Is social media giving girls an inflated sense of their attractiveness?

[Anonymous]

Every Single Time any of my girls posts a pic on Instagram or Facebook, you can guarantee that there will be at least 30 responses about how beautiful/gorgeous/hot/etc they are.

Conversely, no matter the girl, my daughter's will always make the same inane comment to other girls, regardless of how attractive she is.

I wonder, do girls receiving the compliments really believe these comments? If a girl is a solid 5, does she start to believe she is an 8 because she is constantly surrounded by other girls telling her how beautiful she is?

Is this affecting the sexual market place where 5's no longer believe they are 5's and won't settle for anything less than a 9?

Note:I copied this from Reddit but it sums up nicely the question I wanted to ask.

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

Yes, duh.
But of course they’ve often don’t things like this before social media m, but social media dials it up to 11 and makes so easy to do.

It’s not some deliberate conspiracy to do this, but it’s a common reflex in women that inadvertently causes them to act in concert— and the result is obvious. Hurling compliments wins social points with others, even if you don’t know someone personally, taking every chance to be seen handing out niceties is fostering their social capital. It also stimulates an environment where it’s just the norm to always do that. So when they post a pic themselves or want any kind of ego boost or reassurance or confirmation of beliefs or anything, then all they have to do post, and it will feel good. And that’s what it’s about, feeling good, not truth or honesty or constructive criticism. It’s about everyone being able to feel good, and they obviously love that idea, they love that shit. It’s sounds good superficially, doesn’t mean it’s good deep down but who cares when it feels good?

The net result is the blanketed inflation of self worth. It’s not necessarily stable which is why it needs constant bolstering to keep it artificially inflated. So then the “sisterhood” has powers. Much like how slut shaming and similar things work, it keeps women in line so they can act as a collective, which is how they instinctively want to act rather than be personally responsible and independent.

Whether it’s shaming sluts or inflating the median self worth, that net result is effectively ad hoc sexual unions which allow women to leverage more power over men as a collective, but less as an individual (even though still greater than what men have)

So, basically yes to your question.

[0112358]

Overall, it seems to do the opposite. Every woman has a bunch of (especially her female friends) people telling her she looks amazing.

But most of them then spend all their time looking at women with more likes then them and feeling bad. The women with more likes are naturally prettier and then photo edit the shit out of their posts.

[mrfoox]

Can only speak about my own thoughts and experiences which are: I'm not really attractive, maybe even below avarge. Still I'll have friends say I am pretty/cute/etc. Do I believe them because I've been told it often? Not really. Myself and many other girls have a fragile image of themselves. Being told that you're ugly is hurtful. Usually much easier to believe the bad things you hear and if not believe at least worry about them.
So rather, girls banding up and complimenting each other I think is a good thing. Most girls have been insulted by how they look from an early age, and know it's hurtful. Will girls believe they're super models even when they're average? No, 95% of girls will not. They seek validation and friends are there to support each other and act nice.
Don't know if I make sense, but those are some of my thoughts and experiences

[OptimisticDaria]

It's hard for me too say. I can see it overinflating the ego of boys and girls, or tearing apart their self esteem. This isn't only applicable to girls.

It doesn't matter anyway, the people worth being with aren't going to be the ones obsessed with their self image.

So what if girls start to feel better about their bodies, like, you're worried less attractive girls start to feel better about their looks, and they maight hope to land guys they shouldn't have been able to based on the stupid 1-10 scale?

I get not wanting people to have a large ass ego, it isn't limited to girls who have the problem.

[HartleyB]

"Sexual marketplace" wtf are you talking about? Social media isn't just a place for people to find sexual partners, if a 10 - 17 year old girl is on social media is she now part of this "sexual marketplace"? Pffft

And no, if anything it is the very opposite for most, they see girls on Instagram with photoshopped everything, surgery, and sometimes unhealthy habit like under eating or wearing corsets etc. And it makes girls think that is normal or realistic. I would rather people be kind and complement each other than put each other down online and it seems like it is just lonely guys who get angry seeing girls recieve positive attention.

[Unit1]

Tremendously. Just show off your half naked body (because you can impress with nothing else just like the old men, who impress with nothing but their money), collect these 100s of likes from people you've never known before and be told you are the most beautiful creature on earth.

Then proceed to reject everybody and treat them like a subhuman.

10 years later the looks have faded away and what's left?

Boom! Welcome to reality.
Don't fall for this trap.

[Bandit74]

Yeah, probably. I would say tinder amplifies this phenomenon too because it makes it even easier for a girl who is a 5 to hookup with guys who are 7s or 8s and that makes them think they are just as hot even though those guys are typically only interested for the easy lay and would never actually commit to a girl of her attractiveness.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

If it does then it doesn't do them any favors either. A five will not get a nine and she might get a 7 who uses and abuses her briefly. She'll join GAG soon afterwards and post a question about "Why do guys only want me for anal sex or ATM but they won't date me?".

[Rebeccalions]

No, it does the opposite. Girls post sexy pics bc they are insecure and need compliments to feel attractive... trust me, we won't think we are a higher rating, there are enough men putting us in our place :)

[wilfh1965]

Yes you cannot say or post hardly anything anymore I think people in general have an overinflated sense of themselves because of social media hiding behind the computer is easy to do most wouldn't have the same attitude in person

[angeliquedevereux2]

Doesn't inflate. I post a photo and I get maybe ten comments from my close friends. I comment on theirs because I want to empower them and make them feel happy, yet when i get those commengs i just shrug them off and think they don't really mean it

[Anonymous]

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[Aislin9]

" sexual market place "

There is no sexual market place, except to idiot incels.

[angiebangie]

I'd say social media isn't healthy for self image because of so many more factors than just the one that you've mentioned

[MzAsh]

It’s in the eye of the beholder. If she’s an 8 by majority rule, she’s an 8, not a 5.

[scarlett774]

If anything social media makes girls feel more insecure about themselves. What’s wrong with their friends leaving nice comments about them?

[Bananaman177]

I think it's giving them an inflated sense of attraction in general.

You should only be trying to attract ONE guy, not 1,000 random jackasses.

[winterfox10]

If she's getting likes, it does. If she isn't getting likes then she's probably having the opposite effect.

[bamesjond0069]

Yes. Every girl thats like a 7 or 8 thinks they are a perfect 10. Literally a girl said to me the other day im super hot i can get away with anything. Um she's like a 8. Thats not super hot by any stretch.

[BeeBia]

Are you seriously worried that some young girls will feel pretty? Th

[Mellontikos]

Yes I believe it has a huge influence on the dating market.

[continentalbreakfast]

Please don't forget guys in this one 😆 soooo many guys

[Twinrova]

Social media sets unrealistic body standards in my opinion, so it could actually be worse for self-image, and I think it is.

[AmourHoney]

Why is society so obsessed with making people feel bad about themselves?

[Aislin9]

That's a VERY very good question.

[AmourHoney]

People act like the worlds gonna collapse if someone they find unattractive receives compliments 😳

[Aislin9]

It is for them because they want a woman to think badly of herself because only then... she might consider someone as ugly as him in his mind. That's what this is really about.

[AmourHoney]

That makes a lot of sense actually.