Great job offer - girlfriend doesn't want me to take it?

[AstralPlanes]

I've recently been offered a new and extremely well paying job. Currently I'm working part-time as a retail slave, and my girlfriend is unemployed but occasionally sells art to make a few dollars here and there. But primarily, we live on my income, which is very little.

I've been offered this job that's a huge step up for me, working in admin and getting three-times more income, however, the job involves a lot of travel meaning I would be out of town two-three weeks a month. My girlfriend doesn't like this as she doesn't want me to be that far away from her and she's afraid that we won't last if we don't have contact all the time.

She's even saying that she might have to leave me if I take the job as she doesn't think she could handle being apart from me that regularly. I've told her I'd be able to call her and have skype etc. every day, and it would only be temporary for six months or so, so that way I could save up more money for us.

But she still doesn't want me to go. It's really difficult to make ends meet right now with my current income, and I feel like I really should take this job as I'm afraid an offer like this won't come along again.

But I'm also afraid of losing my girlfriend, who is way more important to me than a job.

Does anyone have any advice or suggestions? Should I take the job anyway and see how we go? Or should I stay in my current role, I'm in a real bind here.

[DebiPie]

Yes, take the job. No, that does not mean that the job is more important. Hear me out, please.

You need a job. That's just life. She should be supportive of you in this. She should. I can see her point. I can see her fears here. However, this can work, it can, and very well.

I am in the same situation and my nephew is too, and he is married with children.

You are in a great situation because she isn't working, she can actually go with you at times. I am only supposing because I do not know your particulars, but I am supposing you will be in a hotel? She can go with you at times. That would be fun.

This can work. My guy has to work out of state for now, or you could say, I have to. lol. We make it work. You must have trust & communication. Oh! The nephew has traveled the globe 3 of 4 weeks a months for years, and his marriage is solid. It works because they work it. Calls, skyp, and when he's home, he's home.

One thing you can't have is threats. You can't threaten to leave because you don't like the situation. If that's how a person is in a relationship or how they communicate to get their way, you have a problem mister.

Talk it out. But take the job. You need a future. You will always need a career. You may not end up with her, but you will need a career.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

your girlfriend clearly will not pay the bills, this job will. take it. of course she will be upset but she needs to understand that's what's best. she sounds really unrealistic and unreasonable. why can't her unemployed behind get a job to help you out? selling art here and there isn't gonna help out, she's too cute to work at mcdonalds? times are hard and money is money. do what you have to do to ensure your survival. I'm not trying to be a debbie downer but if she will leave you because you dared to get a job to better yourself then she is probably dumb as hell anyway. she should support you and not be so selfish

[butterfly_girl]

I think you should sit your girlfriend down and talk to her. Tell her you're doing this for both of you and your future, you don't want to lose her but you want to be able to provide more. Just cos you're away for a couple of weeks it doesn't mean that you can't call each other etc. I say take the job and try reassuring her that it'll be OK. If she truly loves you and wants a future with you then she'll understand and come around :-) x

[Killfest400]

The obvious solution to your money woes is to have HER get a real job, since she's not contributing and is against you taking a better job. If she doesn't like that idea, then it's up to you to decide whether sticking in your situation is really worth it.

[FrancoBattiato]

Ignore her. She's just being needy and it's not worth missing out on the offer

[hahahmm]

Old post, but I guarantee you that if a job offered her 3x pay she would go for it and tell you that if you don't want to pack a suitcase and follow her around the country, you can piss off & die. She hasn't earned the level of trust it would take for you to risk this on her -- and if she had earned that trust it would be because she'd move anywhere she needs to or live on the road with you.

[toulouse]

TAKE THE JOB. If she is an adult. shell deal. She will recognize that it is important, you guys can't live on wild berries. Plus its a good opportunity for you. If she had a good opportunity you would be supportive right? So take it.

[Carping]

You have answered your own question there. You don't want to loose her and she means more to you than a job... And the next qustion is?

[Shaun]

Since she has no job, she should travel with you.