I did once, but only for a one-night stand. I didn't have the self-esteem to open up to her and let her into my life.
I think "getting the girl" is a) about self-acceptance (learning to live with yourself), because otherwise you will get in your own way, and b) it is about practise interacting with women, and about understanding them.
I haven't mastered the self-acceptance thing yet (I hate myself), but as for the "game"/skills with women/understanding of women, I recommend the Mating Grounds Podcast and the book that goes with it ("What Women Want").
How some dudes on here complaining they always have to be the one to take initiative and then complain that women are the ones with all the power? Bitch if you're the one making moves you're the one with power over the situation.
Her possibly saying no is just her having power over HER OWN BODY, which everydamnbody has regardless of whether you want them or not, and which if you are upset about is a huge fucking red flag. Damn bro.
And yes this doesn't mean as much coming from me because she did say yes and now I have her. But still. You can do it man just don't give up. Sometimes you need to take a break, work with yourself, whatever, but don't give up. Hope you do good.
Maybe guys don’t get every girl they want every time. Some do ( ... players, for example )
Everyone becomea attracted to many different people throughout their lifetime, & I believe that they end up dating, or sleeping with a fair percentage of those people.
What ya want and what ya need are never the same. That's why.
We all want someone because it seems appealing, then that one ya need comes along and all them ones you want don't seem so important anymore
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I got one, and that's enough for me.
And no, you can't pick someone out of a catalog. We all get crushes on people who turn out to be uninterested in us or simply unavailable. It happens to everyone, men and women. That's life. Besides, a crush is just a crush. Until you spend time with someone you have no idea if you could work as a couple.
Still there are many happy couples. Keep dating, and keep an open mind. What you think you want may not be what will make you happy.
The key is to not expect anything; comes off desperate through body language & inhibits the natural flow of the date. 80% of communication is non verbal. You can get the idea of how much is being conveyed that a average mans not aware of. Woman are naturally much more adept at this & men need to catch up :) As far as getting the girl the best a man can do is lead & she can choose to follow or not.
You don't get the girl you really want.
Cause when you really want a girl, the simp switch turns on your brain... and simping is unattractive.
But when you don't care about a girl much (at least at the beginning)... you act normal.
Sounds rough but that's hrd facts
To be honest there has never been a girl I really wanted. No girl has ever reached the point where she has been it. So obviously I never got her. I don't think anyone reach that point before dating in the first place. It would be delusional.
Most of the time we are the ones who choose. But man sometimes also chooses. Usually the men who really know what they want are the ones who choose. The rest just hangin there waiting to be choosen.
There is no "the girl" just "a girl". The guys who place a specific girl/ woman on a pedestal of being the one often struggle. If you avoid that then you increase the possibility of finding a solid one.
Oh absolutely! As men, we have to give women something to be inspired by and want to be a part of. If you want to get girls, that's what you have to do.
I never get the girl... probably never will. I'm just cursed like that
I did but that was because she wanted me.
I can't take much credit for our success. It was just so good that I don't dare lose her.
Not so far. either they rejectt me or I let them go then regret it afterward...
DM me if you want the stories
I've never dated a women I was actually interested in.
My wife asked me out.
Girl? Oh, yeah!! I think I've heard of those!! Isn't that a new Italian car?
I'm order to get the girl, you gotta take initiative and also keep yourself open.
I do neither of these, so I'm never getting the girl.
I got the girl...
for a year I lived the dream.
A long while has passed... but that year is all I see when I close my eyes
All the girls I've liked till date haven't shown an iota of interest liking me back 😂😂 I won't give up if there's some reciprocation.
You are wrong about that. Often times men in life get the girl that they are after. Other times, it does not work out so well for them.
Got the girl once for one brilliant moment, then quickly blindsided by the breakup, worst I’ve ever felt. I feel like it cancels out getting the girl and then some.
Almost all men must settle for who they can get; otherwise, they would all seek movie stars.
Yeah right, girls don't want a guy with a face like mine.
No, but I really don't want anyone else so if I can't be with "the one" i'd rather be single
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