Why do guys flock to you when you're single and loving it, yet when you seek a relationship...

[Anonymous]

It's when you've given up and finally realized that your life can be rich, eventful, and fulfilling without a guy in it. You've decided that you're not going to waste anymore of your precious,divine energy yearning for male companionship. It's like when you've become a whole individual who's resource of happiness lies within things other than a relationship is when guys want you. It seems like when you're single and enjoying your life to bits, guys flock to you the way bees flock to honey :)

Guys, please be very detailed. Why is this? Ladies, what's your experience with feeling needy of a relationship and not having luck getting one? Or if the description above applies to you, feel free to share. :)

[birrju]

I want to say that about the most guys who try to appease the girls many times, they just flirts.Only and main purpose for them is to f*** the particular girl and they flatter with good but false complements and once they fulfill their wish then they don't care about that girl. So if want a serious and fair relationship with some guy ,you have to be very careful about it

And try to spy them because this can help you to understand the nature of that guy.

and don't take my opinion loosely because I m psychologist and I can understand the nature ,thinking and type of the human .

MORE LATER...BYE

[WaleedHassanien]

first of all this sitution goes both ways, not for girls only.

However the explanation is, usually both guys and girls search for a stable succesfull partenr.

therefore when you-i don't mean you exactly- focus on developing your personality and culture and have a succefull career you became a magnit for all those in need for a stable relationship.

However when you chase for a relationship you start neglicting many important life factors like career and culture, therefore you join the other side...get it?

maybe...this is just my assumption

[udolipixie]

Not really

Guys flock mainly to single girls & girls flock mainly to taken guys.

[Asker]

Ummm wow I don't know wtf kind of girl you are, but you seem like a skank. I know a lot of single girls that don't flock to taken guys. Being single is not all it takes to have a guy flock to you! There are a lot of single girls out there who are so needy and ready for a relationship and they can't get one so obviously guys aren't flocking to them

[WaleedHassanien]

I dunno, for me its not how the girl is ready for a relationsship.

i believe that only when 2 partners have a spark between them-I mean real spark that give butterflysin stomach- it will not matter if either is ready or not for a relationship...because they will have feelings for eachtother which is the most important issue for me.

[Anonymous]

actually on the contrary. I'm attracted to girls in relationships. especially bad ones. something about what I can't have that I usually want AND GET. my current girlfriend just got out of a bad relationship (but we were already ex's) she wanted me back and so did i. the only reason we ever broke up was cause she had to move and now that she's back we're back together :)

so my point is, not all guys are like this. but for those who are, I think its because you come off as obsessed and clingy when all you do is look for a man. I'm guessing you got this from "the nanny"

[MrOracle]

Often it's the other way around, but anyway, it's true of both sexes: people of the opposite gender and sense "despiration", and it's very unattractive. When you are "single and loving it", you have a good attitude, you aren't overly clingy or desparate, and you are FUN. When you are *dying* to be in a relationship, you tend to get too serious, too emotional, or too clingy, and none of those things are fun.

[Asker]

So true :)

[BCRanger10]

It depends on the guy. If he's your stereotypical jock type, he thinks you're playing hard-to-get, which is a bit of a turn-on for some guys. Personally, if I ask a girl out and she say's "no", out of respect I'll back off, though I've wondered about that sometimes because I can't tell if she is in fact playing hard-to-get or geniunely not interested.