Do women really like sexist and mean guys over woke and nice guys?

[Anonymous]

I’ve heard things such as “bad boys” and “slightly racist guys” as people girls, even feminists, are attracted to. They see “misogynistic” men as more masculine and capable of protecting?

[Anonymous]

I think it has more to do with how much confidence the person has. Obnoxious and "bad boys" tend to be more confident. Nice guys tend to not be as confident about who they are because they are afraid of offending someone. Nice people try to people please to be "nice." I'd like to point out that nice doesn't equal kind. Those are two different things in my opinion.

Also, being attracted to someone and liking them are two different things. There are some guys I'm attracted to but I cannot stand. As in I actually hate how mean they are and would never do anything physical with them. I think most women just can't tell the difference between being attracted to someone physically and actually having feelings for them. You can't help who you are physically attracted to, it just kind of happens.

Also, it's not that girls don't like kind guys. If a girl doesn't like "the nice guy", the problem is that they don't like anything about them EXCEPT the fact that they are nice. Girls like kind guys that they find attractive. "Nice" really just translates to not being threatening. It's not really a trait that sets you apart. Everyone should at the very least be nice.

[Asker]

1.) What makes you attracted to people you can’t stand?
2.) why does confidence matter? What’s wrong with a guy with natural insecurities

[Opinion Owner]

1. I thought they were hot before I knew what they were like or I just find them physically attractive. Not attractive overall.
2. I'll start off by saying that confidence is important when initially meeting. Once you love the person, you wouldn't care as much if at all. That being said, everyone has insecurities. Being confident means being sure of who you are and your abilities. You are proud of everything even your insecurities. (or at least you act that way) Confidence is displayed by how you carry yourself, having nice posture, not questioning yourself all the time when speaking.
I guess it just matters because they aren't as wishy-washy? I honestly don't know why it's attractive but it goes for guys too. Plus you can look up a bunch of articles on the scientific reason.

- You can be confident even with insecurities. Say you have a scar on your chest and you're at the beach. You can either not be confident and try to hide it. OR you can walk with an amazing posture and own it. I think confidence is mostly what it looks like to other people. I don't think there is a single good person who actually thinks they are the best. If they do, they are arrogant.
Also, I realize now that I should have said that obnoxious and "bad boys" are arrogant which is like confidence but more annoying.

[Rachelspiks]

No, I don't like either. The "nice" guys usually have ulterior motives for why they are "nice", and the "bad boys" are just plain evil.

[Asker]

Would you prefer masculine guy that was semi racist or semi misogynistic or some soy feminist buzzfeed guy? People always say that feminist girls end up with the guys they complain about, the patriarchy guys.

[Rachelspiks]

I already answered: neither. They're both to be avoided.

[Cozybcuz]

It's probably more about liking confidence, if you despise racists I doubt you would want to sleep with one. You just need to be more then nice, that is be funny, interesting and all that stuff

[Rachelspiks]

Exactly! Here's someone who understands! :)

[Robin83]

Yes they do. Women find masculinity attractive, even if it’s a little toxic. Femininity isn’t attractive at all for them. The two opposing behaviours attract eachother normally.

[Anonymous]

Holy shit yes. Woke guys are crap. We were made to be with alpha males.

[rjroy3]

Toxic dick is a meme for a reason