heard girls want to chase guys and then said they dont want to. While I get girls are scared of being pushed away it's far easier then being laughed at or given false harrassment claims etc. If we really meant that much pursuing us wouldn't matter whether it be being pushed away etc if he does his loss but clearly it does. Trust me i've looked far and wide never happened all she has to say is hi to show she's serious and not gold digging playing games.
Saying 'hello' to a guy is not really "Chasing". But if we talk to him too much, don't give him any time alone, stalk him on his FB profile, follow him around and bump into him purposely wherever he goes all that is considered "Chasing". We do approach guys and say 'hello' but we don't chase him to avoid scaring him away. We do however want to chase him, the thing is we don't want to scare him away is what I'm saying. And yeah I agree with you loads of girls play mind games with guys, because we've been told that if we are too straight forward with our interest in the guy we would end up scaring him away by seeming "Desperate". Girls Just get told to play all these mind games to win over the guy and get him Interested in her as much as she is in him...
It does to us because guys dont normally get girls having the guts to say hi. All of that other stuff is just random stuff anybody could do that its indirect we would never notice there's lots of people in a hallway. My advice is to do the opposite of what your thinking or have been told to do because thats what i'd prefer if not you may just never get anywhere and wonder why. Also I don't know whos telling you this stuff but it's crazy wrong guys are very straight forward initially and to get to us you need to do the same not constantly being direct then dodging us.
So it's not what you prefer? And you're right about the fact that girls don't usually approach guys these days or even have courage to say "Hi". But that's only if she secretly likes him and is too shy to say the first "Hi" and approach him. If it's any guy that we could see ourselves being Just friends with, we would easily be able to approach them. It depends on who it is. So I guess we should express our Interest striaghtforwardly Instead of beating around the Bush?
It's not really about preference its just a bonus I guess if she falls into it. And thats true which is how we know she's genuine. Yes in the very initial stages straightforwardness is key you see as guys we go through a lot of ups and down asking girls out.
I've had gold diggers
Liars / dishonest responses
Flakers
Ghosting
Girls who try to get pregnant intentionally for a lifetimes supply of cash from a guy
Girls who just disappear
All of these things so when a guy tries and tries again were fed up and if she just bounces away from we think she's another flaker so if you want to bounce around thats fine but only after being straightforward.
I don't think I've been any of those girls, I'm usually the one that gets ghosted lol. I wouldn't do Intentional stuff either Just so a guy would give me loads of cash. I would Just want his care and his time. I wouldn't care about his possessions or his money. I value love, care, respect and attention, money is not even a priority. Wether he buys me expensive stuff or not wouldn't bother me, his love and care would be even more valuable than money and it would be enough. But yeah I have seen loads if girls like that, I've even seen loads of guys like that too. Anyway I can see your point...
No.
Please.. someone... chase me, with love.
Aww so you like being chased?
Well, why not? Sure xD
Just be aware that I may hunt the hunter.
Lol okay...😂😂
It's OK, I'm just weird
Not at all, it's actually kinda sexy!
Ohh okay, so what we've been brought up to believe might not be true lol... I never expected for guys to like it. I thought they saw it as being "Desperate".
Both women and men think a lot of things about each other that are totally untrue! Unfortunately that sort of thing seems to happen quite often.
Yeah, at this rate the only solution to this problem is to straight up ask...
A lot of it comes from the fact that you'll hear your girlfriends and moms talking in salons and stuff, for men the same thing happens at bars and garages and stuff.
Yeah we don't usually straight up Just ask guys about it , but we have no problem talking to other girls about it. And the same probably goes for guys too...
Definitely! It seems like it’s just a comfort thing.
Yeah it definetly feels more comfortable and we are able to express ourselves fully without holding back how we feel...
It's a turn off only if we don't like her.
Yeah I was also thinking that too. That's probably the most obvious reason lol
If she looks good? Hell no! Turn on
Lol I'm certain that the good looking or pretty ones don't chase after guys... they have so much self confidence and respect for themselves to even stoop to that level.
Confidence to openly admit and pursue what she wants? Sexy as hell! Especially at my age we tire of the secret flirting games and have no desire to be labeled and judged or charged with harassment. I appreciate open and honest women. Maybe your definition of chasing differs from mine
I'm really open and honest myself, it's pretty obvious when I like someone or something. Though me being open leads me into trouble sometimes, so I have to switch around a bit. But straight forward is mainly what I'm all about...
You being you is the best method of finding a successful relationship partner. Also, if you pursue a man who turns you down right off the bat; consider yourself lucky to not have wasted any more time on someone who’s not interested in you.
That's true, and yes I'm always me. I always try to be as humble and positive as I can...
If I like her then no
Yeah, I thought the same thing. It's clearly obvious that guys would like it if it's someone they liked lol
No, quite the opposite, it's an honor.
Oh okay, so if it's a girl that you dislike would it still be okay?
I would still feel flattered, but I would reject her and let her know it's not possible (in a polite and respectful way of course, unless I really hate her).
Oh okay, yeah I believe that what most people would do...
No, it's more endearing.
Why's it endearing? Elaborate...
It’s only a turn on if she’s hot
Lol the pretty girls already have lots of self confidence and don't need to chase after guys, because they are content even without a man's attention.
No. It's endearing
Why's it endearing?
Because it breaks the social norm of the man chasing. Plus it’d show that she likes me enough to break said norm/wouldn’t want to take the chance of waiting for me to make the first move.
Loads of us Just wait around Instead of "Chase". We don't want to risk anything or making the wrong move by coming off as "Desperate" right off the bat. We would chase, but we're told that guys like doing all the chasing and pursuing so that's why you don't see us doing it. I actually did chase a guy once, it didn't really go well. I was bold enough to chase, but he saw me as "Seeking attention" for some reason...
turn off!
Why? What your reason? You'd rather be the one to go after her?
yes i rather chase her
Yeah the traditional way...
no it's not
Why's that? Elaborate...
how cud that be a turn off if a girl showing she cares or want a guy... ntin wrong if a woman like a guy and showing it... guy do th same thing...
Okay
Nah i love it
Why's that?
Because then i know if soneone likes me or not
Ohh okay, so you wouldn't get annoyed by it?
I wouldn't specially if i liked her
Okay 😊
Nope
Why? Elaborate...
Why would it
Yeah that's what I'm asking, why's it not a turn off to you?
And I'm saying why would it be a turn off
Because it probably makes us seem "Desperate" or "Clingy"? 🤔
Well it doesn't
Depends
Depends on? Give some context...
How good looking they are
Lol 😂😂 and that is all that matters?
If they get you excited and aroused
Lol whut?