I've been offered this job that's a huge step up for me, working in admin and getting three-times more income, however, the job involves a lot of travel meaning I would be out of town two-three weeks a month. My girlfriend doesn't like this as she doesn't want me to be that far away from her and she's afraid that we won't last if we don't have contact all the time.
She's even saying that she might have to leave me if I take the job as she doesn't think she could handle being apart from me that regularly. I've told her I'd be able to call her and have skype etc. every day, and it would only be temporary for six months or so, so that way I could save up more money for us.
But she still doesn't want me to go. It's really difficult to make ends meet right now with my current income, and I feel like I really should take this job as I'm afraid an offer like this won't come along again.
But I'm also afraid of losing my girlfriend, who is way more important to me than a job.
Does anyone have any advice or suggestions? Should I take the job anyway and see how we go? Or should I stay in my current role, I'm in a real bind here.
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Yes, take the job. No, that does not mean that the job is more important. Hear me out, please.
You need a job. That's just life. She should be supportive of you in this. She should. I can see her point. I can see her fears here. However, this can work, it can, and very well.
I am in the same situation and my nephew is too, and he is married with children.
You are in a great situation because she isn't working, she can actually go with you at times. I am only supposing because I do not know your particulars, but I am supposing you will be in a hotel? She can go with you at times. That would be fun.
This can work. My guy has to work out of state for now, or you could say, I have to. lol. We make it work. You must have trust & communication. Oh! The nephew has traveled the globe 3 of 4 weeks a months for years, and his marriage is solid. It works because they work it. Calls, skyp, and when he's home, he's home.
One thing you can't have is threats. You can't threaten to leave because you don't like the situation. If that's how a person is in a relationship or how they communicate to get their way, you have a problem mister.
Talk it out. But take the job. You need a future. You will always need a career. You may not end up with her, but you will need a career.