Girls -- How much is complimenting too much?

[Airezzy_Kid]

I want to avoid over-complimenting. Is complimenting her looks and personality once per day enough or too little? Once per week? How can I get better at calibrating how to do this?

[prettylittledancer]

OKKK So I love love compliments, but when they're coming constantly from the same person it sounds so fake!! Like you seriously don't need to constantly compliment like every now and then is ok... Like if i saw someone at a party and I was in loove with their dress I might gush about it to them so thats ok, but if you're talking to a girl an you keep complimenting her its kinda annoying. It just strikes the wrong nerve with me... Especially because i never know how to respond each time!!

In summary, yes compliment her but not like every conversation. EG If you're going out with her to the movies you might say wow you look beautiful, but then don't say it again until maybe the end of the date when you're saying goodbye like "thanks for the great night! you still look amazing" ahh even that sounds corny and makes me cringe...

LOOk at the signs she gives you and feed off the vibe that should tell you everything in regards to how SHE REACTS to compliments...

Sorry about just ranting ahah good luck <3 xo

[Anonymous]

From personal experience I can say that if you complement her too much right off the bat, it takes away some of the genuineness. I know a dude who compliments me almost every other minute and it starts to feel like he's just saying it because he's desperate for a girlfriend and is trying to kiss up. Having said that, compliments are SUPER important, and don't ever not compliment a girl so that you come off macho and mysterious, cold and distant. It makes you look like an a-hole. So balance. If you really want to compliment her, make it genuine and creative. Trust me, it means much more that way.

[_itsjessii]

It completely depends on the girl. Some love getting showered in compliments and others hate getting compliments because they might think you are lying. I wouldn't compliment her every time you talk to her because that would definitely be over doing it in my opinion, but if she like compliments then once a day is perfectly fine, but don't feel obligated to giver her compliments at a certain time, only when you truly mean what you say.

[leeahgiovanna]

don't compliment her too much. because then your compliments lose value. I think you should tell her she's pretty whenever you see her and think she looks good or whenever her looks come up in conversation. but if you don't see her all week don't keep texting her compliments because she'll get used to them and it won't really mean anything

[Yeppeeee]

I'm super bad about it too, I'm like pepe le pew in a relationship lol. But if it's genuine and unexpected it's always acceptable.

[posted]

Jesus fuck too much. I never really compliment anyone, if i'm dating a girl maybe an odd genuine one here and there.

[TonyNoTiger]

Personally, I prefer a looks compliment from a guy about 2 times a day. I like the "your hair looks really nice," or "that color is really pretty on you." Not so much the 'you're so beautiful," "you're absolutely amazing," because it feels in-genuine to me.

[falafelany1]

There was a guy who liked me to the extreme and he would always say i was beautiful, charming, exquisite, etc etc. i only liked him as a friend and it was really annoying. Let her know when it is appropriate like if she changes her hair, new shirt, smiling pretty, says something funny

[Sheloveshim_]

We LOVE to hear compliments. But, if you're giving her a compliment in every other sentence, it gets SO annoying. Just compliment her LOTS when she's mad, send sweet, long compliments when she's asleep or busy, compliment her a few times during the day, but not constantly!

[lucyrosex]

Only compliment her if you genuinely mean what you're saying to her. There's no point complimenting her if it's fake-- I think that's very unnecessary. Girls are very perceptive and can usually tell when a compliment is real. Real compliments can really make someone's day, so if you truly mean what you say, keep doing it :) Good luck

[simplyme13]

It all depends. If were just friends 2-3 times a week is fine with me. For instance "your hair is pretty." "Hey beautiful" etc. now if you are my boyfriend I think it should be every day. It doesn't have to be 10 times a day or anything a simple "good morning beautiful" would make me feel special and loved.

[lornakrys]

Depends on the girl. I know plenty of girls who love compliments so a lot of them would make them happy. For the average girl I think once a day is plenty. Personally though I find constant compliments actually annoying. It's probably because I don't need the continuous reaffirmation that I look OK.

[Donaldduck]

Well the thing is. When guys think they are being obvious they are just skimming the surface. What is a 'sure sign' to a guy is not always the case to the girl. So give plenty of compliments, cause the odds are for the first ten she will just think you are being sweet rather than are "into her" :)

[sugarvenomx]

Compliments should be appropriate within the context and not feel overdone. Look for appropriate windows.

[Airezzy_Kid]

i agree. i usually say whatever is on my mind with anyone. if i like something about someone -the window- i will just say it. it's just how i am in general, but im afraid girls will take it a certain way and think im weak or some shit.

[Brea123]

If you think she looks beautiful-tell her.
If she smells nice-tell her.
If she makes you smile-tell her.
There isn't a thing as over complimenting when you mean it. Just be genuine and don't say it just to say it. Mean it.

[lwilliams99]

here's the answer... do it occasionally because the rarer it is the more special and romantic it is at the time. but don't avoid it completely if she looks nice tell her she's beautiful.. just don't do it every second of every day

[sweetestxemily]

omgosh me and my ex argued about this constantly lol. i love compliments!! i dont demand them or anything lol but knowing that the guy i am with is attracted to me is super nice. whenever you think she is cute tell her!

[demonology]

do it as much as you like. as long as the person enjoys getting compliments, and they are not lies.

you can tell by body language if its beginning to be too much. some people never get tired of it !

[KianaLinay13]

I don't think you can over compliment. Just make sure it's spread out different ways. Say 'Good Morning Beautiful' one day and then say 'You looked absolutely gorgeous tonight' another.

[blondieblue]

All girls love compliments, but we want it to be genuine. If all of your comments are genuine then it doesn't matter really how many times you do it. Although overall I'd say a compliment or so a day is a good amount

[Dragonrider15]

Complimenting too much is when EVERYTHING you say is a compliment. Try and maybe compliment a girl once or twice in a date situation and compliment a lot when she is upset. As long as you don't act all stalkerish you should be fine!

[aamy811]

Its different depending on the girl. I personally don't like compliments except for the occasional "your dress looks nice". But I don't like being told I'm stunning or beautiful because it just makes me feel like your lying

[Marlen_Esbeyda]

I think its good to compliment a girl everyday. Compliments make a girl feel better of themselves. (: As long as they're not lies.

[Anonymous]

you shouldn't compliment someone if its ingenuine... it just makes you look kiss assy. if you really feel like that person is beautiful than tell them but make sure you aren't just complimenting her just to compliment her

[geekylady]

Agree, but how can you tell the difference between someone that really means it and someone that is just "ass kissing"

[Opinion Owner]

yes oh my gosh. you can just feel it in your gut. a lot of guys say whatever they think the girl will like just to get something from them. sometimes ill compliment someone with a low self esteem because i want to see them smile but thats different, if its a genuine compliment the other person won't be asking for anything in return and will just compliment you because they admire you.

[AddictedGirl]

Complimenting a girl makes her feel good a girl loves to hear compliments but yes there is a limit its not like you'll keep on complementing again n again.. Keep the complement natural n a bit rare.. As rare thing are in demand and values a lot

[Anonymous]

Every once in a while id say. So she knows you still appreciate her and find her attractive. Honestly if it becomes too much i would get annoyed. I dont want someone to treat me like shit but i dont want to feel like im being read a cheesy Valentine's day card everyday all day. It would be too much. I can't stand cheesy guys who seem to suck up too much

[SydneyGirl84]

Depends on the girl, we are all different. Personally I find it annoying if a guy is constantly complimenting me but like occasional compliments.

[miserybusiness]

When it's blatantly obvious that he's trying too hard, you can probably feel it yourself.

I don't see why you have to compliment her face every single day lmao.

[joybearboo]

i think genuine compliments are key. but if the whole conversation is just you complimenting her then it gets a bit too romeo and juliet

[imnotcrearive]

General rule is: if she's pretty compliment her brain, if she's smart compliment her looks. You can never overdo it if you follow that.

[liarenae]

In my opinion, it's sweet in the beginning but after a while I would get used to it. I would do it in the beginning but spontaneously say it at the right times

[mindysayshi]

Surprise compliments or those that come at unexpected times are my favorite. Maybe try those xD

[MiraMe]

As much as she can take. And if you still have more in you after that, I'll take it :)

[collinniles]

I compliment girls on one thing I really think is good the first time I see them in the morning

[soccerchick4eva]

Its too much when every sentence you say includes a compliment haha

[Roman9]

One compliment is enough. You always want to keep her wanting more.

[RandomStudent]

If you're just friends with her she'll friendzone you if you compliment her everyday.

[ZoeZoexoxo]

Compliments are always welcome... But I guess it would come across as less sincere if the guy overdid it... it would be more like he was complimenting me for the sake of complimenting rather than meaning it...

[Anonymous]

Compliment her whenever. Preferably more than less. We love it. Just don't use the same compliments over and over because then it's just pointless.

[WaterNymph611]

I'd say once or twice every other day, unless something happens like she gets a hair cut or a new sweater, compliment them ;)

[outrageous]

Lol there is never too much in my opinion! Hehe but I always love a little peek here and there

[Anonymous]

Once a day is fine. It shows you care but it shows you're not just trying to butter her up.

[Anonymous]

My Wife Loves Compliments, She Never Tires From Hearing Them!
When Your Compliments Are Real, Spoken From The Heart, You Can Never Compliment Too Much!

[x_kimberlyy]

Don't compliment too much, i hate it when boys do that, you should play it hard to get

[kate937]

I think once per week is good that way she feels special and she doesn't feel like our making yourself say something every day

[Anonymous]

The more complements the better and as long as you are completing her for something genuine it's ok and go for it she'll be happy about it

[Anonymous]

Now and again not everyday though.. Compliments are sweet and remind the girl that you care. When you're together in person compliments are great when appropriate :3

[MBisboss]

Compliment her when she needs it or when she does something good like on a date or when she is upset

[Anonymous]

Notice the little things like If she put new earrings in. because she took the time to do it for you.

[newhotmama2015]

When she needs it the most

[Anonymous]

one each 2 days if she is ur friend.