Is my ex spying on me? What does it mean?

[Anonymous]

When my ex broke up with me, the same day or next day a girl added me, i knew they went to the same school, but didn't know how close they were. So, yesterday my ex posted a picture and it said, they are friends since 13 years. Now, since the day the friend added me, she hasn't talked expect for 2 hours the same day. Me and my ex broke up last April. Now, my ex blocked me a one months after breaking up and then added me a month later and we met 2 times, texted (flirty) and called 2 times. She met me and called me behind her boyfrinds back and family. Then the boyfriend foundout and forced her to block me. Later around one month later, my ex's sister added me on snapchat for exactly one week. She didn't message me or anything just added me and then left. (i use to talk to her sister, but after me and my ex broke up we blocked me). Me and my ex broke up becuase the relationship got one-sided, and my ex kept it going while it was one sided. My ex loved me more than i loved her or love myself. Now, when we met the second time, me and my ex started talking about the reason for our break up, she was acting as she doesn't care, she was making good eye contact. Also, throught the time she was talking, she asked me 2 times if i found anyone. Once, i confronted her ask why she cares, and she made some random on spot stupid reason. Now, i also, asked her what we are, and she said, "you can think of us as friends, if u want, but i dont" which means, my ex doesn't want to be friends, neither does she hates me or anything. Now, does this mean my ex wants to get back? does she miss me? Was she spying? and if she is, why is she spying? Can she be planning to come back?

[Battooot]

Its clear to me that she's waiting for you to tell her you love her or want her back. The reason she broke up with you is because it was hurting her that you dont like her as much as she likes you
I know that feeling as i experienced it before and i would never allow myself to be with a partner who doesn't love me as much as i love her if not even loves me more. So it's clear she couldn't accept that for herself and thats why she broke up. But she couldnt get over you and her feelings are strong for you hence all her actions. The guy she's with is not a boyfriend... it's a rebound. She's waiting for you to tell her you want her back and you love her.

But if you dont love her... it's better than you dont lead her on and move on with yourlife and find someone else who you can have stronger feelings for. Otherwise... if you dont love her and asked her back and lied... you will shatter her heart and we dont want that to happen do we? I'd like to think you are not a careless/irresponsible person.

Good luck!

[Asker]

I love her and want her back. When she broke up I don't know if she was mad or what. She just didn't listen to me and just ignored me. Now, i was her first ever like real serious crush or boyfriend and yes she loved me more than i loved myself. When me and her met, she said such mean things "tried to be mean" like said "even if u were the last i wudnt get back" but i can just see it was her faking it all. I just smiled and said, "ok". I didn't want her to get ego and walk over me. Like why would someone go behind an bf's back for an ex? But why isn't she saying anything? Why isn't she saying "hey i made a mistake" or why isn't she leaving the current guy? She used to talk to my friend and say thing like show off to make it seem she's really really happy. But, Why isn't she adding me, or like tellingme?

[Battooot]

Ohh... so she loved you more than you love yourself. I thought you said she loved you more than you LOVED her.

In this case. It is different. Right now... you need to work on yourself. She dumped you because you dont believe in yourself. If you dont love yourself and believe in yourself... who will believe in you?

[Battooot]

Work on becoming stronger mentally and physically. But most importantly you need to be stronger in your mind and your view of yourself needs to be more positive. Start working out or play sports... do things that make you happy and more confident. If you are not inshape... start getting inshape. If you are inshape... get in even better shape. But most importantly... find your weakness... what you hate about yourself the most? And fix it.

With time you will become happier and stronger and more confident. You dont have to even tell your ex anything... she will see it in you the moment she see you. When you see a confident person... he doesn't tell you he is confident... you just notice he is confident and strong just by looking at him. When you truly believe you are strong and are happy with yourself... it will show on your face. If you dont love yourself... people will see it on your face. You can't hide it. When you go out... dont try to hide your face... accept it... and work to make it better. Tell yourself "i am weak or dont love myself now but i will do everything i can to change it".

I promise you... the moment you start taking steps to improve yourself and be happy... you will feel it in your heart. You will feel free and powerful.

With time... maybe 6 months+ when you start slowly loving yourself more and more... your ex will see it and she will come to you on her own. You don't even need to do anything... i promise you. Just focus on yourself... and become a greater man. Even if she didn't come back... at that point i promise you that you will not care. Because you will notice much more attention from other girls and maybe you will find someone better.

If you have any question how to love yourself or get better feel free to message me. I used to have very low confidence and used to hate myself a lot. Now... i am the strongest minded man you will ever meet.

[Asker]

Sorry, i meant as in like she loved me like a lot. I have confidence in myself, i love myself. She didn't leave because im weak. The second thing you said, About she loved me more than i loved her, thts kind of true. So, Our relationship got once-sided and my ex kept our relationship going, like she was the one handling it. The reason i got busy was becuase i was focusing on life as like school. i loved her, but she loved me more.

Yes, i agree i said, she loved me more than i love myself, i meant as Say you love yourself 100% well, my ex loves me more than tht 100%. she was a really nice and sweet girl, she kept our relationship going. She broke up with me once before and came back like 1-2 days later becuase she loved me. But, the second time she left, she did all those.

Now, does she miss me? Why isn't she coming back? Why hasn't she left the "new guy"?
Once again sorry for the confusion, and thanks for the huge thing you wrote, i fell bad i confused you.

[Battooot]

LOL i see.

ok so... it's back to my first opinion. go read it again. It means she is just waiting for you to say you love her. you need to tell her that you love her, not to me. Tell her you want her back and you are sorry you didn't give her as much attention as she deserved. see what happens afterwards. if she did nothing and didn't care, then move on, delete her. and continue life normal. If she came back... well... it means i was right :)

[Asker]

She has be blocked, because the “new guy” got jealous. So, the new guy told her to stop talking and she didn’t, then a few days later, they met, and he was trying to make me jealous, and the same night me and my ex called, and next day she was acting weird, and blocked me. I feel he forced her to block me.

U wanna help me? Anything I can message u on?

[Battooot]

is there any other way you can contact her? in social media or other way?

and sure feel free to message me anytime

[Asker]

Yes, there is 2 ways, but I’m
Not sure if I’m blocked or not.

Also, what do I message u on?

[Battooot]

never hurts to try !

[Usernamesrdumb]

Lol stop letting social media rule your life. She’s spying on you, you got 99 problems, but that ain't one.

[Asker]

Social media has been killing me man. I hate it at this point. she's like this big problem i got, other things well yeah but they are okay. This one problem is like a 4'7 person vs a huge ass animal down.

[Usernamesrdumb]

Just choose not to participate. I don't have social media. Then you become the most interesting man not on social media. you know how much that would drive the opposite sex mad? I actually had an argument with someone telling why do i think im too good for Facebook. Lulz.

Im here, much like i read Cosmopolitan. To get inside the minds of the opposite sex.

Work smarter not harder.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like she was flirting, so she probably wants you back. She might miss you. When I spy on someone I either miss them or I’m looking for clues to see if another girl is in their life... you should delete that girl as a friend, especially if you don’t talk to her. That might even make your ex talk to you more if she can’t spy on you. She’ll have to check on you the old fashion way

[Asker]

So, like she met me 2 times and called 2 times which was behind her bfs back. (Cheating kind of) we made good eye contact. And when we texted, it got flirty. Or I mean like teasing kind. Like her boyfriend told her to stop talking, and she told me, yet she still kept talking. I also don’t get, if she misses me, why does she come back?

Also, u want to help me personally? anything I can message u on.

[Plitty-Tank]

Probably so. Talk to her why it is wrong.

[Asker]

Do u think she misses me? And wants to get back?