Who would date someone suffering with Agoraphobia?

[mrbong]

For a long time my anxiety has been so bad I stopped being able to even force myself into any anxiety provoking situations. I really want to be able to meet someone to at least try and have a good time in the out side world lol, meeting that person while being as ill as I am is not happening, also I understand that a relationship would be a struggle for both involved...

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sucks man, that's just the fact that I suffer mental illness... never mind the fact that I have 4 kids from my last relationship... oh and looking about 5 years younger then I am... dating just ain't going to work lol.

[BuriedHorizons]

I too have Agoraphobia. It was worse when I was younger though. And I've had to force myself on a number of occasions to do the things that make me panic. Now that I've pushed myself to college, things are looking up.

However. As I was struggling to cope with it. I had a boyfriend. He already knew I had issues. He never seemed to mind it. But there again. It got to the point that if something did happen I wouldn't even bother telling him about it. We were opposites. He was social and outgoing and had billions of friends. He couldn't stand being cooped up. And of course. . .you know how it is with me if you have similar problems. Not a good combination. We lasted for a few years, but it was as if we were running in circles. I would drag him down, and we would struggle to get back up again.

Do yourself a tremendous favor and stop looking for a girlfriend so fiercely. Deal with your illness instead. Understand that even if you did find someone, you'd be pushing some of that onto them in turn. It's impossible not to, especially when the anxiety feels crippling. I'm not saying you have nothing to offer. Because I'm sure that you do. But you'll offer it better when you've fought off some of that anxiety and learned how to cope with it.

[mrbong]

sorry to hear that you suffer with it too, hope your doing better at fighting it then me :)

I had the same sort of thing with my ex, we lasted nearly 10 years on and off, she also had mental health problems and in the end we just got to the point that we couldn't get any better together.

I'm defiantly not looking for a girlfriend I'm just thinking long term and can't just keep having causal sex with women, I miss the affection lol

[BuriedHorizons]

I do quite well for the most part. But I can still relapse, usually in big crowds, or in places I can't get out of for too long. But other than that, it's good.

It's very possible that you could find someone that's able to support you in "the long run." There are girls who are willing to go step by step. It'll just be a long road for both of you. Anything is possible if you're planning long term. Short term, I would just worry about you. You're the most important in the equation.

[mrbong]

thanks hun, I hear what your trying to say.. I don't even know why I asked the question... already knew the answer...

I'm the same, could be having the best day of ,y life and as soon as I feel like I can't escape or there's too much noise I can't cope.

[julesxx87]

i would date you even though it would be very hard :)

[mrbong]

and you did for nearly ten years ha ha :)

[Brendi87]

i think you should go to behavioral-cognitive therapy first. its a sure proof way to rid yourself of anxiety. also, do yoga, meditation and/or progressive-muscle relaxation. think happy thoughts.

[mrbong]

had C.B.T, when I first realized that I had a problem, had it since a child and always just told myself I was a freak lol... C.B.T has helped in some respects, on a good day I can use it to fight prolonged anxiety.

That and meds were the only thing offered at the time, but I still have uncontrollable symptoms of anxiety and depression.

[Brendi87]

at least you tried that. don't call yourself a freak. you're human. I'm sorry about that, but realize that you're not the only one going through it. many people are battling through depression. my mom suffers from bi-polar depression. I tell my therapist that I worry about it affecting me, but I'm doing the best I can to not let my negative thoughts take me down. the mind is a powerful thing, control it, don't let it control you.

[mrbong]

tell you what hun.. that's the best thing I learned from CBT.. it has helped ,I'd be lying if I said it didn't... its helped me by giving the ability to stop panic attacks in there tracks .. Can't say that it don't effect me but I can control it on a good day at least... :)

[elizabeth24]

I would, helping a person through it is the most important thing. It would be hard but rewarding at the same time to know that person came out of their shell and or anxiety

[mrbong]

i don't know hun.. its a lot easer said then done... Good that you would be at least willing to try tho :)

[elizabeth24]

trust me could handle it. I've dated some odd people that's not the different

[mikeaaa]

Some of us can't get better. I was injured in military. This is the way it is. I have lots to offer just can't go out. Glad to know there are some who can still see us as people.

[udolipixie]

No.

I don't want another person's issues/problems

[udolipixie]

4 kids?

So you're mentally unstable & slutty?

[mrbong]

nah, they all have the same mum :P

[udolipixie]

J6st lacking in pregnancy prevention?

Or are you one of those married young guys?

The kid thing may not hold you down as much as it would a chick but that mentally illness messes things up.

[mrbong]

err no we intended to get married, two were planned and two was contraception issues... yea I know mental illness is harsh to all involved.

[mrbong]

I can understand that, the only people that do want to get with me have issues that I don't want to take on :)

[sugarglitter]

No, thanks.

[mrbong]

was not an offer haha, just wanted to see general reaction to the question :)