After a tough break up, what is something you do to help yourself feel better?

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I had a tough break up last night. The first thing I did was call my friend and cried on the phone with him for an hour. He always makes me feel better! As we were talking, he told me to go to Kohls and by that cute hat and dress I've had my eye on. So, I did and I can't tell you how much better I felt! I felt like a new man and that I could accomplish anything. I also felt sexy! So, what is something you do to help you get through a break up?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Just depends on who initiated the break up , if she dumped me and cheated on me then I become volunerable and go through a don’t
Give a fuck about anything mood , Probably bang the first girl that is making me feel wanted and not giving a fuck about anything , if I dumped her , I go through a grieving moment because the only reason I walked away is because she couldn't t love me the same way I was loving her to the point I didn’t have a choice but to walk away when I give my heart to girl I am on it for the long haul , when she treats me like I am a constant punching bag and my feelings don’t matter I tend to hold on as much as possible hoping love will save the day , I hate that about myself because at times I feel like I should just go bang another girl but I realize no one else can save you , you have to save yourself

AviatorTom · Accepted Answer

I've been fortunate... only had one tough break-up, which was totally unexpected. My initial reaction was to use my right hand and think how she will never experience what I'm experiencing now. It was crude, but it worked. Then, I went about my day, doing the usual things. About a week later, I went back on the online dating app, and met a few nice women.

Amy10223 · Accepted Answer

This is very tough. I would allow myself to grieve, firstly. Then after some time, do the things you like to do. Try to avoid places you had gone to with this person. Pamper yourself, listen to nice music, go to a movie, go out to eat a good restaurant, and so on. Do not get involved with anyone else for the time being. Just be with yourself for a while until you gain some strength to be with friends. Later on I would say--maybe after a few months or more--then you can look for someone else.

cryscrys1 · Accepted Answer

Why did she break up with you ugh what a loser because you loved her she thinks love is easy to find
She will never find someone as you ! You seem like a gentleman 🥺❤️
I am sorry but what you can do now is to find someone who appreciates you and doesn’t take your for granted. Let this loser choke on sprite and realize what’s he lost it will be too late but hey she can at least wake up from her delusions 😀

coachTanthony · Answer

Throw yourself into work and the gym and keep moving and grooving. Life doesn't or shouldn't stop for nobody.

Guy13 · Answer

Go back to the things I used to do regularly and enjoy before her and develop one new hobby or interest to add to my diverse inventory of Likes and Knowns. Grieving, healing, gym, and any physical activity is required too.

Avicenna · Answer

Spend time with members of your support system

RobT312 · Answer

It’s been a while, but had a tough breakup 5 years ago. Even though it was for the better, it was still tough to handle. For a while I made sure I was free of relationship goals, I didn't just want to jump into another relationship so I kept new stuff casual. I also spent more time with friends. The combo of both got me out of my funk

WanderingLoveWizard · Answer

I too like to go shopping and cry with my friends after a breakup. Sometimes I'll even eat an entire box of chocolates and watch The Notebook while I paint my nails and TRY to feel beautiful again!

Saramodel · Answer

I behaved like a slut fucking around, making out with everyone without any exception. When we met at club by accident I made out with his friends and some strangers with whom I haven't said a single word. It was fun because I was doing all this stuff and he was begging me. In the end, I gave him a sloppy kiss, spitting the others' saliva in his mouth and I left him behind.😋

Qinart · Answer

I would take my time to let it out, grief about it. Its important to me to not close the negative feelings away.
Afterwards I would spend time with my hobbies, painting or gaming, talking with friends and work my way through a new routine for the time I've would have spent with my partner.

Hope you can progress it well :)

Being_a_good_Indian · Answer

Getting over a breakup is hard but not impossible. By taking it day by day and moment by moment, you are well on your way to healing. Make yourself a priority and embrace your new independence.

This is the perfect time to develop a new relationship with the most important person – you.

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

I organize a private wellness & spa massage on sundays, dive into the whirlpool (only for me) think deeply, cry, let my emotions out.

Otherwise, staying in the community, receiving treatment in the community with my family around me and usual friends.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Play music. Lots of music. I dont have many friends, so I dont have people to talk with to help me through it.

Music becomes the avenue to outwardly express my inward emotion. In that manner, playing music is extremely personal to me

I taught myself to play four music instruments. You can imagine, I've had a few breakups in my life.

LazerBean · Answer

I don't know the answer, but I do know that you were looking great!

Babygirl_S · Answer

Breaking up with my ex felt so bad that I thought I would die and never find someone better looking. I cried a lot and shared my feelings with a bestie. I was so depressed that I had to make a to-do list including things like "have a meal". Music and exercise helped me. Eventually I forgot about him a developed a new crush.

prensesmishka · Answer

Spend time with my family. No matter what, it's so nice to be able to overcome any sadness with your family.

Agirlinneedhelp · Answer

A change of surrounding is always nice.

I'd go stay for a couple of days with friends in different cities. I'd travel around if I had a chance, and I would try to socialize more, take every opportunity to hang out with new people.

es20490446e · Answer

If you are the dumpee just see that anything that you believe you are missing is a fantasy, because the other person just don't want that.

If you are the dumper remember yourself why this relationship won't work out.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

Work on a word working project and finish it off, keeps my mind and hands busy. Plus, I feel better accomplishing something.

loveslongnails · Answer

I've found that the best way to get over a girl is to get over a new one! :)

summiter · Answer

I use to go for a long run everyday to chill out and of course I jerked off a lot.

Straight2thepoint · Answer

Thanked the person for the brake up. Went out for a long drive to think. Then play out my next move. Focus on me and my future. Go places I haven't been. Have fun.

lightninghunter · Answer

Workout, start changing yourself, take it as a freaking challenge. You want to prove to the other person that what potential you had, the next time they see your new form they should feel regret that they lost you.

wkozak · Answer

Doing something i like and forgetting about time for a while.

exitseven · Answer

I used to go to the gym and have a monster workout

LiamJHayden · Answer

Never had a rough break up on my part, but I suppose I would just hang out with friends and enjoy my hobbies.

Wallythewalrus · Answer

Make you feel better? I told you to get the fuck out of my life and stay out! And you better not lock yourself in the bathroom and cry all day, again! I had Taco Bell last night.

boobliker · Answer

Bee keeping it gives you something sweet at the end.

Juxtapose · Answer

I introspect, cry, talk it out with friends and then eventually avoid thinking about it.

Anonymous · Answer

I slut out or play "how much money can my body make in a week"

Anonymous · Answer

Anything to get your mind off the breakup. Some people will binge watch romance movies but that’s a horrible idea.

krin_m · Answer

Focus on things that are important in your life!

Anemone978 · Answer

I listen to music and sleep a lot..

Nikki1989 · Answer

It is only tough if you make it that way.

JJ092003 · Answer

Exercise excessively

MeiAndYou · Answer

Keep active to distract

elizamichale1 · Answer

In a while have sex...

girlwithconfusion · Answer

I never broke up single life

LavLavLuv · Answer

Hangout with my friends

Iron_Man · Answer

I’m not in that position

Preeti161101 · Answer

Not happening

Anonymous · Answer

wtf did i read that right?

In_Trance · Answer

Have a beer

Gamer20 · Answer

We go jimmmm

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