How can I redeem myself after getting involved with and exposing married man? I hate myself now?

[Anonymous]

I’m 21 he is 46 I hate myself for getting involved with him in the first place and I hate myself for stopping low and exposing him. I have never had a boyfriend, a choice of my own, and he was my 2nd sexual partner. I would have never imagined getting involved with a married man but I did it anyway after going through a horrible depression and I wanted to just have sex and not think about my problems. I don’t condone with what I did at all. He treated me horribly and wanted to get rid of me after I had a emotional breakdown after someone who sexually assaulted me years ago appeared in my life unexpectedly.

I stopped sleeping, having nightmares when I tried to sleep and barely eating for 2 weeks and I just snapped and lashed out on around around me including him. He treated me horribly even after I explained and apologized for my behavior and he said I’m just being a emotional young woman full of drama that he doesn’t need in his life cause he has a wife and kids to worry about and I’m the reason he doesn’t like messing with young woman. After he said that to me over the phone I got angry and I felt extremely hurt. I tried apologizing to him and he treated me like dirt. And I exposed all of our texts on social media and sent them to his wife. All of the sexts and everything. I regret what I did. It’s my fault for getting involved with a married man. I can’t forgive myself and I’m starting to hate myself. How can I redeem myself from this? I’ve never done anything like this in my life.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Accept >Embrace >Forgive yourself>Move on>Never Forget.
Learn from your mistakes
So it's your life take incharge acknowledge your doings no sentient being is coming you to releive you from your sins for you to do more sins life works on Karma what you do shall return to you one day in different format perhaps so buck up and move on

[slatyb]

Forgive yourself. This is mostly on him and not you. You could have behaved more maturely but understandably you were hurt and reacted emotionally. The consequences are his fault -- presumably you just told the truth about what happened. Going forward you'll know not to get involved with a married man who is lying to his wife about you.

[Asker]

He said I’m the reason he hates dealing with young women cause we are in our feelings too much and emotional. That really hurt me and made me angry, I was going through trauma

[slatyb]

What the F did he expect? You made a mistake and it's over. You are still young, single and childless, so except for lost time and some past upset you are fine. Forgive yourself, keep the wisdom gained.

[Iluvapple]

I don't think that's all your fault. You just cared too much about his opinions. He's a big lair even "lower" than you who really didn't deserve you. Think if you're being consumed by them or not when you do it next time. Your worthy to be loved by who really loves you.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice, I’ve been so sad. Can you message me?

[jgibsonian1986]

Ask for forgiveness from God and maybe his wife too. That's a tough one though, I'm not too sure

[Meatunnel69]

Fuck that adulterer good on you for exposing his horny lustful existence he wife deserved to knw