My best girl friend hooked up with my crush?

[Anonymous]

Hi guys! So my best friend (lets call her T) of about 7 years hooked up with the guy she knew i had a massive crush on (Let’s call him B). Basically me and (B) had a fling for a few months until he told me he didn’t want a relationship, and didn’t want to lead me on anymore. I was real sad about it for a while. I told (T) about what he said to me and she knew how sad i was over it.
After that, me and (T) stopped talking for about 3 months. I recently texted her and asked what happened with us. She then proceeds to call me crying saying how sorry she is, because her and (B) had been hooking up multiple times throughout the months we weren’t talking. I said it’s okay because i didn’t know what else to say.
I talked about this situation with a mutual friend, explaining how i felt and stuff. A few days later i get a spam of texts from (T) saying not to talk about this with other people and she’s done hearing about it & it’s over with... should i ditch this friend or no?

[ZackBan]

Let me tell you a quick story for the sake of perspective.
My best friend of 6 years had a crush on a girl and she wasn't all that interested. They did hook up a few times but she told him that it wasn't gonna happen. After that she tried to tempt me even in front of him sometimes. And I have to admit she was hot and definitely my type but I never went for it even though they were over and she wasn't out of bound it simply felt wrong to me.

Now to relate to you, your best friend was fully aware of what you and 😎 have been through and yet she had no problem hooking up with him for 3 months while ignoring you. The only reason she got in touch with you again is because she and him didn't work and I'm sure if they did she would have probably dated him regardless.
Now we can all argue that she didn't "betray" you and stole your man since you two were done but a best friend for 7 years would still chose not to do it anyway.

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice, you’re right a best friend wouldn’t do that. You’re a great friend! Need more like u :)

[worldscolide]

All is fair in love and war.. You can claim to own someone and deny someone the chance to be with them. It sounds like you had your chance and it didn't work.. Move on, drop this high school girl attitude and grow up..

[Asker]

you’re definitely that girl who wrecks relationships. Bye hun!!

[worldscolide]

Sweetheart, I'm married 7 years, grow up.

[Asker]

oops you’re a guy😂. You’re the one replying to an 18 year old. You grow up creep.

[worldscolide]

You asked a question.. And it says 18 to 24.. Last I checked this site is opened to everyone.. Not just those who you want answers from. It's alright though. Children like you learn eventually.

[Asker]

when ur wife cheats on ya with ur best friend make sure you move on right away and forget about it! now you can stop arguing with an 18 year old over the internet. byebye

[worldscolide]

Lol you're funny.. Childish pedantic attacks..

[LEETSBEREAL]

With friends like this who needs enemies. Don't fall for the tears it's all an act. You two not talking just made it easier to go behind your back. She could of picked any guy to hook up with and she picks the one she knows you want to be with. Get rid if her now otherwise she'll walk all over you later

[Asker]

Thank you for this advice :)! I did drop her, and i have been walked on by her the whole friendship and this made me realize that i’m DONE!!

[LEETSBEREAL]

No worries hun glad to be of help you did the right thing. I had a similar situation ages ago in my teens a so called friend knew this guy long before I did he turns up shows interest in me. We hit it off. I decided I was going to end my current relationship to start one with him but could not act until I ended my relationship. While I am doing that she jumps into bed with him! Nothing happened all the time they knew each other I come into the pic suddenly she needs sleep with him? I don't have time for females and thier games and shit or to feed her ego. She to walked all over me before this so I have seen this before. Please do not let her back into your life. I am so much stronger now have no one like this in my life. I want the same for you

[Asker]

Exact same story here. She also knew him before me and never had a thing for him until we started talking. This is going to be hard but it’s for the best. I will never understand why some girls are like this! Thanks again for taking ur time to help :)

[Anonymous]

7 years... that's long. Ik this is gonna be hard for u but u should dump her and ur crush. U deserve way better. After all, she was never a friend to u

[NewZion]

It's on you if you really want to ditch her.
I thought you said you already broke up with your crush. So it's alright.

My suggestion is no if you've guys been through some shit together. Work through this.

[chriscdi]

if was really sorried she wouldve stopped messing with him, let me guess, she is still fucking with that mf right

[wellhack]

Yea it'll be really weird and it's disrespectful to you and having her come back shows a lack of respect you have for yourself I'm truly sorry this happened to you though I wish the best for you

[theChineseWASP]

I don't think your friend did anything against the rules. It may be hurtful but she is still your friend and I think the mature response is to be happy for her.

[888theGreat]

Yes, she interfered , but he wanted her and not you and that is his right, I would probably dump her as a friend though and him too.

[Liam_Hayden]

I really do not understand the possessive mentality of people. When I break up, she and I are free agents. The idea that my friends or her are forever banned from dating one of us is asinine. I do not care whom she dates.

[Meatunnel69]

Lmao she ain't “sorry” thats total b/s screw this snake in the grass friend

[Danny_dan92]

Yep. Your so called friend is a two timing whore