Why do some younger girls like much older men?

[Anonymous]

I am almost ashamed asking this question but I found this site just by typing about this subject I am about to ask.
I had a 19 year old girl catch me off guard when she quickly wrapped her arms around my neck and pulled me in hard for a kiss on the lips. She wanted more but I panicked as I am 50. I felt embarrassed as everyone witnessed it. My co-workers had fun with it and started calling me "Herbert the Pervert." When I grocery shop is when I have 2 young cashiers flirting with me and even saying, "I was wondering when I was going to see you again." I come through their line and they start smiling at me and one giggles like crazy even if I don't crack a joke.
Now before anyone says, "You probably flirted with them" is to know the answer is NO! The girl that kissed me on the lips only saw me walking through her job a number of times but I never talked to her or looked at her flirtatiously. I couldn't anyways as she doesn't speak English.
Now is there something about MUCH older men that girls around 19-25 like?
I personally am not understanding this as I think of Adam Sandler in the movie 'Big Daddy' when he accused his ex of being with "OLD BALLS" as a reason to be disgusted by him.
Usually ladies around my age show interest but lately this has been happening and I am scratching my head.
Any ladies know why this is?

[AmandaYVR]

I don't know why you are experiencing this or why younger girls are particularly attracted to you, however I have dated all ages, including much older, and I will tell you the appeal for me:
My first point is it had absolutely nothing to do with money. I'll be honest and say I was hoping for some nicer restaurants or vacations, but in my three years with one man, we did almost none of those and I was quite happy with him, regardless. Age, or having more money, is not necessarily related to how much they spend on you and the relationship. That comes more from personality than actual financial means. I was with one man, the same age as me, who always liked to 'spoil' his women, irrespective of how much was in the bank. He was also unfailingly generous with his friends. He just really enjoyed doing that. He paid for his friends to join him, just so they could have an experience together. I only lasted six months with him, regardless of the generosity.
I like the way older men carry themselves. I like confidence without arrogance, self-assuredness without bravado, and a man who is over pettiness and gross displays of competition with others. This often follows in tandem with slightly lower testosterone levels than men in their 20s.
Maturity will often come up in a discussion like this. Females do mature faster than males, but by 25 they now believe there's no difference, it plateaus.
Older people know who they are, and want they want, more often than younger people. They have experienced more, and it is natural that everyone's preferences narrow, or become refined, so despite the cliches of older guys liking the beauty of a younger woman (and sure, who doesn't appreciate that), they know who and what they want more. There is less game playing. You'd be hard pressed to have a better feeling than a man who is laser focused on you, and can speak with his eyes. A man who can speak volumes just with his eyes, has other great skills as well.
Older men are better lovers. Not that one in his 20s is a bad lover, I'm not saying that at all (once their past their mid-20s, things even out), but knowledge and skill and passion, without being frenetic, is a beautiful thing.

[AmandaYVR]

To be fair and realistic, I will also say that I have read there is an uptick in demand for sugar daddies nowadays. The theory goes that apparently college tuitions are so high now, college aged girls are looking for financial backing. So I don't doubt that's an element for some. Some call that light prostitution, some do not. I would never do it myself. There are loads of women from other, less financially stable countries, who absolutely want money. But here in North America, it is less so. Things are more egalitarian and thinking has progressed beyond fulfilling the practical and is more (I say more, not always) about love and true desire.
I personally have always valued people who are intelligent, wise, cultured, have appreciation for the arts and things beyond the basic essentials of life. I always have, even when I was young. And it's not that I was raised in that environment. I am different than my family. I notice these things, think about these things, and I have been more likely to find those in someone older. I prefer someone who orders a drink specific to their (known) tastes, not "the house wine", for exanple. And the oldest one I dated was very much like this - this is what first drew me to him. But all other men I dated would not necessarily be accurately descibed like this. And I certainly found many other traits appealing as well. (And I married someone my own age who was not as I described above, so it's all a bit random.)

[AmandaYVR]

Above all, personality is king/key. Without compatability in this area, you have almost nothing, in my opinion. But clearly, in your case, you are attracting them based on your physical appearance (since you are clear that you are not flirting, or even being particularly friendly, and there is little conversation yet). Maybe it's just as simple as your appearance. No need to analyze it too much, just take it as a nice compliment - though I respect that you do care. If you were to date one, yes, you would absolutely get looks and stares, not all of them pleasant or flattering. Some men like that, even get off on it, some men don't. I've dated one who felt guilty, one who felt proud, and most were in between. It's really up to you and [her] to decide if it's the right thing for you.

[Asker]

Very much enjoyed your input. Thank you again!

[AmandaYVR]

You're most welcome. I'm sorry it was so long. I am not known for brevity. I try, but on some qs I just can't answer in a few sentences.

[Asker]

I read every word. It was very good, thank you!

[Imcmullan]

Simple- Older men are sexier... n they are more experienced in bed... n daddy issues is another reason. Older men know what women expect n want. They are aware of women needs, they are forward, mature, and just better. I've always been attracted to older but now that I'm getting older- 35, I think I need to start dating in my age range lol. I prefer the age of 33- 60. I've dated someone who was 65 when I was 20 ... someone 45 when i was 13.. but that's a whole issue.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for sharing! That was very thorough and has helped me to understand things. Much appreciated!

[Somethingwittty]

Daddy issues majority of the time. Was annoying when I was younger lol. Now its hilarious and depending on the age of the woman (22+ for me) can be quite fun.

[Ceasar97]

because some women have issues with their fathers and some women just like more mature and experienced men

[DizzyDesii]

Most the older guys i know are still virgins or super immature so i def can't say that lol.

[Asker]

@DizzyDesii Don't know of too many older males that are virgins but the movie 40 year old virgin was a riot.

[Ceasar97]

@DizzyDesii lol, fair enough. So daddy issues it is?

[DizzyDesii]

I meant ik a lot of 30 sumn year old virgins. I consider them old. I want someone in their mid twenties

[Asker]

30 is old. I'm 50, so I am ancient :P

[DizzyDesii]

Ill be old in 5 years 😭

[Ceasar97]

Age is but a number and how you act

[DizzyDesii]

Yes but no. I still prefer closer in age. Same age preferably

[jennifer_bloom]

A lot of woman date older men cause they fantasize about having an established professional who can care for them and pay for everything but I would not want that kind of relationship cause to me its just a fantasy - the guy will most likely get sick faster - retire faster - become jobless faster - die faster - I would want a guy who is at the same or better levels at me physicaly.

[Asker]

Also, I was thinking about when the old years creep in. Do I want some young chic changing my diapers :P :O
Thanks for sharing!

[DizzyDesii]

They either have daddy issues or they assume being older makes you more mature/experienced/rich which is not always the case so I don't know why people assume this. I personally like people within 3 years or less of age

[DizzyDesii]

Also they could just find you attractive

[Asker]

Thank you for sharing!

[thegirlfromthething]

Older men are way more attractive than younger guys. They’re better looking and easier to talk to, and they’re more mature, cultured, interesting, and intelligent.

[Asker]

Maybe but I tend to make some young girls nervous for some reason. I had a teenager that I said hi to that started to walk quickly in circles while talking so fast that I did not understand a word she said. All I said was hi so I guess I wasn't so easy to talk with.
Thank you for sharing!

[thegirlfromthething]

You’re welcome

[Aim2PleaseToo]

I agree.. Older men are suppose to know how to treat a woman !!
In and out of the sheets !

[WhiteShoulder]

Some girls have daddy issues or prefer older guys for some other reason

[Asker]

You may be right as I was told she lived with her aunt as her dad was killed years ago.

[WhiteShoulder]

Makes sense

[Gedaria]

I don't know but I'm not complaining, I've had my moments...

[foxrider77]

The same reason some older guys like younger women. It’s what your attracted to.

[JubJub_Hi]

More mature and confidence <3

[Asker]

That's a huge age gap looking for a confident man. I'm sure men in their late 20's or early 30's should have reached that mature/confident stage in their lives.
I have to be honest that I did not mind the kiss the more time passed on.

[Anonymous]

Some are just that charming ☺️☺️☺️🥰

[Jackpot777Returns]

She is legal what exactly is your problem?

[edwilliams580]

Money... pure and simple