I have several good female friends, but I've never found a girl who's been sexually or romantically interested in me, does this just mean I'm physically unattractive?
Yes, you're most likely just physically unattractive
You are 18-24. Lots of opportunities still coming your way. Believe it or not, by the time you are 30, if you: --are unmarried without kids, --with a stable and reasonably well paying job, --in reasonably decent physical shape, --with no criminal record, and --you own a home of your own, even a modest one,
You WILL be desirable, as the women start realizing their partying days are over and they need a real guy as spouse material.
So what to do now?
1. Build up your economic value and maintain / improve your physical shape. Don't compete against others--that will just bring you down and make you miserable--just compete against *yourself*. I hope that makes sense.
2. Try an older "Cougar" divorcee, who wants to "get her groove back". She might just be the one to break you in. Your initial lack of game in such a situation will be non-threatening, and therefore downright appealing, to an older divorcee. And by interactions of this nature, you will get "game". No, the relationship probably will not last, but it will be mutually beneficial at first. And then, by the time you are the age of the Cougars yourself, you may even be trawling for younger babes! Or you may have already found someone and settled in.
3. Look into antidepressant meds. They can really help in some cases.
I don't know but in the case where I dated female friends rather than acquaintances (my wife is among them), we had a flirty vibe from very early on. I've never been friends for months or longer with a girl without that flirty dynamic that ever led to a date. In my case at least, I can usually evaluate my chances of successfully getting a date from the very first few conversations.
I've also known guys who were very attractive. I think I can evaluate well enough even as a heterosexual guy. I had one who was tall and actually a pro athlete. But he had a hard time interesting girls since he was very reserved and quiet. He wouldn't initiate, wouldn't make much in the way of convos. So he loses out to another friend of mine who's actually a fairly overweight surfer with a sort of "dad bod" and gut from Hawaii who can just sit next to a girl and get her laughing within minutes.
In my experience at least, and I'm quite the extrovert and sociable type, charm and charisma beat looks when it comes to guys. You give me a charismatic guy who is just average or so, and another who is all reserved or shy or quiet, and I'm betting on the former to secure a date at a social event... and I'm pretty sure I'll come out rich if I could make that bet over and over.
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