How to feel better about yourself?

[Anonymous]

I (19F) feel so unattractive. I know it’s normal to have days when we don’t feel so good but it’s to the point that I don’t even want to leave the house, unless I really have to such as work. Not that I should be leaving the house anyway because of covid restrictions.

I’m trying to recover from the fact that this guy that I really liked and was having a thing on and off for about 6 months is now in an official, and happy relationship (he didn’t want to be with me, I was just a “tinder fling” and wasn’t “ready” for a relationship). She’s this beautiful Asian girl. While I’ve got very strong ethnic features (half middle eastern and Mediterranean). She’s much more well-rounded and more liked then me too. But that’s a different story I guess. He even went for my Asian best friend the day after we made out and ghosted me. How I envy those who are Asian HAHAHAH.

I usually rely on beauty therapies such as hair removal (like I said I’ve got strong ethnic features, which includes a lot of dark hair), nails, eyelashes e. t. c. I feel so much more confident. Obviously now they are closed I feel disgusting, even with makeup on. I hate my non-existent jawline. I was considering getting injections before this all happened.

This is more of a vent then a question but I was just asking for advice on how to feel more beautiful during these times. Especially with everything that happened to me before the covid crisis.

[RuinthyHeart]

The answer is to not compare yourself to others. Comparisons usually bring pain as there would always be somebody else who would be better than you in any aspect. Though since doing such is pretty much impossible, I suggest you to watch Asian female makeup transformations. It would make you feel better temporarily.

For the long term, I recommend you to do the tasks that would help you develop in your characteristic that you are greatly concerned with. You talked about appearances so I will too. If you desire a sexy body figure, prepare to workout, for example, around 4 hours per day, at least thrice a week. Each hour would correspond to a certain body part like the arms, stomach, butt, and thighs. Also, continue the body hair removal when you are insecure about your body hair. Then go to the salon to deal with your head hair and have your eyebrows shaped. Regularly apply castor oil on your eyelashes and eyebrows if you want to thicken them naturally when they're sparse. Don't forget to moisturize your whole body and face! Do not use too much make up for they ruin our skin especially when you're below your 20s. Noncomedogenic face powder, moisturizer, sunscreen, and a tinted lip balm are the weapons for girls around our age. If you want a stronger jawline, chew hard gum with both sides of your mouth and do it everyday. The results would appear later on but it's permanent. Lastly, dress up with the clothing that suit your body shape, height, color, and temperament.

Once you have these covered, improve your brain and look for trainable skills or "talents" like the arts and singing. Be genuine with your personality and that's all!

If all else fails, brainwash yourself with a subliminal.

[Anonymous]

Forget injections, you can increase your confidence with just makeup and how you dress! Here is a start: do you own a pair of leather leggings/pants?

[Piteka5]

I'm from a Mediterranean country and I can tell you, Mediterranean women are way prettier but anyways, that's a matter for another time.
Everyone has times when they feel better or worse about themselves, seeing your recent situation with all these things happening to you it's normal that you feel bad.
Things that you can do, first remember looks are not what defines you, you are much more than that. Then you can think, what are the things that really bother about yourself? Some things can be fixed with a little work, others not so much, so if you can fix it, don't worry, if you can't, why worry? Also, in your case, he showed himself to act on a very immature and senseless way with you, so, he was not that great after all.
Another advice I can give you is not to focus too much on dating apps and sites, it ususaly just ends in hookups and overall its not good for your wellbeing, you start to look more to please other and atract them with just your looks than actually growing as a person and improving yourself.
I hope you get better from this and start to feel more positively about you, you're probability a great person so don't judge yourself to harshly

[yyyyaaahhhhooooo]

I don't know what u look like but this is what i think regardless of what u look like u need to stand in front of the mirror and say out loud what u like about how u look and then say the then say what u don't like and do something about it it doesn't need to be drastic but it needs to be consistent do the Sam thing ever day until you are happy with who u see in the mirror
I need to be 100% honest with ur self

[FilthyFrankTV]

I would start working out makes u feel better and look better, maybe look for some at home workouts. It helped me

[boggboss]

Learning to stop comparing yourself to others

[Anonymous]

After 24, you'll be done anyway