Do you ever get the girl?

[MLGbreezy]

Do you ever get the girl you wanted. I feel like majority of the time men aren't the ones who choose the girl they want. More often I feel like girl comes along that fits the bill of what you want, which isn't nessarly a bad thing. But why does it seem like when there's a girl you really like abd want to be with most of the time the guy doesn't get that girl?

[Goatmeal]

I did once, but only for a one-night stand. I didn't have the self-esteem to open up to her and let her into my life.

I think "getting the girl" is a) about self-acceptance (learning to live with yourself), because otherwise you will get in your own way, and b) it is about practise interacting with women, and about understanding them.

I haven't mastered the self-acceptance thing yet (I hate myself), but as for the "game"/skills with women/understanding of women, I recommend the Mating Grounds Podcast and the book that goes with it ("What Women Want").

[MLGbreezy]

I like this answer 👏🏾👍🏾🔥

[Goatmeal]

Thanks bro

[snackthatsmilesback]

How some dudes on here complaining they always have to be the one to take initiative and then complain that women are the ones with all the power? Bitch if you're the one making moves you're the one with power over the situation.

Her possibly saying no is just her having power over HER OWN BODY, which everydamnbody has regardless of whether you want them or not, and which if you are upset about is a huge fucking red flag. Damn bro.

And yes this doesn't mean as much coming from me because she did say yes and now I have her. But still. You can do it man just don't give up. Sometimes you need to take a break, work with yourself, whatever, but don't give up. Hope you do good.

[MissGeorgia]

Maybe guys don’t get every girl they want every time. Some do ( ... players, for example )
Everyone becomea attracted to many different people throughout their lifetime, & I believe that they end up dating, or sleeping with a fair percentage of those people.

[MissGeorgia]

*becomes*

[Miah02]

What ya want and what ya need are never the same. That's why.

We all want someone because it seems appealing, then that one ya need comes along and all them ones you want don't seem so important anymore

[MLGbreezy]

Wow thats an interesting way of putting it

[MLGbreezy]

Your wise asf for your age

[MLGbreezy]

Pretty as hell too, I appreciate the wisdom shawty

[slatyb]

I got one, and that's enough for me.

And no, you can't pick someone out of a catalog. We all get crushes on people who turn out to be uninterested in us or simply unavailable. It happens to everyone, men and women. That's life. Besides, a crush is just a crush. Until you spend time with someone you have no idea if you could work as a couple.

Still there are many happy couples. Keep dating, and keep an open mind. What you think you want may not be what will make you happy.

[Overmind]

The key is to not expect anything; comes off desperate through body language & inhibits the natural flow of the date. 80% of communication is non verbal. You can get the idea of how much is being conveyed that a average mans not aware of. Woman are naturally much more adept at this & men need to catch up :) As far as getting the girl the best a man can do is lead & she can choose to follow or not.

[Arumin_Ian]

You don't get the girl you really want.

Cause when you really want a girl, the simp switch turns on your brain... and simping is unattractive.

But when you don't care about a girl much (at least at the beginning)... you act normal.

Sounds rough but that's hrd facts

[Nikola321]

When you are just being nice, that's not being a simp. There is diference between just being nice and kind and being a simp. And there are girls that like nice guys, and even simps, though those are rare nowadays.

[MLGbreezy]

While true I do find that not careing seems to bring far more far more Intrest in woman. Does it make any type of sense? No but do woman make any sense? Rarely.

[Arumin_Ian]

@Nikola321 Nothing wrong with being nice. What I said was, when we men like a girl a lot... our logical brain seems to stop working and we act like a simp even if we don't want to

[Arumin_Ian]

@MLGbreezy Yeah! Women never make sense! The LAST PERSON to know about what a woman wants is herself!!

[MissGeorgia]

It depends on the girl. Some girls just want to know where they stand with a guy.
In the past, when a guy acted like he didn’t care, I believed him. What is the point in trying to decode the rest?
Just be upfront.
With my partner, I asked his best friend if he thought he liked me enough to want to be with me, or if it was just a bit of fun for him at that time and his friend said “ I think he’d do anything for you” and it was the most secure I had ever felt about a guy ( don’t ask me why he chose me, I don’t know) Even now, this is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever been in.
Everyone wants to be wanted. Everyone wants someone who genuinely cares about them, and shows them that.
I know that guys want girls to be straight with them aswell. I don’t get why people can’t just be straight with each other without that stupid fight for the upper hand. It’s ridiculous.

[Nikola321]

@MissGeorgia well said!
@Arumin_Ian yy I get what u meant, I was trying to say, it doesn't have to be that. Like, some guys, just are being nice and kind, an not an actual simp to the girl he likes a lot. Like, they like her, are kind and nice to her, but still won't fullfil her every wish, and such other stuff simps do

[Adam1978]

To be honest there has never been a girl I really wanted. No girl has ever reached the point where she has been it. So obviously I never got her. I don't think anyone reach that point before dating in the first place. It would be delusional.

[Anonymous]

Most of the time we are the ones who choose. But man sometimes also chooses. Usually the men who really know what they want are the ones who choose. The rest just hangin there waiting to be choosen.

[InferiorElegy]

Guys don't choose, the female is the one who chooses, the only way a guy chooses is which girl to go for, but that doesn't mean the girl will choose the guy. No matter how much a guy wants to date any girl it always has to be the girl to choose the guy she wants, so your comment makes no sense.

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you dont choose. But alpha males choose. My man chose me. And accepting him was the best thing i ever did.

[Opinion Owner]

you are a beta thats why from your perception male dont choose. Because there's no girl that will accept you never

[Opinion Owner]

And your name proves what i say... Just look at your nickname "inferior" of course there's no girl who will accept someone like you. We like apha males that know what they want.

[InferiorElegy]

Anonymous, probably a guy yourself and probably a simp.

You don't know anything about me or what I've gone through. I wasn't wanted by females before when I was was confident and alpha, that has nothing to do with anything, I've never been rejected and told it was because I wasn't alpha enough but I have been told that it's because I'm ugly and I've heard that my entire life and that's because females only care about Money and Looks.

The fact you think you can harm me by saying petty things is useless, I've been called worse and I'm used to it, besides I'd rather be called inferior, unwanted or a beta over being a fucking simp that grovels for some worm like yourself.

[InferiorElegy]

Also it doesn't matter how unwanted I am or how lonely I'll end up, only thing that matters to me is money and I can guarantee I make way more than your alpha cuck.

[Opinion Owner]

Lol i won't even read you beta male. Loser

[Opinion Owner]

Just because you can't choose a girl doesn't mean all the male are loser like you

[InferiorElegy]

Of course you won't, you probably can't read.

[OurManFlint]

There is no "the girl" just "a girl". The guys who place a specific girl/ woman on a pedestal of being the one often struggle. If you avoid that then you increase the possibility of finding a solid one.

[FilmGuy93]

Oh absolutely! As men, we have to give women something to be inspired by and want to be a part of. If you want to get girls, that's what you have to do.

[dray995]

How do you do that?

[Jerry39451]

I never get the girl... probably never will. I'm just cursed like that

[Andres77]

I did but that was because she wanted me.
I can't take much credit for our success. It was just so good that I don't dare lose her.

[Coulis]

💝💖💝

[JHNS98]

Not so far. either they rejectt me or I let them go then regret it afterward...

DM me if you want the stories

[Robertcw]

I'd say, don't waste time while you're younger than 26. Reality is after 25 life is all about aging and getting ugly. Not to scare you, but I wish someone told me five years ago that I only had five years left.

Don't waste your days off. You must go out in public and approach single women and flirt. Your life does literally depend on it in some big ways, especially the trajectory of your future.

[JHNS98]

I don't really do that, but maybe I'll have to change my ways...

I'm not even sure if I'm ready for a relationship right now to be frank, I have some stuff to deal with.

[JHNS98]

Besides, approaching strangers in public is not really culture where I'm from

[Robertcw]

Honestly man, just do it anyway. At least you'll have tried. 27 is a tough year for everyone because of biology. But life to 26 is pretty sweet so there's nothing to lose by trying especially if you just try to be well groomed and halfway educated. Girls under 25 want guys their age to take to them (who try to be groomed and decently well educated). Their worst nightmare is a 30+ year old hitting on them in public. Do they prefer 25 year olds to 22 year olds? Yeah maybe, probably. But here's the thing, if you want until 25 to make a move you have only 12 - 24 months to make progress. Not much time. (Especially if a pandemic were to suddenly break out at 25 🤦🏻‍♂️).

Better to spend 3 years getting ready for 25 with experience so that by 25 you're already ready to go.

[Slartybartfast]

I've never dated a women I was actually interested in.

My wife asked me out.

[Seppel]

I thought it's written slartibartfass 😅

[FunkyMonkee]

Girl? Oh, yeah!! I think I've heard of those!! Isn't that a new Italian car?

[AdithyaR]

I'm order to get the girl, you gotta take initiative and also keep yourself open.
I do neither of these, so I'm never getting the girl.

[Robertcw]

You got 6 years left man. 6 years. Stop wasting your youth and your time. Incredibly stupid to waste it.

Practice flirting now because it is actually less of a big deal at your age because people still perceive you as a kid out and about.

[AdithyaR]

Thanks for the advice but I'm good. I'm not looking to date. I've got other goals.

[AdithyaR]

It's not that I don't know how to flirt, I already had one relationship which was very toxic and messed me up. I don't want the risk of getting that again.

[innerman]

I got the girl...
for a year I lived the dream.
A long while has passed... but that year is all I see when I close my eyes

[na2398]

All the girls I've liked till date haven't shown an iota of interest liking me back 😂😂 I won't give up if there's some reciprocation.

[princeofromance]

You are wrong about that. Often times men in life get the girl that they are after. Other times, it does not work out so well for them.

[Anonymous]

Got the girl once for one brilliant moment, then quickly blindsided by the breakup, worst I’ve ever felt. I feel like it cancels out getting the girl and then some.

[DWornock]

Almost all men must settle for who they can get; otherwise, they would all seek movie stars.

[InferiorElegy]

Yeah right, girls don't want a guy with a face like mine.

[John_2412]

No, but I really don't want anyone else so if I can't be with "the one" i'd rather be single

[Nikola321]

same :D

[NewEl3mentz]

Unfortunately, not. She knew I like her from 6th to 8th grade. But however, there is plenty of more fish in the sea.

[Slim57]

Nah I've dated every kinda girl except the one who actually shares the same hobbies as me

[boggboss]

I got the girl I wanted lol

[MLGbreezy]

Well then I guess it's just me 😭

[exitseven]

I do. I did when it counted the most.

[Yourfriend2021]

That's how life is in today's world.

[Twalli]

I mean I asked her out and she didn't turn me down

[friendzoned4life]

Nah she is always in an other castle

[anylolone]

Nope, they are the ones that get me.

[Matt3]

Sureeeee
It was great fucking

[Seppel]

I never got the girl I wanted

[Anonymous]

Never was a fan of the Dynamics of dating

[shydude1991]

Never, i only have my hand

[JesseJayNeak]

Used to by I let her go away 😭

[MCheetah]

Not really, no.

[cth96190]

No, never.

[StunningANDbrave]

Yeah

[myassisiconic]

Oh I got her alright

[Shy_Steve]

Your not alone.

[Nayyr247]

I did