What are the motives behind a girl trying to make you jealous and trying to get your attention?

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USMC-Crossroads · Accepted Answer

Run. Unless you've been married for twenty years, and what she is doing is cute or sweet or a little teenagerish, any other motivations are indicative of a real need for the spotlight. Narcissism, basically. It's common with really good-looking women approaching their 30's. It sums up as your affection and commitment is not enough. And unless she has her first child, it will not stop, at least not until her looks actually fade and she confronts her own mortality.

Maybe a bit deeper of an answer than you were hoping for or expecting, but that's the real deal, Bro.

Be civil about it, but... run. Unless you are a self-absorbed pprimadonna, too. In that case, enjoy her insecurity! Of course, that'll mean you are a dick.

But, for a decent guy, you gotta go. She'll not make a good wife.

Lhinzo · Accepted Answer

My Mum would always tell me not to be too entangled with a woman but i should value them and respect them, cause they go through a lot especially those who lost there husband's early into marraige or in difficult times of there marraige. BUT SHE WOULD SAY THAT ASIDE ALL THIS, THAT A WOMAN IS ONE OF THE MOST IF NOT THE MOST COMPLICATED ORGANISM ON EARTH. A womans Yes could be her No in a matter of seconds or can be just moody for no reasonable reason or maybe cause they had there make up wrong or something like that. To a Woman its Always about how you make them feel or what they feel about you or someone or something. So much EQ for one kind of organism.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

She has self-esteem problems. This is the worst way to get a man's attention or anyone who thinks jealousy is foolish, which it is.

People show their love and affection in the way they are able. If a young woman isn't able to accept how her young man shows his affection toward her, then she's with the wrong young man. And if she thinks making a man jealous is a viable way of changing his feelings toward her, she's quite wrong.

They both need to find other people to be with.

nojokecarmichael · Accepted Answer

I did it before to my boyfriend because he made it seem like I wasn't important to him. I wanted to see his reaction, to see if he cared and to hopefully get him to act like I thought a boyfriend should. It was obvious he knew how to since he talked about it but didn't back it and show me the same. I became insecure in my relationship.

Ukrainianbuddafly · Answer

She likes you, dork. Lol all jokes aside some women don't know how to go about expressing themselves and are petrified of rejection so we might do silly things like try to make you jealous which will in turn make some females think you like her. At my age I've come to understand that isn't always the case because some men won't want you but don't want you with anyone else but yea.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

she's an attention whore. And/or she's trying to gain control in the relationship.

The correct response is to never show jealousy. Or you can say something like "i dont date girls who flirt with every dude" and then assume you're on to the next girl. If she's serious about you she will say that she won't do that again problem solved.

Anonymous · Answer

Another immature girl who can't be direct since she is afraid of being seen as as easy. She wants you to be her boyfriend but she also wants you to chase her instead of approaching you and making the first step. Cavemen mentality lol. I can understand her but she still should not do that even if idiots slutshame her. She should be stronger and defend herself from idiots who slutshame her

SupremeWarlord · Answer

That's immature behavior in my opinion.

My guess is that when you feel you're being neglected by your partner, or if you think they're not being affectionate enough towards you, then making them jealous might be a strategy to win their affection back, they'll feel like they're losing you, so they start pampering you again. This works.

HawkPerception · Answer

Immaturity. No mature partner would want their significant other to feel any negative emotions if they truly cared about them.

jessicake · Answer

To see if you care about her. It’s manipulative of her, but she’s trying to see if she can get a reaction

sanyaranjan · Answer

I think all she wants to know is that how much you can do for her, how far you can go for her and to see how you behave like does it really effect you do you try different things to get her attention. But she is not into you but still doing such things then all she wants is attention.

flamiE · Answer

To see if you care about her? It’s a mystery for me too lol

Overmind · Answer

Personally I don't care about someone that's so insecure she has to attempt to manipulate me to feel better. That's vampiric in my eyes. The motives insecurity insurance.

Billlewis · Answer

If she goes out of her way to make me jealous, she’s probably trying to get me to marry her…lol.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Your answer is in your question: SHE WANTS ATTENTION. Sometimes you are looking at a spotted Zebra, but most of the time; you're just looking at a cow.

ArztSchlachthof · Answer

Can't crack the nut either, they happen to do that and are hurt if you are irritated about it. Seems kinda counterproductive.

Anonymous · Answer

She is immature and toxic and very low self esteem.

ChiTown33 · Answer

You said it yourself "girl". The minute you catch a female doing this drop her flat. She's got growing up to do and isn't worth your time.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Sorry, I don't play those silly games. I just move on. Life is too short.

Luvme66 · Answer

Every relationship is all about the power struggle. Simple... No brainer, don't listen to the virtuous opinions on here.

Omario2049 · Answer

Trying to make me jealuse is the fastest way to loose me. If that's her type of guy then I'm not the guy for her.

ThisGirlHasNoName · Answer

To see if it makes a difference to you, and see if she has a chance with you.  Or if you’ve hurt her in the past, and she wants you to feel the same way.  Basically, a reaction.

Guanfei · Answer

This:

Anonymous · Answer

If she’s doing that to you now, what is she going to be like in the actual relationship?

Roxanbabu · Answer

Im simple and alone boy i can respect girl and respectable person

Asianguy123 · Answer

Love of money? Love of money is the root of all evil

Anonymous · Answer

Relationships ain't guaranteed anymore. If she likes you. Run like hell.

Anonymous · Answer

She wants you to club her on the head and drag her back to your cave.

Waldoe · Answer

Power Trippin' Bitches, real women don't do that.

StunningANDbrave · Answer

Manipulation and control.

red_knight · Answer

Trying to control your emotions.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Because females are innate attention whores.

myassisiconic · Answer

Jealous men taste better

IsoUser · Answer

Girls just play with our emotions

Tadpole_berry · Answer

Getting your attention.

stephanie-ramos · Answer

She might be toxic.

Anonymous · Answer

MGTOW they dont care about you that simple

Anonymous · Answer

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