Should we stay friends?

[Astrocake]

me and my long distance before broke up due to the distance. HE broke up with ME because i did not live close enough but he offered me a friendship. should i take him up on his offer? if he gets a closer girlfriend my feelings would be hurt but we've gotten so close i can't see myself losing him so i really want to be friends but i've never been friends with someone i used to like before.. is this normal? what does this mean , what should i do? is he just keeping me around?

[caring__1]

Before even considering this option, it's a good idea for each of you to define what "friends" means and would look like.

I sense you are holding onto hope of reconnecting with him, and that's the wrong reason to remain friends. You'll just be hurt deeper when he does commit with someone new.

If, in the future, the 2 of you do relocate to the same location, and both of you are available, then consider reconnecting, but don't move there with the hope of reconnecting. Don't hold onto hope till that time comes, for it will only limit your future opportunities. Fully live your life, based on what really exists. Fantasies tend to disappoint in the long run.

[Wise4myage]

What did your gut feeling tell you when he asked to be friends?

[Astrocake]

not to do it because i don't see him as a friend.

[Wise4myage]

Then go with that. :)

[Astrocake]

but what if i never feel this same away about anyone again? should i just keep him around to be happy?

[Wise4myage]

Oh you will, so just shrug off any negative thoughts.

[Wise4myage]

And focus on staying positive.

[In_Trance]

no, it's pointless