Why do beautiful women often struggle with insecurity and have an unstable sense of self worth, around guys they perceive as genuine and authentic?

[Anonymous]

Beautiful women are often drawn to me and show signs that they're falling for me, but often the extremely beautiful ones have crippling insecurities and an unstable sense of self worth, and often don't think they're good enough for me. They also seem to idealize me, and have told me stuff like I could never do anything event slightly deceptive or cruel.

Sometimes their insecurities are insurmountable. I absolutely do not carry myself in a way that repels or disgusts.

"She likes me so much that she wants nothing to do with me" sounds completely deluded, and if I say that phrase to myself, it makes me laugh at what a toolbag I sound like. (Though when women are extremely insecure, there's some truth to that phrase, as lame as it sounds).

So why do women, especially when they're beautiful, feel like they're not good enough for a really nice, authentic, interesting guy? I got my own flaws, struggles and insecurities, so it's not like I'm perfect or anything.

[DaveJord]

Common dating question, issue and problem. People are victims of thier own experiences, bad choices, and inability effectively confront and deal with their own insecurities... which means they become overwhelmed by thier own anxieties. This pretty much ruins every good relationship they could of had.

I am an honest, sincere and confident person... but honestly people with insecurities find it too much to handle... because it forces them to confront things about themselves that with a lesser man would not be as uncomfortable... until they find that one guy thats has his own issues, hides it better or are perceived as low threat. Over their insecurities clash and then the cycle because both created a relationship in which they " enabled" each other to ignored and/or hid it from each other for a period.

Can't tell how many times, I been told I am so geniue and how they never though they would met someone who is "the real deal". And they freak out about all their previous relationships and insecurities, and can trust that you're honestly who say you are.

So your question is why? I dont know because I can't get my mind around it either, and even if I could... it would change anything for me. Their issues are theirs and I am not a theorist or emotional caretaker just because she's hot.

[Anonymous]

They probably see your existence/someone like you liking them as “too good to be true”. They’ve probably made a lot of mistakes in the past and see themselves as someone not worthy of your time.

Additionally, The girls who like you are probably struggling mentally and emotionally, etc. so they may genuinely feel that you deserve much better than them or think that you’d drop them eventually for someone else who would be nicer to be around.

To sum it up, they don’t want to weigh you down with their problems. They probably feel that you deserve someone who feels complete as a person, not just half of themselves. That’s exactly how I felt when this amazing friend of mine wanted to be something more :(

[Máiiréad]

Perhaps they were treated a certain way most of their life and taught to learn that they are only worthy of love as long as they have their beauty? Like maybe they relied too much on their looks most of their life. (I don't know I’m just guessing lmao)
They might feel like they lack in the personality department and feel they may not have much to offer to someone of actual genuine and kind nature. 🤷🏻‍♀️
If they find that they actually really like a guy like this, it will hurt a lot if they leave, and so the fear sets in and they will reject themselves before they can get really hurt.