My girlfriend won't go down on me, she says as a feminist, I have no right to ask that of her, yet she still wants me to go down on her?

[Anonymous]

What do I do. She says that because she's a feminist I have no right to ask her to go down on me. That I exist only to serve her, she expects me to gow down on her but won't return the favor.

What do I do here.

Updates

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by the way I don't believe her choices have anything to do with feminism, I think she is just being Mean. She has said things in the past like "you're lucky I'm even letting you touch me"

[Anonymous]

It's hard for me to believe that she only wants it one way and it has to do with being a feminist.
Nontheless, if what you say is true-you know that the unspoken rule of oral sex is that it is always reciprocal.

[Asker]

Agreed!

[Opinion Owner]

RE your update-Yep, she does sound mean. If I were you, I'd get myself ready to find another girlfriend. :)

[Asker]

I'm planning to.

[Opinion Owner]

thanks for the MHO!

[Agape93]

Your girl clearly doesn’t know what feminism is.

[Love2Jackit]

You need 2 tell her it's a 2 way street. Cause u got 2 give 2 get. If she want return the favor next time u go down on her. Then tell her she can either jack ur dick. If not then tell her she's got 2 watch u jack ur own dick. I know that might seem crazy. But if she don't want 2 help or watch. Then it's time for u 2 tell her 2 hit the road. Cause if u don't man up now. Then it's only going 2 keep getting worse. Cause she's sound like a woman who's always got 2 have it her way. I promise u love is a 2 way street. She either open 2 compromise or she's not. If not then she's got 2 go. Reason being think of what the future will be like with her. A constant got 2 have it her way. She's a feminist then likely she's an extremist of really hating on men. She would probably never come out an say it. Worse is she will keep treating like a dog. Cause she's think it's her right. Well it's not just see how she act when u tell her. The way it's going 2 be. I bet u anything she says no way 2 anything u suggest. Then she will use the famous. If u love me then I shouldn't have 2 return the favor. Cause remember honey it's all about me and not u.

[loveslongnails]

Well buddy, if you like being a submissive, sub, beta male, then you've got the right girl. She's acting like a "Femdom" or female dominant would in a relationship. There are men who like that. And if your reaction is " why is she being so MEAN", but you're willing to stick around, you're likely one of them.

So, either start kissing her boots, tell her to lock you in chastity, and obey her every command, or tell her to fuck off, I'm not your bitch. From the sounds of it, she's never going to be what you hope for. You'll either stay and get further emasculated, or you'll either kick HER out or you'll leave.

[ciitruskiwi]

Don't go down on her. Why should you if she isn't willing to return the favor? A relationship is give and take not just take.

[ciitruskiwi]

And now that I read your update. Leave her.

[Gwenhwyfar]

@ciitruskiwi totally agree on both counts

[edjee4]

could be a lot of reasons, have you asked her why? in a non accusatory tone? if you ask nicely and she still doesn’t want to then i think you have to decide how important it is to you and how important the relationship is

[Poppymarie]

Break up with her. It’s not like she’s just nervous about it; she’s just too damn selfish to please you, and that attitude will permeate the whole relationship. Get a girl who values you.

[Poppymarie]

by the way I had a boyfriend who did this to me and it was awful. He went down on me maybe 5 times over our whole relationship (and complained about it), yet I was blowing him every time we were together, sometimes multiple times. His selfishness ended blanketing our entire relationship and I eventually left him when I realized just how abusive he was.

[genuinlysensitive]

Being selfish and being abusive are two different things.

[Poppymarie]

@genuinlysensitive He was both. How lucky I was

[Drumlin2001]

She sounds controlling.
If she dosen't like going down on you thats her choice. She can't force you to go down on her, thats your choice.
Persoanlly i'm not sure i would want to be with someone who acts the way you describe.

[HadrianRoyce]

Leave Her
If she is that selfish
then just leave her.

I dont think she is a traditional feminist
more like a feminazi
man hater type

[ILoveAnime]

I think your girlfriend has the concept of femenism wrong buddy

[Anonymous]

Tell her you’re a male-inist and she has no right to ask that of you.


Oh and P. S. she sounds like a horrendous person to be with.

And P. S. S you know many of us women out here that’s 10000% willing to cater to our man? #leaveher

[1CentWorth]

dump the feminist. bet she doesn't shave her pits or bath either.

[genuinlysensitive]

Agreed.

[JSmuve]

Bitch sounds like a straight up cunt. I'm sure you can do better than her. Drop the hypocrite for a real woman.

[Curmudgeon]

"What do I do here."

Kick her to the curb. Or just drop the whole oral sex thing altogether.

[Anonymous]

That makes no sense. Feminism is literally equality of the sexes... so seems like an excuse and a bit unfair

[Gwenhwyfar]

You need a better girlfriend. I’ve treated hookups that way, but never a real boyfriend.

[Gwenhwyfar]

And not even most of my hookups

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

She's not a feminist, she's a feminazi and a misandrist. Run far away from her, she's gonna tear down your self esteem piece by piece otherwise.

[themaus]

Real feminist is about equality, if you do it so does her

[dudeinohio]

You stop going down on her until she goes down on you. Simple fix. You most certainly have the right to ask.

[chico800]

If you're into that sort of thing stay with her. If you aren't then leave her.

[icewallowcome]

You’re the definition of a perfect simp.

[Asker]

Oh sure, but that's only true if I werent willing to leave over this..

[icewallowcome]

Then tell her to take her feminist ordeals straight out of your face and to the kitchen.

[Anonymous]

Get rid of her and find a slutty traditional submissive woman, you'd be happy