Is it a red flag if a girl follows a lot of guys on Instagram?

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Electmen · Accepted Answer

I apply this rule in my personal life:

If she follows people like those ordinary hot male models who live in other countries:
> Like/comment on their pics with lascivious massages. = I consider that to be extremely disrespectful independently of the gender, and I wouldn't want to have anything serious with a woman who does that.🚩
> Doesn't do anything: Might not be a problem if she doesn't compare you with them.

If she follows famous people like actors and athletes:
> Like/comment on their pics with lascivious massages. 🚩
> Like/comment on their pics with no sexual context. = Not a big deal to me.

If she follows normal dudes that lives near her like old friends/school friends/colleagues from her job/family members:
> Like/comment on their pics with lascivious massages. 🚩
> Like/comment on their pics with normal massages BUT she has had sex with some of them: 🚩🚩

If she follows ordinary dudes near her or ###ex boyfriends###
> Like/comment on their pics with lascivious massages. 🚩🚩🚩
> Like/comment on their pics with no sexual context. = 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

ohshee · Accepted Answer

It depends on the girl how well do you know her I know for me like on here and I'm on a couple other chat sites I follow mainly just girls and I would continue to until I get into a relationship and then everything changes remember in life just because you think something doesn't mean it's true I mean with that girl how many guys added her I wanted her to add them and she doesn't even talk to them I think I have just about all girls on here maybe 10 guys on my following list and I might talk to two girls on here and that's just everyone once in awhile maybe once a month if that so just because it looks like something doesn't mean it's true

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

This is what instagram is for. Men follows many beautiful girls to see their pictures and girls follow handsome men to see their pictures. There are many men who follows many women who they know and do not know but they want girls do not follow guys 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ Girls can flirt many guys like guys flirt with many girls there. There can not be double standard sorry. We do not live in that age. But if this girl is your ‘’girlfriend’’ you can just ask who they are. But if she is just your flirt of friend it is not your business.

Kate090 · Accepted Answer

It might be. Some girls could be just as primiscious and lustfull like a lot of guys are. That’s not me personally. The only guys I follow are from childhood, from church, work, school, family members. Pay attention to what kind of guys, are they like half naked, looking sexy kind of guys? If yes then I would say thats a big red flag.

Moose304 · Answer

I am not in an exclusive relationship with anybody. In fact, I refuse to do so. I do have some girls that I am friends with benefits with. So in all honesty I don't really care if she has a thousand or more contacts regardless of the social media type. I just care that when she is with me to actually be with me and not have her mind somewhere else. That pisses me off more than anything else. In a committed relationship, I always counsel caution with friends of the opposite sex. I even hold tighter standards in a marriage. Trust and transparency run through the same channel. ANYBODY that says different is toxic. You can NOT bend transparency and not bend trust. As I was writing this comment I stopped a minute and mentally reviewed most of the now hundreds of divorces of men I helped with their recovery. In almost every case not involving their wife cheating while they were deployed the cheating started when some guy all of a sudden popped into her life. A neighbor, a co-worker, or an ex! I'm not saying it's impossible for someone in a committed relationship to have close friends of the opposite sex! NO! That's wrong. I'm saying clear boundaries MUST be established! As to some gal with a few male contacts, if you are dating her and this makes you uncomfortable tell her.

Commander_Red · Answer

It honestly depends on who the guys are. I stopped dating a guy who was following a lot of girls on Instagram, and most of these girls were underwear models and/or porn stars. If a girl were doing the same thing, then yeah, that's a major red flag. However, if most if the guys she follows are already part of a family, an innocent influencer (e. g. gaming, exercise, cooking, etc), or simply a friend from work, I don't think it's a problem.

Anonymous · Answer

Women don’t act like men we don’t have lustful thinking like that. If we follow men it’s either because they’re a family member, friends or someone you knew from college and maybe 1 or 2 celebrity figures we’re attracted to and admire. But since that makes you feel uncomfortable, talk to her about it.

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

It's a red flag when a man is digging through a woman's followers

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't trust a girl that has a ton of guys on social media. Especially if she has a hoard of male friends that she shares secrets with.

I know a few girls that also agree that it's disgusting behavior. So it's not just something a guy thinks.

Of course all the girls on here think it's fine. They're the types that have loads of male friends and probably hang out with those guys alone even if they're in a relationship.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I wouldn't say so, I used to follow a lot of people without checking their plumbing on social media, back when I did it. I didn't do it to see who was going to be my next man, I liked what they shared and posted from a artistic point of view.

Star_88 · Answer

Double standards? Aren't 80% of the guys doing the exact same thing but it's labelled as normal? If a girl does the same thing, then it's profoundly questionable?

cryscrys1 · Answer

No  You realized she follows many guys because that’s your focus  You can also check how many girls she is following too what’s the difference?

SpiderManFan2002 · Answer

I guess it depends what kind of guys and why she follows them and the same goes for guys who follow a lot of girls

Diodoro · Answer

There are far more valid legitimate red flags to pay attention to. A girl following a lot of guys on Instagram is not one of them

ManOnFire · Answer

It's not a red flag if she follows a lot of guys, but it is one if she's talking to all of those guys, and in more than just a friendly way.

spartan55 · Answer

How about any involvement that makes them believe social media has as much value as irl... Red 🚩 flag

molonski2 · Answer

100 % , she is just looking around , its certainly a massive red flag.

Citizenkirk · Answer

Why would it. A fair amount of girls and guys follow me there and here. Nothing shady about that 😅 🐱

expdude · Answer

Would it be a flag for a guy to follow a lot of girls?

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Depends on the content of her page. Does she like attention and post provoking pics, then yea it's gonna turn me off.

CheeseMonster · Answer

I don't think so. But then again I don't have Instagram.

TheorionMage · Answer

EVERYONE, who's not 'naïve' seeks to be coveted, desired... and if 'wise' keeps a "Plan B"

coconut94 · Answer

No. I follow a lot of guys and a lot of guys follow me and I know I’d make the best and most committed girlfriend. Means nothing.

NicolemooreK · Answer

That could be a sign of abuse from any female role model in her life

Anonymous · Answer

Red flag? No not really. I would say she probably likes the attention she receives from them if anything.

jshm2 · Answer

Why the hell would it be?  You think she's selling her ass and nudes on insta?

t-8900 · Answer

When I had an IG there were some pretty models is follow. It's not a big deal

Lovesims3plumbob · Answer

It depond on what is. it could be red flag if a guy is half naked or could be faimly members. is a double standard.

lovey44 · Answer

Question for question. Is it a red flag if a guy follows a lot of women on instagram? P. S.   I am not on instagram.

In_Trance · Answer

Her- they're just friends...

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

It depends on. Are these men influencer, famous people, erotic models or regular guys whom she know

Priv9696 · Answer

Yes. I used to be friends with this girl who had a boyfriend but followed mainly guys cause she liked getting attention from them. She also said if her and her man broke up she’d have back up

Grubhub · Answer

Yes, if she has a boy and if the guys she’s following are models she’s doing that because that’s her dream husbands

Snakeyes7 · Answer

It's none of my business. If she ends up cheating on me with one of those guys it's her fault not mine.

vpandav · Answer

Guys follows a lot of girls too, so it would be a double standard and you might need to work on the trust.

AnthonyJ01 · Answer

There is nothing wrong with "following" someone. Everyone also different ways and when they share them it gives others an insight into them and possible different things.

Dee_Reynolds · Answer

It’s a red flag if they say things like “no Trumpers” or any other juvenile nonsense.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

Anyone monitoring other people followers have cancer potential

foxsquirrell · Answer

I think yes. Well not necessarily, but more probably yes. It probably means you're just a number man.

BillboBaggher · Answer

If she talks to them and comments things that she wouldn’t want her SO doing it’s probably a red flag. If she just has friends then it’s all Gucci.

Paul158 · Answer

Its not a red flag. My wife follows tons of Korean men mostly kpop and kdrama stuff, I personally don't mind but... its annoying sometimes but its bearable (compromise)

donnny2367764 · Answer

Yes. The bloodiest red color there can be. Watch out

hbkfan · Answer

I follow just about any random person on instagram so no

venicee · Answer

I dunno I just follow random people so in my opinion no. If she's not flirting with multiple of them than no

Mediterraneansoul · Answer

The absence of evidence is not the evidence of absence

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. She can just like their content or whatever they be posting.

Guardian45 · Answer

No. Especially, if she only sleeps with you or you have a lot of female followers on SM.

Anonymous · Answer

Most women would have a problem if their guy was doing the same thing so yeah.

Lifter1 · Answer

Because she's looking for something better (hypergamy) or just holds alternatives in case of a breakup

Better_off_here · Answer

depends on what her intention is and what she is doing?

Anonymous · Answer

It's a red flag if you're checking her followers

Msputiton · Answer

No. Not like she dating them

Flower7 · Answer

No, not if she’s single.

Heartache0405 · Answer

It would be considered a red flag to me.

doopayo · Answer

If she just followed regular guys no

rosegirl08 · Answer

Nope. She can do what she wants

Shark_61695 · Answer

Yes... although the red flag is Instagram.

IluvvGod · Answer

boys do the same thing.

Mangospacho · Answer

How many is a lot? Like 5?

Wise4myage · Answer

No, not in my opinion.

BigManSAB · Answer

Unless they’re celebrities I’d be concerned

Shy_Steve · Answer

It definitely can be for some Guys.

007kingifrit · Answer

its a red flag to HAVE an instagram

TheAfrikan · Answer

Just following it is okay.

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