Should I stick in and be friends or cut contact and hope?

[Sm8989]

Me and this girl have been eyeing each other for a couple of years probably now. She works in a supeemarket and sometimes i go in. Anyway i started to like this girl more and more and found it difficult to approach her on her own or find opertunitys to break the ice. Just before Christmas afyer some small talk, i gave her a Christmas card with a little message just saying i would love to get to know her. What i thought her name was and was right and if she wanted to get in touch. She didn't and i spoke to her a week or so later. She said she didn't respond to my card as she has a boyfriend but thought it was so sweet cute the usual bollocks lol. If she was single i think she we would work out or at least try. So i dont kniw what to do should i keep going in act as normal or run away and hide and probably never see this girl again. I have been feeling so shit about it i do like this girl but struggle to deal with emotions really. Any help would be great as i not sure who to talk to. Girls how would you feel about this?

[PeacefulRainDrop]

This girl was being honest with you be thankful. Just keep being you. No need to feel awkwardly just keep doing your thing. If its meant to be; itll be. Smile when you see her but dont flirt now you know she's taken. If she's single at anytime she will probably let you know then become more friendly with her. Best of luck to ya!

[Sm8989]

I know and i totally respect that 🙂 thats what my friends said. I have issues opening up as i have been through so much in life. So it took a lot for me to do that lol. I just dont want to make it awkward. I hope so. Thanks for your input. ❤

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Your welcome! I wish you all the best!

The gem cannot be polished without friction, nor man perfected without trials.
- Chinese Proverb

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Every adversity, every failure and every heartache carries with it the seed of an equivalent or a greater benefit.
-Napoleon Hill

[MalReynolds]

The card was a bit of a weak move. It doesn't matter that she has a boyfriend, if you were up to it she would have ditched him or cheated.

Your problem is you've been eyeing this girl for 2 years bro and you really like her etc

You don't really like her, you just built up some imaginary story in your head - she could be the devil for all you know.

Best thing you can do is have a bit more confidence in yourself and make a point of ignoring her. If she tries to initiate eye contact make sure you look away, smile/chuckle to yourself. It might annoy her enough to confront and talk to you for a change.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

It's not about hiding, but she was clear she was already seeing someone and is aware of your interest in her. If she hasn't made an attempt to try and get to know you more and be friends, then I dont think she has any interest in you in any capacity.

Awesome job on the attempt though. Sorry it may not have worked out.

[Sm8989]

I think there is something there. I think i am just too late to be honest. Story of my life. Maybe one day i will be surprised lol. I guess i have small hope but at the same time say i can't wait 😢

[Sm8989]

Thanks for your input.

[Ez-Bri-Z]

You're very welcome!

[s0c10ph0b1a]

I hate to say it but she probably doesn't have a boyfriend and said that to not look bad or mean. She could've really admired your card, but remember, you don't really know her. From my understanding you met her at her job, she's just trying to work. Sure she'll make conversation to be polite, but if you're initiating 100% of the time then that says something about what she thinks. Sorry..

[AndrésC64]

Keep going in. Be friendly, be yourself.

[IncognitoBandito]

Probably best not to invest too much of yourself.

[Avicenna]

Keep going