Why is my friend always pointing out my flaws?

[chillaid]

My friend always points out my flaws. Many times she would point out and say that my hair was “crazy” even though it really was not. And one time i was on a call with her, she said that her hair was crazy. I then started realizing that she was insecure about her own hair and she was taking it out on ME! I decided to confront her, i said that she was doing this because she was insecure and i told that i was confident with myself and happy. She told me that she had nothing to be insecure about “just look at me, what is something i can be insecure about? nothing!” i just stared at her and ignored her. Even after this encounter she continued to shame me for all the thing she was insecure about. One again she said i had a big forehead though i clearly don’t. then a day later she told me her forehead was big… at this point i was getting annoyed and questioning myself. Even today (weeks after) she pointed out the smaller flaw, one of my tiny baby hairs were poking out. I don’t understand why she’s so obsessed with pointing out my flaws, can someone please explain this? Also i’m trying to be the better person here so i’m not going to respond back to her and make fun of her as she did to me cause that is morally wrong. (fyi- i posted this same question on another account i just want more people to see this!)

[JakeS00]

I don’t know why a friend would point out flaws. That’s a red flag in friendship. I feel like she’s trying to act better than you and possibly looking at what flaws you have that she may not. A friend doesn’t do that.

[chillaid]

i agree that it’s a red flag, however she’s the only close friend i have at school right now. it does hurt a lot when she points out my flaws and she makes me insecure sometimes. she's done this a lot though so i am pretty much used to it. also i feel that i am above average when it comes to attractiveness i just need to display my confidence.

[JakeS00]

Let her know it hurts. If she continues I wouldn’t talk with her.

[PrettyPriya]

Sounds like maybe she has some insecurities herself and that makes her feel better.

Terribly wrong to solve her insecurities by trying to point to other people.

[chillaid]

yea, i agree with that i just wish there was a better way for her to deal with her insecurities to be honest

[PrettyPriya]

@chillaid

Couldn’t agree more with you.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for MHG

[MORPHEUS_12]

Because they are jealous of you.

[chillaid]

i have been getting the feeling that she is jealous of me, especially since recently she has been copying my behavior and style. even the smallest things i do she mimics me

[lycanthrope3]

Ask her why she is like that

[chillaid]

i’ll make sure to do this next time, thanks!

[Wester1967]

This is no friend