Girls, Why would a girl always avoid mentioning boyfriend? Distrust or dislike?

[Anonymous]

I'm confused by girl, she has a long-term boyfriend, who apparently she mentioned to most other guys in our circle, I think some guys have even met him, just not me.

She never mentions him, even if talking about days off or vacations etc in the past year or so, which I didn't pay much heed to at first, as some people are just more private. But recently I discovered that it seems to be just me who is excluded, who she doesn't discuss him with, which makes me wonder now if there is a hidden distrust or something.

I'm confused because she is always seems very warm and friendly to me, she messages me a lot, sits beside me and she is always keen for me and her to hangout, go for coffee etc. I'm assuming she has no romantic interest in me as she is in a relationship, which means she must have a secret dislike to me or not fully trust me yet.

Any ideas?

[ashleexxcarr]

Depending in how long youve known her, she probably just hasn't really warmed up to yiu enough yet, guve it time, ir even mention it to her. Maybe she doesn't realize she's doingb that and you guys can laugh it off together. Talking to people about your issues is the best way to ggo about things man if you really want answers.

[Asker]

I've known her for over 3 years, its only confusing because with me she is normally warm, kind and helpful. And asking if we can hang out more.

[ashleexxcarr]

If your that close and have known her for so long, you should mention it to her. It doesn't seem like the kind of conversation that can go bad anyway, so there should be no worrie

[Asker]

I don't like asking personal questions unless the person is volunteering it first, and while she talks about family, friends etc, she otherwise talks as if she is single. For a long time I didn't notice, but Recently I became aware that a few of the others have met and been introduced to her boyfriend.

She is always looking for me to hang out with her more, yet I was not invited to hang out when her boyfriend was about.

[ashleexxcarr]

I dont want to assume anything, but if she keeps asking imto hang out with you, especially alone, and she never mentions her boyfriend to you, but mentions him to others, its seems like she might be interested in you. I mean my boyfriend doesn’t necessarily talk about me to others (more of a private person), but he's lile that with everyone, so if she's only acting that way torwards you, it seems like she has a thing for you. Which is why i think you should mention him, just to make sure there's nothing going on.

[Asker]

I don't think she is interested romantically, I'm sure I would have noticed something, like her behaviour, flirting or something.

Yes she has suggested quite a few times that we meet for a coffee/drink, but I couldn't make those days due schedule clashes. But she didn't seem pissed off on those times, maybe a bit cold for a day or two, but then afterwards she still messages me most days and she later even offered to come over to help me paint my house (indoor). So I didn't think she disliked me or didn't trust me, yet she does seem guarded. It didn't cross my mind, then somebody in our group told me they met him before.

[pinkHippo]

She doesn't want to talk about it / she is not ready to talk about him with you yet