Women, is too many compliments a turn off?

[Kaazsz]

I’ll only give a compliment if it’s genuine. It’s why I want to be with a beautiful woman. Because girls want compliments and if you’re with a girl who isn’t beautiful how can you honestly tell her that she is?


I dated many fat girls in my earliest years. Because that’s all I could get. I was too scared and too shy, and even if cute girls liked me I was terrified of them. But I couldn’t compliment them on their looks. They weren’t good looking.


I don’t know what ugly people do when they get together. Do they compliment eachother? When they fall in love do they suddenly find eachother beautiful and sexy? Like I fucking doubt it as much as people always say “well if you love them you will find them beautiful!” Bull shit lol.


The few beautiful girls I’ve dated I don’t remember complimenting them either. But I felt much more compelled to show it. Like, say I’m kissing her, I’ll stop, pull back, rove my eyes all over her face, lips, eyes, just drink her in. And then go back in and kiss her more. It’s like I drink in her beauty than enjoy kissing this beautiful girl. I feel like that says it way more than verbalizing it. And I’d prefer it to be that way. Which is one reason why I want a cute girlfriend instead of an ugly one. I can’t do that with an ugly girl. How do ugly people do it? Lol...

[Itsok2behapp-e]

Although I'm not a woman I've every right to share my knowledge and opinion so to my fellow male Asker, Yes is my answer.

Think for a minute how old she is...

Now think about the compliment you were about to pay her...

Stop!

Think about how society labels us as different colours...

Now take a look at her...

What colour do you see?

How do you think she'll react if you go upto her and say "Hello, beautiful I saw you from over there and you're stunningly < insert her colour here > "

The same applies if you were to compliment her on her height like "Wow, oh my god you're so tall/short!"

She's going to give you a weird look as her brain processes what you've just said because she knows she is said colour and she knows she is of a certain height.

She also knows how beautiful, gorgeous and pretty she is. Fact is, think back to her age, yes she has heard this her whole life from every other guy that has tried to hit on her!

You see her differently to other guys. Some may not rate her so highly as you do. Everybody has different taste, right?

Yes they do. Hence you rate her so highly. I get that and good for you. Trouble is, she knows what she is so for once in her life, just let her be... A normal girl :-)

Even the drop dead gorgeous, 10/10 girls want to feel the same way. Just let them be... normal and treat them as such. That's all they want, I promise!

Regardless of her outstanding looks, I know she's hot that's why you fancy the pants off of her, we know! Just don't compliment her body or her face as hard as that maybe.

Take another look at her. What do you see? A sparkling necklace? How about her little summer dress that looks so good on her? Or her choice of subtle yet sexy heels maybe?

Mention those and go from there. She'll respond positively, trust me.

[AmandaYVR]

There's no such thing as "too many compliments" IF they are sincere. Everyone (including men) appreciate being appreciated.

The only way that compliments can feel uncomfortable to receive is if the person giving them 1. Doesn't know the person well enough to give them accurately and with knowledge, or 2. They're giving them to ingratiate themselves for personal gain (is it sex?), or 3. The receiver has told them they're not interested in any sort of relationship with them (to the point of disliking them and wanting nothing to do with them), and the giver persists, trying to win them over.

I don't believe in the whole 'simp' term at all. It's a pejorative word created by contrarian males who are angry and resent some other males liking females and wanting to interact with them. It really should not be a threat if some males are positive towards the opposite sex. If I see a female support or defend males, I never think twice about that, and I sure as hell wouldn't create a b. s. derogatory word to call attention and classify it. We are 99.8% genetically the same as apes. People need to get a grip and stop demonizing the opposite sex. (Or the same sex who doesn't do this.)

[EclecticEmapath1111]

I'd say thanks for the compliments but downshift into other conversation taking the focus off of myself and if I find him going back to excessive compliments, I would have no choice but, to demand that he tells me what is really going with him that he feels like he needs to kiss my ass in this manner. Is it sex that he wants? Does he want a favor from me? Or does he feel the need to over flatter me to make himself feel good? Or prove that he likes me? The questions would be abundant on my part. Compliments are nice sometimes if they are relevant to what is happening in a conversation but in excess they can cause me to question why a person is doing it. Sometimes a person thinks that they need to do this to win people over or get people to like them but, it's not necessary to overdo it if you want someone to know that you like them or hope that they return those feelings. I love to compliment a person if I am proud of them or genuinely appreciate something about their skills, character or appearance. But I am sure as hell not going to bend over backwards to make them feel a certain way or lay it on thick to prove that l like them.

[JosyJosy]

To me it ready depends on what the compliment is. I don't like a compliment shower. I'd be like "You want something from me?"

Like if I finished work before a deadline for an important client and I get a 'good job' all good. I honestly don't want the "You look beautiful" I don't want to hear any of that unless I actually did something special for once which would I guess "justify" it, I don't want it, but I wouldn't get annoyed in that scenario

Many compliments lose its value. In a relationship, to me "I love you" loses its value if you spam it

[lifelearner011]

Compliments can be a very nice gesture!
I think what makes them well-received is the way and context in which you express them. As well as the level of proximity you have towards the person and the content of this complement. I believe forms matter more than the "act" itself.

[silvermoon84]

At a certain point yes, because it eventually comes off sounding insincere. I once had a date with a guy who told me 27 times how pretty I was (yes I actually started counting after the 4th or 5th time). At first it was sweet, after a while though I was like “ugh enough already”.

[MissBollinger12]

If it’s somebody that I’m not attracted to - then I would feel uncomfortable.
(I’m the sort of person that makes it obvious if I’m not interested).

If I am attracted to them- then I would wonder if there is some kind of agenda (same day lay), for laying it on thick. Attractive self confident men don’t tend to behave in a way that’s desperate and obsessive. It gives the impression of a lack of options. Self-confident and attractive men tend to strike the right balance.

[Saarr]

A bit maybe, yeah🙈 If someone really overloads me with compliments I tend to not believe them. I almost always have a hard time believing it when someone compliments me, so it can easily get too much 😅

[Hazelstar99]

Yeah it could come of as ingenuine. Also, it feels like you're trying to get something from the person you are giving compliment too.

[CuriousCat123]

Just make sure you really mean them and they will feel special. Just make sure she doesn't have a boyfriend. I think if you are constantly complimenting you may come off as clingy. But some girls find that cute so I don't know.

[Anonymous]

everyday compliment us too much. I prefer guy know how to compliment girls at the right time haha.

[19magic]

Too many is too much sure, if he wakes up and says hey beautiful then that's nice and makes my blush but if every sentence is what's my sexy gal doing now, I'm eating lunch with my stunning girlfriend, then it's too much.

[cjgsu]

Can be. It starts 2 feel lk u being a simp🤷🏾‍♀️.
I don't know when it starts 2 be annoying

[sheikalana]

It sounds kinda fake excessive comments after a while.

[Blueymusic]

It depends on the guy and how he’s saying it. Plus I usually get creeped out if I don’t know him. If I may like him then I would let some slip.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I have a weird thing with Me, I selectively only chose those girls and compliment the ones that don't like to receive it 😝

[chevymcgthatsme]

No I love it when I get compliments it's great especially from my boyfriend it makes me blush because I was never 1 for getting a lot of compliment ling ago

[Jojo3316]

It would have to depend on the women. With some people, too many compliments can make them uncomfortable, with others it wouldn't matter. You have to first know the person. I wouldn't give them out back to back to back you know.

[KrakenAttackin]

Yes, of she thinks she has you wrapped around her finger she will quickly lose interest in you.

[A_Bell]

If they are sincere, never. If they are phoney, definitely.

[Alyssa11]

It's a turn off when it reaches a level so that it doesn't seem genuine anymore. :)

[SandandWaves]

too many compliments is too much for anyone. it makes the other person feel like you are fake and it's annoying

[thegirlfromthething]

It can be. Being a suck-up instantly makes a guy seem annoying, desperate, insincere, and like he has ulterior motives.