Does it mean I’m unattractive if in bars/clubs I kiss girls, and then they give me their numbers without me asking, but ignore/block me the next day?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been going to bars/clubs recently and I end up either kissing the girl or she asks for my number. However, when I shoot them a text the next day, they don’t respond. Also, I often get compliments from the girls saying that they love my eyebrows.

—I want to know if I’m just unattractive?—

I’m really confused, since even if I’m personally drunk and I approach a girl, it’s not just a drunk moment. Sure I want to hookup, but I’m also interested (find them attractive) and am ok with hanging out later. Unfortunately I don’t even get the chance, despite the fact that THEY asked for my number and we kissed.

[HiveBee]

Nah no way. Similar problem for me.

It turns out, girls basically treat a guy like he doesn't exist if he's ugly. Unless he's very outgoing and fun and can imitate and grab her attention. Maybe you're that guy and they decide they dont want you the next day.

For me, I had girls approaching me and initiating flirting with me. But I was so shy at the time. They would just lose interest and walk away. I interpreted that as me being ugly at the time.

But girls dont kiss guys and approach them in bars and clubs unless they look good. Even average looking guys dont get that treatment. So unless you're the outgoing fun type who can get that attention through your personality and energy, than you're just good looking. Any other kind of guy gets ignored like he's invisible.

Dont live in pain like I did wishing I was dead cuz I thought I was ugly. I was just shy.

If the girls dont call you back, it doesn't mean anything. They wouldn't do all that if you weren't fun/attractive. Even the best ladies man pimp players dont get calls or texts back. Girls are like that. Us guys expect to have 100% success but even the best gentile 20% at most and that's killing it lol.

You could work on your text game. If you text wrong you're assed out with girls. Unless the bitch is in love with you, if you text wrong its over lol.

[Asker]

thanks for the reply, just had a few questions.

I’m overall a energetic person, but my low confidence makes me shy (if that makes sense). Recently, though, I have been more energetic and dance and overall look happier.

Before I was too serious looking until one of my friends brought it up.

Now, girls look at me a lot. However in every situation that I’ve been making out or talking with girls, I haven’t done anything special... I just approached and talked to them.

For example, two weeks ago I was making out with this one girl (who ended up giving me a number which wasn’t hers), and this one other girl came up immediately after I left the first girl and we started talking and making out. Her friend then came up and we started talking. The following week, I went to another bar and the second girls friend was there. She came up, and started talking to me with a new
friend. Her friend said that her friend wanted to kiss me, but was shy. She tried kissing me but I pulled away and left cuz I just wasn’t feeling it.

Some of these girl average, but others are slightly above average.

I just wanted to see, if a guy was average looking and approached a girl, would they give him their time of day or even kiss them, despite drinking?

Also, if I get approached by average girls, does this mean I’m average?

I’m just super confused/having an identity problem...

Thanks

[HiveBee]

Average might as well be ugly as far as I see it lol. If you're fun and all that shit it doesn't matter what you look like though. You could be hideous but fun and that's working. I don't know. I just know that I was one of those guys who believes girls only want hot guys with money until I saw girls going nuts over ugly ass dudes. But all these ugly dudes had one thing in common. They were fun and cool and relaxed and had zero problems with shyness around girls. So that kinda taught me the truth. And hot dudes who are shy get no action with girls. Well, not really. They still get some. So if you're shy as fuck and still get some attention from girls than you're just good looking.

If you're super hot, like model status, girls will tell you you're handsome and compliment your looks and act thirsty as fuck lol. You can still be good looking but not model tier and get attention from girls. But ya know, there's different levels if you're an 8 or a 10 lol.

A lot of girls dont even have attraction to a guy until he starts talking to her. They aren't all like us guys seeing someone hot and that's that. If you talk to them and are fun they dont give af whaf you look like.

No point worrying. about how you look if you are fun and confident and all that shit. Helps to be hot tho I suppose lmao.

[Shirin_Esfa]

I don't think it means that because in that case they probably wouldn't give you their number, right?
Sometimes girls are just weird haha. Maybe she was drunk that evening and her behavior seems embarrassing to her now. There can be all kinds of reasons why she doesn't want to see you again, doesn't need to have anything to do with you ;)

[Laura85]

If they kiss you after a drink there is an attraction. Most likely the personality isn't what they might like when they sober up

[Asker]

When you say, “the personality isn’t what they might like”, what do mean exactly?

Are you saying that they are physically attracted, but once they are sober they realize there was only a superficial/physical connection but not a true/emotional/personal connection?

Or are you saying something else?

thanks

[Laura85]

When girls go out for a drink we often do thing we regret. That is no fault of the guy or not in anyway a judgement but the next day we don't have the same levels of excitement. The will to engage with the personality just isn't there