Is it a red flag if a girl follows a lot of guys on Instagram?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[Electmen]

I apply this rule in my personal life:

If she follows people like those ordinary hot male models who live in other countries:
> Like/comment on their pics with lascivious massages. = I consider that to be extremely disrespectful independently of the gender, and I wouldn't want to have anything serious with a woman who does that.🚩
> Doesn't do anything: Might not be a problem if she doesn't compare you with them.

If she follows famous people like actors and athletes:
> Like/comment on their pics with lascivious massages. 🚩
> Like/comment on their pics with no sexual context. = Not a big deal to me.

If she follows normal dudes that lives near her like old friends/school friends/colleagues from her job/family members:
> Like/comment on their pics with lascivious massages. 🚩
> Like/comment on their pics with normal massages BUT she has had sex with some of them: 🚩🚩

If she follows ordinary dudes near her or ###ex boyfriends###
> Like/comment on their pics with lascivious massages. 🚩🚩🚩
> Like/comment on their pics with no sexual context. = 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩

[ohshee]

It depends on the girl how well do you know her I know for me like on here and I'm on a couple other chat sites I follow mainly just girls and I would continue to until I get into a relationship and then everything changes remember in life just because you think something doesn't mean it's true I mean with that girl how many guys added her I wanted her to add them and she doesn't even talk to them I think I have just about all girls on here maybe 10 guys on my following list and I might talk to two girls on here and that's just everyone once in awhile maybe once a month if that so just because it looks like something doesn't mean it's true

[Anonymous]

This is what instagram is for. Men follows many beautiful girls to see their pictures and girls follow handsome men to see their pictures. There are many men who follows many women who they know and do not know but they want girls do not follow guys 🤦🏻‍♀️🤷🏻‍♀️ Girls can flirt many guys like guys flirt with many girls there. There can not be double standard sorry. We do not live in that age. But if this girl is your ‘’girlfriend’’ you can just ask who they are. But if she is just your flirt of friend it is not your business.

[Opinion Owner]

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[Kate090]

It might be. Some girls could be just as primiscious and lustfull like a lot of guys are. That’s not me personally. The only guys I follow are from childhood, from church, work, school, family members. Pay attention to what kind of guys, are they like half naked, looking sexy kind of guys? If yes then I would say thats a big red flag.

[pass_the_celery98]

I agree with this, which is kind of why i consider social media toxic or dating apps like Tinder. I mean if a girl DM's me on IG and she seems genuine I would reply back. But I think girls usually don't DM guys unless there's a catch with the guy (ie: she finds him super hot or he's a celeb).

[Rocking_dude]

Not some girls! The ratio of lustful people of both gender are equal, so more like a lot of girls could be just as primiscious/lustful like a lot of guys are.

[Moose304]

I am not in an exclusive relationship with anybody. In fact, I refuse to do so. I do have some girls that I am friends with benefits with. So in all honesty I don't really care if she has a thousand or more contacts regardless of the social media type. I just care that when she is with me to actually be with me and not have her mind somewhere else. That pisses me off more than anything else. In a committed relationship, I always counsel caution with friends of the opposite sex. I even hold tighter standards in a marriage. Trust and transparency run through the same channel. ANYBODY that says different is toxic. You can NOT bend transparency and not bend trust. As I was writing this comment I stopped a minute and mentally reviewed most of the now hundreds of divorces of men I helped with their recovery. In almost every case not involving their wife cheating while they were deployed the cheating started when some guy all of a sudden popped into her life. A neighbor, a co-worker, or an ex! I'm not saying it's impossible for someone in a committed relationship to have close friends of the opposite sex! NO! That's wrong. I'm saying clear boundaries MUST be established! As to some gal with a few male contacts, if you are dating her and this makes you uncomfortable tell her.

[Commander_Red]

It honestly depends on who the guys are. I stopped dating a guy who was following a lot of girls on Instagram, and most of these girls were underwear models and/or porn stars. If a girl were doing the same thing, then yeah, that's a major red flag. However, if most if the guys she follows are already part of a family, an innocent influencer (e. g. gaming, exercise, cooking, etc), or simply a friend from work, I don't think it's a problem.

[Kate090]

Im so glad you did! you're a smart girl! I overlooked that on a guy I dated. I knew that he followed a bunch of instasluts, porn stars but I thought that was a normal thing that a lot of guys do. Eventually I figured out pretty quick who he is.. a player, narcissistic, overall not a good guy

[Rocking_dude]

@Kate090 do we think that it's normal thing for a lot of girls to actually follow a lot of handsome, sexy, fuck boys/guys? No! So you misthought.

[Anonymous]

Women don’t act like men we don’t have lustful thinking like that. If we follow men it’s either because they’re a family member, friends or someone you knew from college and maybe 1 or 2 celebrity figures we’re attracted to and admire. But since that makes you feel uncomfortable, talk to her about it.

[pass_the_celery98]

Nah, I gotta disagree. There are girls who wanted to see dick pics from me and I refused to and they ghosted me by acting childish. Then these same girls go after some guy who is all tattooed and posting his entire life. I don't know why girls go after those guys. This is one thing I have to mention that gets overlooked quite often. Girls/women will say look for the warning signs of an abusive guy. But I rarely hear or read, look for the warning signs of a guy who seems self-absorbed and freely posting his life online. I honestly don't care about someone's vacation, someone's dog, someone's baby unless I know that person as a friend, family member or even a co-worker. I think it's a red flag if guys try to be flashy and show off online and want the attention to. You mix two people (guy and girl) who want attention and it's a recipe for disaster in my opinion. See with me, if I was with a girl and she got the likes and the "omg you're soo pretty" by everyone I'm okay not getting the attention or being in the spotlight. But it seems to me, in the modern day, people who pursue love, love to me is truly jaded.

[Rocking_dude]

Dumbass fake feminist spotted.

[Opinion Owner]

Male chauvinists / misogynists / sexists spotted. Tsk tsk tsk you insecure men love to shit on women just because we don’t let you guys control us anymore. You should be ashamed of yourself JUST for being a man. Love and sparkles, bye 💖

[Rocking_dude]

I didn't read that completely fortunately :-) and yh sure bye bye! Have a good day trying to get male's attention u slut.

[Uptowngirl88]

It's a red flag when a man is digging through a woman's followers

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't trust a girl that has a ton of guys on social media. Especially if she has a hoard of male friends that she shares secrets with.

I know a few girls that also agree that it's disgusting behavior. So it's not just something a guy thinks.

Of course all the girls on here think it's fine. They're the types that have loads of male friends and probably hang out with those guys alone even if they're in a relationship.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I wouldn't say so, I used to follow a lot of people without checking their plumbing on social media, back when I did it. I didn't do it to see who was going to be my next man, I liked what they shared and posted from a artistic point of view.

[Star_88]

Double standards? Aren't 80% of the guys doing the exact same thing but it's labelled as normal?
If a girl does the same thing, then it's profoundly questionable?

[cryscrys1]

No
You realized she follows many guys because that’s your focus
You can also check how many girls she is following too what’s the difference?

[Asker]

Yes she follows more guys than girls.

[SpiderManFan2002]

I guess it depends what kind of guys and why she follows them and the same goes for guys who follow a lot of girls

[Diodoro]

There are far more valid legitimate red flags to pay attention to. A girl following a lot of guys on Instagram is not one of them

[Diodoro]

By and large red flags are really only things that indicate future behavior that you do not want inyour life. If she talks poorly about any female that she calls a friend behind her back, that's indicative of future behavior of how she's going to be talking about you when she's upset

Red flag

If she talked down to or treat people poorly who are in a position she considers beneath her such as the waiter, or a janitor, or something like that. Then you already understand that if she doesn't see someone having value to her life this is how she treats them

Meaning in the future if she begins to question the value you bring her in your life. This is likely indicative of how she might begin to treat you

Red flag

If a girl only does things for the sole purpose of getting something in return. She never does anything out of the goodness of her heart, but with the expectation of you doing her a solid later on

It means she views people as utility and doesn't really have genuine friendships. Red flag. Because one day just going to ask you something that you either cannot do for her or will not do for her and it's going to be a problem

If she doesn't accept any responsibility for the outcomes of past relationships and always puts the Lion's Share of the blame on her ex or any guy she's dating.

That's indicative of the fact that if you and her have a disagreement she will be putting all of the blame on you because in her mind she is always right and with reason. Red flag

[spartan55]

How about any involvement that makes them believe social media has as much value as irl... Red 🚩 flag

[molonski2]

100 % , she is just looking around , its certainly a massive red flag.

[ManOnFire]

It's not a red flag if she follows a lot of guys, but it is one if she's talking to all of those guys, and in more than just a friendly way.

[Citizenkirk]

Why would it. A fair amount of girls and guys follow me there and here. Nothing shady about that 😅 🐱

[expdude]

Would it be a flag for a guy to follow a lot of girls?

[CallmeTheKnight]

Depends on the content of her page. Does she like attention and post provoking pics, then yea it's gonna turn me off.

[TheorionMage]

EVERYONE, who's not 'naïve' seeks to be coveted, desired... and if 'wise' keeps a "Plan B"

[coconut94]

No. I follow a lot of guys and a lot of guys follow me and I know I’d make the best and most committed girlfriend. Means nothing.

[NicolemooreK]

That could be a sign of abuse from any female role model in her life

[Anonymous]

Red flag? No not really. I would say she probably likes the attention she receives from them if anything.