I have an ex just like you. He screwed everything up and has spent years trying to fix things with me. Calling from blocked numbers, making fake Snapchat’s and Instagrams, reaching out to my mom and my best friend. He’s done everything but LISTEN to what I have already told him. So my advice to you, would be to stop trying to force your way into her life. It’s so rude and disrespectful for her to flat out tell you she’s done, and you decide to treat her rejection as an obstacle because you are being selfish and want a friendship. It does not work like that and let me tell you, the more you keep trying to push for this the more you will push her away because you won’t LISTEN. As someone who has a guy continuously doing what you are thinking of doing, I am urging you to respect her wishes and leave her alone. She means it.
Thats a really tough situation and you would really have to make strong amends. You would have to do favors and prove you are indeed apologetic.
I would start with a written letter well written too in details of how you did them wrong and I would also write that I understand you never wanting to speak to me and you may not ever forgive me but I need to let you know that I am sincerely sorry for hurting you.
From some of the comments it sounds to me like the Only way for that to happen is to not try and actually forget about it.
Over the years she will forget you and you her. You will have completely separate lives and your personalities will mature and change over time. And then after 10 years either by accident or by deliberation you'll cross paths and maybe, just maybe she will be open to talk to you. Then you'd have to demonstrate that you've changed and that's your way in.
But you will also have inevitably changed by then and might not even bother thinking about it.
My point is, she is hurt, scarred and still pissed like a hornets nest. That shit need some serious time to fade into the background. You're both off better letting go.
I dont know, I don't talk with any of my exes. Its best not to, because you don't know how she would react seeing you with someone else or you if you see her with someone else... Maybe you won't approve of the guy when it isn't your business or vice versa. Good luck.
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I think you're wasting your time. Friendship is a two-way street. That ship has sailed with her. Doesn't matter what YOU want. It has to be mutual.
You can always make an overture. Maybe enough time has passed for her to forgive you, but you did say she hates you and doesn't want to be friends with you. You've given yourself the answer.
It's not possible.
It’s too late you treated her badly and you made her your ex / she doesn’t want anything to do with you. Move on and treat the next woman better. Now the next man can treat her better.
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I don’t think you want to do that. Respectfully, That to me sounds like an excuse to keep being in her life in hopes of getting back together somehow and someday. I’d say move on and heal. & let her heal. Find yourself again and do things you love and stopped doing before her. Someday you’ll find someone much better who fits exactly what you look for :) don’t give up that hope. Wish you a happy day/night✨
You need to respect her wishes and feelings and just let her be. There is a learning lesson from everything we do in life, and this is definitely one of them. If she ever has a change in heart, there is the possibility she will reach out to you. "If you really love this girl as much as you say you do, just tell goodbye and good luck" - Orlando Jones-- "Say it Isn't So" (2001 Movie with Chris Klein and Heather Graham). Why were you such a douche bag to her?
You don't. Before she accuses you of harassment. She doesn't want to bother you anymore and you should respect her. If you know you in another relationship, why are you going to risk sabotaging that one?
Let her go, as she asks. Take it as a life lesson. You screwed up with someone you loved. Learn from it and try not to do it again.
Evil ones can’t become friends again with ex/people they mistreated. People that mistreat DO NOT change this is why a smart ex will fail to return and be friends again. Your loss her freedom
Unfortunately, you can't make anyone want to be friends with you. You can give a heartfelt and sincere apology, but if they don't want to accept it, there is nothing more you can do.
You leave her the fuck alone! If she doesn't want an ex in her life, you do not push your agenda on her.
You don't. You said yourself your treated her bad. You don't get to be in her life now just because you realize you fucked up and feel bad
It’s not going to work since you treated her bad. It’s best to give up on that.
It never works like that. Of course, it will be difficult to accept the breakup but being friends with her will not work, just move on
Leave the poor girl alone
You've done enough damage!!
Leave her alone, you put her in shambles why would she want to back with you? I personally would hate you too if you did that to me, don’t talk to her move on with life.
learn from your mistakes, move on, don't treat the next girl as just F*** meat.
You don't. You already blew your shot when you treated her like shit. Apologize if you get a chance and then move on.
You can't force anyone to be friends with you, much less if there's so much resentment. You can apologize but it won't guarantee she'll become friendly with you.
Acknowledge the fact that you inflicted pain and trauma onto someone and use it as a way of learning. Next time you meet someone you know what not to do.
Why? What value will that add? If she doesn’t want to, you need to move on.
Friend zone is never a place you wanna be.
Better choice is slam the door and keep walking
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