Why is it that women can hit men?

Question

I've always wondered this. Why is it ok for a woman to hit a man but if a man hits back he's a "bitch".

hahahmm · Accepted Answer

Oh, somebody brainwashed you into thinking that. And that's not uncommon. Most of us guys were brainwashed when we were young into thinking that you can never hit a woman. The reality is that you're entitled to self-defense. It doesn't matter if the 130 pound person punching you is male or female. It's about respect too. Teach somebody that it's okay to hit you and they may escalate and do worse things to you. I'm not saying anyone should stay in a violent relationship tho - I don't believe in that!

Just remember that the little woman telling you it's unfair if you knock her teeth out for attacking you is the same woman who would order you to murder a 2 pound rat if she felt threatened by it.

And about those who say, "it's never okay to hit anyone": these are the same people who will call the cops to beat YOU up on their behalf. The same people who would love it if the military beat up some terrorists who were threatening them. Just ignore them. They're spouting nonsense.

DJB72 · Accepted Answer

I'll block a strike from anyone - man or woman. The difference is how I respond.

Generally a woman's strike will be to slap with an open palm. A man's is to punch with a closed fist.

I'm 6' & 220lbs. My friends who are of the female persuasion are on average 5" shorter than me and at least 60lbs lighter. I've only got one friend who's a young woman of my height and she's not close to my weight.

If any of them tried to hit me (except one who's got a black belt in karate) they'd be fairly easy to fend off.

Most of my male friends are a bit lighter than me but around my height. If any of them took a swing at me, I'd block and hit back. Just enough to end the assault.

Women can "get away" with hitting most men because most men are physically capable of stopping them without taking a swing back. But most women couldn't block a punch thrown by an average man.

That's not sexism by the way, it's simple physical difference between the sexes.

Rei02 · Accepted Answer

That's a great question, this is not only seen in real life, buy also in the media, check this out:

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/DoubleStandardAbuseFemaleOnMale

It is ironical that no one can see the next thing: the ones who are considered in society to be the "weaks", "the opressed", "the ´prey" (women, children, minorities, etc) have more protection and favouritism with the law than the "stronger and dominant" groups (men, adults, white people, etc). Since the beginning, societies have taught us that women are "weak, fragile and they can't defend themselves", while men are considered to be "strong" in both physical and emotional ways, so they can "resist" more, even if it is unfair or it is just a misunderstanding.

Even though things have changed and more rights have been generated, there is still that old belief (please, there are still people, either women or not, who are still complaining about women rights when the law can favour them).

AutumnalElf · Accepted Answer

Unfortunately, it's a standard men set themselves as well as women.

Men also claim to be stronger than women and never let us forget it (lol), so because of that, they can do more damage, they should be able to stop a woman from being physically violent towards them without having to be physically violent towards the woman themselves

Now, with that out of the way - In my personal opinion, it's never okay to be physically violent to anyone, regardless of gender and/ or strength.

Men also set the boundary of "Men can't be in abusive relationships' for the same reason as above because the majority feel like they're stronger than women and will laugh or make jokes out of any guy who comes forward and is a victim of abuse from a woman.

Women shouldn't be allowed to hit men, unless for self defense. If she hits him first, he should be allowed to hit her once back as self defense also.

rjroy3 · Answer

1. Men across the board need to hold women to a higher standard. Men use kid gloves when it comes to women and we all know it. We can't pick and choose when to use kid gloves. We either accept they are the weaker sex and treat them as such universally or we treat them as if they are men pretty much.

2. Work with reality as we know it. You don't need to hit a woman or be hit. It's really not hard to man handle a woman if you need to. You just have to be willing to do it. Bouncers restrain people all the time and move them out the door. Pretty basic knowledge that the average man could easily apply to a woman trying to attack. And honestly you don't even need technique. You could just use your strength and escort her out the front door. Lock her outside then call the cops to submit a report.

If more complaints were submitted by men over time and pushing to press charges on women without fail then things would change. If an influx of women going to jail or having a record effecting them getting a job or potentially losing jobs over assault charges. Women would as a group manage this better.

You have to ensure there are consequences. Most men simply don't press charges. Because of the social stigma. Be strong enough to say, "fuck that I'm pressing charges" regardless of what anyone else says and you'll get real change. Till then this is just a talking point to mentally masturbate over. It's anger porn

slackbabbath · Answer

Yeah I agree. I once hit a guy. I was dating him and he broke it off really rudely and just jerked me around for a solid week prior, and I went to his house just to say a word and be done with him. But when I got there no words could come out, I just saw red, and I punched him. My friend was with me and she had to hold me back from throwing another fist. Immediately the next day I regretted this, and years later I know I’ll never be physical like that with a guy again. But what shocked me was others’ reactions when I asked for their opinion or when word spread about what I did (we worked together). Everyone found it hilarious and said he deserved it for being such a punk. He and I are still friends to this day but it still doesn’t sit right with me to ever be physical with someone even if I’m weaker than him and hardly caused him any pain, it still just isn’t ok.

K-I-S-S · Answer

Women want equality.

Give them equal rights and equal lefts.

Doesn't matter if the guy is stronger. Guys know not to hit a strong dude or it will be a strong punch back.

Don't think your flimsy frame has any chance against a decent shape guy.

If you want to be treated as a lady, act like one.

CalmYourTits · Answer

Firstly, a woman should not be hitting man, or anyone.

However, slap from a woman although it may hurt is not like a slap from a man. A slap from a man makes your eyes feel like they popped out of your head and can cause internal injury. A slap from a woman is like a sting.

Plus, a man can hold her wrists and tell her to calm the eff down and call the police on her. He can say she is being physically abusive and I am scared she's going to make me hit her in self defense causing real damage.

Ripper_E · Answer

Sexism
If you believe a man cannot hit a woman only because it's woman, you are sexist.
That's like saying you cannot have a certain job because you are White. Based on nothing else but race.
No one should hit anyone. But if you are okay with men hitting men, women hitting women, or women hitting men, then you are sexist if you believe it's wrong for men to hit women.
There is no difference. You cannot claim to have gender equality but then give either gender special treatment in any way.

Jayceeleigh · Answer

Not sure about this one. I never hit ANYONE I don’t expect to hit back. But the whole deal is that when it was decided men couldn’t hit women it was because women were viewed as delicate, weak, fragile... it was considered unfair advantage for a man (who is much stronger) to hit a woman. That’s why it’s so hard to prove cases where the woman is the abuser. No one wants to believe that side b/c they’ve already bought into the original stereotypical views

tennisgirly · Answer

It's not okay for anyone to abuse anyone, no matter what sex, race, or ethnicity either person is or what opinion you have on that. Everyone should be respectful of everyone around them, but the reason why women do this is for self-defense. It's kind of just our instincts acting up if we get scared or mad, I've only done this a couple times and not hard and I always apologize afterwards because it's not right. We do it because we get scared and we know that we're the smaller and weaker ones.

Anonymous · Answer

They can't actually hit you. Well no one is supposed to hit anyone. It's just that what you see in movies or whatever (a girl slapping a guy) isn't threatening. It's not serious like that. You probably wouldn't get into an actual fight with a male friend if he slapped you for doing something dumb.

If someone is really being attacked, they should defend themselves regardless of gender

yaboiziek · Answer

being called a bitch for hitting a woman is the least of your worries, but it all has to do with double standards, like if a woman is fat or obese people say "she can't help it" or "she was born that way", or they promote body positivity and call it plus sized no matter how much they weigh. but if you see a fat dude everyone wonders why he hasn't hit the gym

Neko911 · Answer

The women in here are crazy. It's not okay at all. And I'm all for if a women hits a man and he can't actually restrain her to hit her back. And this idea chicks say call the police they do know the man will be removed right? That's typically the sad case. Even if she's the abusive one he's the one who's told to leave at the time

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

They can't. Not without it being abuse/assault.

It's fiction that women should be able to strike men without repercussions. If you are a man who is assaulted by a woman, get proof, get witnesses, and charge her with assault.

No one - fuck gender - is allowed to assault another person.

(Obviously, self-defense is a different ball game, but there's still risks with that - proof and witnesses, again)

psychoticanimaIIover · Answer

Despite the fact that society deems it more acceptable for women to slap men than vice versa, the vast majority of domestic abuse is perpetuated by men, who are far more likely to put their partner in hospital, or kill them, as a result of this violence.

Which issue do you think we should be focusing on?

Angelo75 · Answer

None of of the two should hit each other.
The difference is though that if a man hits a woman, he'll do a lot more physical damage.
But because of this, some women tend to abuse this situation and just hit the guy... cuz he won't hit back.
Knowing that will make me tend to respond differently if a woman would hit me. I would make sure she realizes that if she hits me, one way or another, it will be unpleasant for her.

Toast792 · Answer

I don't think anyone should be hitting each other unless it's for self defense. But society still seems to make most women out to be 'delicate little angels' (We're not lol) So they assume the guy is in the wrong. Plus guys are usually stronger then most girls, so a guy hitting a girl would typically cause more damage then a girl hitting a guy. (not that it makes it right for them to hit them)

Sarahr123 · Answer

No I never hit unless someone hits me first. I have seen both men and women slap either men or women just the once when the man or the woman who was getting slapped was too drunk to function and doing stupid things that could endanger themselves or others. The slap usually puts some sense into them, but it might not always work. Cold showers work better at removing the effects of intoxication.

pajamasam · Answer

I've had this discussion with other women before. My policy is the "one free swing" I would never initiate violence with a woman. If a woman hits me she gets one free hit after that I am going to fight back and I am not going to go easy on her.

Newtons third law states:

For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction.

Donr kick a hornets nest if you donr want to be stung.

TOTEMPLASTER · Answer

If the guy is so slow to react that he doesn't block her attack then so be it. I've been unfairly struck by females a few times in my many years and in all but one case hit back with force. The chicks were stunned both from the blow and from the mere fact that I retaliated. None of them ever tried to whack me again.

SaraSmithishere · Answer

Because women do not have the upper body strength that men have. I once slapped some morbidly obese guy at my college who smelled like dog shit because he claimed he had slept with me and was spreading that rumor all over campus. I walked over to him when he was in front of his friends, said he had never slept with me, and slapped him. His friends laughed and he never said anything again.

Petermorgan34 · Answer

Because a man doesn’t do that shit. It shows weakness, cowardliness, and fragile self worth if you hit a women unless its in a situation of extreme self defense. Now being said if a women hits a man it shows childishness, and weakness, Just be a man and walk away if your being abused.

Anonymous · Answer

Women get a free pass when it comes to domestic violence against men. If a woman hits a guy ,"he must have done something to deserve it." There are social experiments to prove this.

Anonymous · Answer

Unless she is defending herself, a woman should be keeping her hands to herself. I don't condone women putting hands on men and then playing victim when it's returned.

cth96190 · Answer

If anyone, male or female, tries to hit me they will be on the wrong end of a lifetime of karate training.
The moment that a woman initiates violence, she will experience complete gender equity.
Everyone needs to learn to keep their hands to themselves.

Ghostloli · Answer

It’s not really okay for anyone to hit anyone.

But also for most guys hittin a woman is just pathetic, most are bigger n hit harder etc.

Guys tend to punch rather than slap n that’s a huge difference there.

Basically it’s jus pathetic for a guy to hit a girl

JesterRose · Answer

My wife and i have a standing agreement to never strike one another in any capacity. And we both understand that if the other breaks this agreement that there is hell to pay for it.

For those (if any) defending women striking a man i will just leave these words of wisdom. If you pick a fight with mike tyson and he clobbers you, we all know you had that coming. Now as for ladys hitting gents, if he's bigger and stronger than you then its pretty damn foolish to cross that line. ain't it?

AdithyaR · Answer

Because of the toxic mentality that men are supposed to be strong and shouldn't feel pain. So people see a guy getting hit as a joke and if he doesn't like it, he's weak and pathetic.
This mentality downplays men who suffer from rape or abuse.

Unit1 · Answer

I mean like anyone *can* hit anybody. But does that mean we should? Besides be careful about the consequences of your actions. Consider that carefully. This goes both ways.

msc545 · Answer

Because women almost never get in trouble of any kind for hitting men, and men get arrested or beaten up by other men for just defending themselves.

I can't tell you exactly why all of this is the way it is, but men have no right to self-defense when attacked by women.

JSmuve · Answer

Women can't hit men. The fact that we all keep perpetuating it by saying shit like "why are women allowed to do this and that" just normalizes it and they think they can get away with it. We all gotta stand up, put em in their place, and say that they can't pull that shit. If we're okay with being slapped and hit, then they're okay with it. And if they're okay with it, they're not gonna hesitate to slap you and then blame you for it.

Agape93 · Answer

Nobody should be hitting anybody. That’s just basic human decency.

Blackgirlasja · Answer

It is never okay for a woman to hit a man. It is simply toxic behavior because society says the man shouldn’t hit the woman back. So, a woman shouldn’t provoke violent behavior in her man.

YHL6965 · Answer

Because these women exploit kindness or respect to abuse men without repercussions, at least until a man decides he will not let himself get abused like that and blast them. I'm all for "Want to hit like a man? Get hit like a man" personally because people should not hit others like that without expecting to be hit back.

grega239 · Answer

Because hitting a woman is considered unmanly and dishonorable due to our superior strength.

A woman hitting a man is not seen as damning because women have the strength of a child. Yes women, you are weak as fuck.

It is however a cunt move for a woman to do, knowing she'll most likely not get hit back.

We should teach girls not to abuse this privilege given to them by

Dayman343 · Answer

It's not OK. I told a loud, drunk and offensive girl in a nightclub to go fuck herself. She was just being obnoxious and she kicked me in the shin, so I kicked her back to show that she can't go around doing that shit. Lesson learned.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel bad for women even when they hit us they feel weak, they are sensitive creatures we have to protect them maybe they are bitchs but they are weak physically and it's unmanly to hit a woman because like i said they are weak they can't handle a man's hitting.

allie-55 · Answer

I don't know who made you believe otherwise, but it's absolutely not ok for a woman to hit a man. Abuse is abuse, no matter whether the victim is a man or a woman. It's horrible for a man to hit a woman, but equally bad for a woman to hit a man, and if your girlfriend, sister or wife is hitting you, it's not alright.

Slash__user · Answer

When I was eight, a bigger and stronger girl hit me hard. I hit her back. She complained to the teacher and she told " U should not hit girls. They are weak". I told her she hit me first and she hit harder than I could. She was like" I don't give two shit. No matter what u never hit a woman" I was like "wow"

AddictedGirl · Answer

No one should be hitting any one. But if you are referring to mild slap (not with any force n anger just kinda touching the cheeks or something like that stuff) thats not actually hitting.

greektragedy · Answer

They can't. It is not right for women to hit men ever just like it's not right for men to hit women. The only time it's acceptable is if either gender is hitting their s/o playfully.

JustAHumanHere · Answer

Ofcourse they can't, wtf. It's not okay for anyone to hit anyone. If a woman is hitting a man, that is not okay and she's an abusive asshole. Like dude, no one ever said that was okay.

Raveagit · Answer

Gynocentric sexist society in the exact way women claim. Its just projection and its they who are sexist and privileged.

NellyShines · Answer

He can do more damage with even an average slap. An average slap from a man to me would be the equivalent of getting a mild punch and my face would be a bit swollen.

Anonymous · Answer

They shouldn’t and if they do, they can’t be surprised if a man hits back

Orangesareyummy · Answer

Nobody should be hitting each other. It’s worse when a guy hits a woman because a man uses more force and muscle.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Never heard this except from beta simp cuck dudes. I've hit plenty of women. Nbd. Put them in their place if they deserve it.

Holisticapproachsara · Answer

Lol u live in the west. Here in the middle east men hit women all they want and he is called the man

jshm2 · Answer

Is that what she told you? Well it's a myth, and you should press charges.

Exotic_Insinuations · Answer

It's not. Maybe it is in your surrounding/situation you've been through/place where you live. Usually, it's not. You have right to defend yourself in that case, depending on situation.

proNutro · Answer

No. It is not okay for anyone to hit anyone. Doesn’t matter if you’re male or female. Don’t raise your hand to anyone.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I don't know but instead of hitting her back, call the cops or get a female friend or  family member to whoop her ass

Everglow5 · Answer

Because we're weakass chimpanzees and can't hurt shit

EyebrowChewie · Answer

because we dont even feel it, they are that weak haha But if we hit them, they scream

Browneye57 · Answer

You don't hit women. Period. Unless you want to spend some time in prison, where you can be bubba's bitch. Idiot.

TheBigGuy9 · Answer

There is a really simple answer to this one and take it how you want, but it’s because on average women are more delicate than men. Now, there are some women I wouldn’t be ok with hitting me. So, I would make sure I was on my best behavior!

JDavid25 · Answer

Well women are the holy victims and if a woman hits a man its because he did somethin to deserve it.. According to society.

Bhavin2184 · Answer

They have no right to hit man.. Both gender can use violence for self defense.. But it is wrong to hit anyone.

Anonymous · Answer

They can?😯 I will only hit back if some guy tries to grab my parts or tries to rape or hit me that is SELF DEFENCE

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

No one should be hitting anyone unless it's in self defense

Nmalinova · Answer

It's not ok to hit men! That's ridiculous, no one should beat another!

Finchie40 · Answer

It’s not ok for eather , end that relationship and move on

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