All through middle school and high school, I've heard girls say this. During my time in the military, girls would say this as well. Just based on my experiences or through someone else's, any girl that says that was for the streets, labeled as a hoe, and just seemed allergic to loyalty. Ironically, the girl was actually full of drama and didn't seem to realize they are the female friend that's full of drama to all their guy friends. I personally don't believe men and women were meant to be just friends, which is why I always found this to be a bit alarming when a girl would say this.
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If you thinks it's not a red flag, please share your thoughts. Remember, my opinion is it is a red flag which is based on experience and through the experiences of others.
Random thought: when a girl says, "I have more guy friends than girl friends because girls are too much drama," is that considered a red flag?
Not always but if it's a red flag (you need to get to know her, to know if she's all about the drama). Sometimes females have a very bad experience with other females in school for example then paint all the females the same. I haven't had many girl friends growing up, the girls I was surrounded by were very bitchy but that was because of the industry I encountered. The thing is with female friendships, you have to be open to it and if you cannot be open to it. Females would take offense, you have to show vulnerability too. When you've been backstabbed it's pretty hard. Also it's not fair making a judgement with every friendship you encountered sometimes a good one might be around the corner. You just need to be open to it. Some girls have many guy friends due to activities they do example gaming, cars, adventure sports or things considered a "guy thing", so it's not also fair to just consider it a red flag unless you get to know her..
@Siren777 I do try giving them a chance... which is why I said based on my experience. I've known guys that were in to girls and when the girl says this to them...9/10 that "relationship" or interest didn't turn out so well. I've tried to be the voice of reason when I'd see my buddies get insecure about it. Without telling them, I'd think to myself it won't work, but I normally let it play out. It just never played out in their favor.
True. I always try to take things into consideration... but I've been burned enough and have seen guys get burned by that as well. I'm not really up for setting myself up for disappointments either. Additionally, I'm not currently in that situation... I just had a random thought and figured to ask it.
When i said that, I meant it. Me and girls often liked the same guy and they’d try to come between us. Us girls can be territorial, jealous, vengeful, etc... okay now that may be a redflag 🤣 but either way, it just less drama to befriend guys instead. Now with guys, its not drama but its a lot of pressure and sweettalk. I hate that shit too
Haha. Men and women alike can be territorial, jealous, vengeful, etc. Although people say they are none of those things... I'm a firm believer in it only takes that ONE to make you break your character and make you have a different perspective on what you said. Can make you go from saying "No... not... never" to "Well... maybe... sometimes." 😄
It absolutely is. I was actually just having this conversation with my coworker a while ago. Simply put... how are we supposed to like a woman that even other women do not like? (Because why else would she be making a statement like the one quoted)
That line stands out to me as a sort of "pick me!" or "I'm not like other girls" and a sign to run. I've been with a handful of women who would say things like this, and most of them turned out to be toxic/manipulative and in some cases even cheaters.
One other aspect of this is family relations. Say a relationship develops and I'm to bring a woman like this around my family. How is she going to act towards my mother, aunt, grandma etc if she can't stand other women? That's a whole 'nother level of bullshit that isn't worth bringing into my life.
My daughter is like that. The girls are jealous and the guys get frustrated because she just wants to hang out and have fun without the pressures of a relationship. This same daughter, 2 years ago was very dramatic. Now she's one of the most stable people I know. And I feel sorry for her because of the shyt quality of people that she's around. She says the guys are less dramatic... but only by a little. Her friend group has shrunk considerably. I'm biased, she's not perfect but I think she's wonderful. Everyone is different. The girls u hear saying that are genuine or plastic. Knowing them better over time will inform you better.
As a female who went to an all girls' school I can 100% say this is not a red flag. The majority of my insecurities that I've had to overcome have not been from relationships / experiences with boys but more from girls. Now, don't get me wrong, I have some lovely female friends and did so too at school, but the competition, the bitchiness, the hubristic self-importance, the comparisons etc. etc. etc. are pretty damaging. Girls believing they are better than other girls because they look this way, they've done this or done that etc. To this day, I find I get on better with boys because they don't judge so intensely and are pretty transparent. They often say things as they are, don't bitch as much and are pretty straightforward. Although my own insecurities are my own to overcome and deal with, when I talk to girls these days, I still feel like I am a teenager again at my all girls' school and I find it harder to communicate because I fear their judgement and there is still that feeling of not being good enough that I had at school all those years ago, however, when I talk to a boy, I feel as though I am more relaxed and that they won't judge me as harshly. In fact, one of my closest friends is a boy whom I have never fallen out with and he is the most laidback, neutral person I have ever met. Now, this is not to generalise either boys or girls, but is based on my own experiences with both genders. I had some great memories at school, but choosing an all girls' school was a great mistake. My mum has a friend who once disagreed with all gender schools claiming in the real world men and women exist together. I didn't agree with her at the time but in hindsight I can see she was right. It's not healthy. Neither gender is perfect and we should judge people based on their qualities and characteristics as a human being. With that being said, there is certainly a trend.
It's a green flag for me personally. A woman who gets along better with men tends to have more masculine interests, values and expectations. That's the kind of a woman I personally prefer, since I honestly kind of dislike traditionally feminine character traits.
I don't find it's true that such women predominantly have "daddy issues" and seek male attention. They are mostly just more academic, practical, logic oriented and emotionally unavailable, which are the opposites of a traditional woman.
you need to be careful. What if its because they have mostly guy friends because they cause too much drama with the girls? Understand that most girls get along best with girls. Just like most guys get along best with guys. Its not common for girls to get along better with guys than their own gender.
@shaysh87 I agree completely. It's common for folks to get along with folks that can relate to them and have more things in common. Yes, some women enjoy doing guy things, but in the end... she's still a woman with a bunch of options she calls friends.
Women preferring male friends just shows they’re better at navigating male social groups and enjoy them more. Successfully juggling female friend groups requires a lot of empathy, diplomacy, and reading between the lines. Women with those abilities all have to find each other and enjoy each other’s personalities as well to form a successful female friend group in the first place.
Also, female friends generally bring a level of chaos that male friends don’t.
Altogether, no, this alone isn’t a red flag. And for the record, I’m friends with both.
No, it doesn't NECESSARILY mean that. It could for some, but many girls just relate to guys better or enjoy their company because of their personalities.
Perhaps they don't like constantly talking about or doing girly things. Guys are easier going in general.
I've heard that, too, that guys are just easier to get along with. Is it really guys are just easier to get along with or do guys make it easier to get along with bc they are trying to get close? I thought it was easier to get along with folks that can relate to you. Yes, there's things that men and women can relate too, but you'd think girls have more to relate to amongst each other.
@_lost_soul_ I guess it depends on where a girl is in her life and also personality. I think, in general, guys are just easier going. They seem to be more willing to do whatever because they just want to please, no matter if trying to get closer or friendly.
Girls tend to be more stuck in their ways. For example, try telling a girl you'd rather not go shopping and go to the park instead. The girl is going to get pissed because she had her mind set on that. A guy probably be like "sure, whatever is cool with me".
I'm not saying these are universal truths but observations. It also really depends on what girlfriends the girl surrounds herself with. Are they always moody? Maybe she starts to drift towards the guy friends. Hope this all makes sense as I kind of rambled.
@PrettyPriya At nothing wrong with rambling... my ADD won't let me have a conversation without rambling either. I get what you're trying to say. Maybe it comes down to the area where they grew up from... maybe.
I am a girl with a lot more guy friends. Growing up girls bullied me pretty badly. They would just be so cruel. I was an easy target because I had a hard time fitting in. I was/am very quiet and I don't say very much. Most of my friends were boys. I just not actually got along with guys better than I got along with girls. Now that I'm older I have a few close girlfriends. But I am an air softer and it's mostly a guy dominated sport. So most of my friends are guys. When I'm dating someone I always try to introduce him to my male friends I'm. Just to let him know that there is absolutely nothing that I'm hiding or nothing that he should be worried about. Most of them are married anyway. And I'm not attracted to them in any way shape or form. I honestly think it depends on the girl. I'm a very honest, open, and very loyal to the person I'm dating
Even more of a reason you boyfriend should consider the small things. If he doesn't, he might find himself singing them sad love songs while pulling the victim card. Overlooking his own actions or lack there of. My experience and the experiences through many others, a girl with more male friends than girls was an issue. Your boyfriend sounds like he's got himself a rare gem. We all can't be so lucky.
It really depends. My ex used to be in a students group in uni. She had a lot of male friends from that time, not really close friends but guys she knew and went to the same bar with. I didn't worry for about a year. Then I found out through rumors that she blew one of them for his birthday. Later I found out she blew most of them and had sex with some. When I talked to her about it she said it happened on drunk nights, it meant nothing and she was single anyway. She really didn't see the problem. I did stay with her for a couple years but that fact kept haunting me whenever she was with her male "buddies"
From my experience, guys have always been better friends than the girls. Girls used to hate me for no good reason and would overall treat me like shit no matter how nice I was towards them. Not saying I wouldn't want more female friends, I would love to have more, but most girls don't like me. :(
Interesting. Well, let me ask you this: do you think girls would hate you bc you were the one guys were attracted to or were more responsive/interactive with rather than them?
Well, they say great minds think alike. 😉😆. My decision on that name is purely reflective of various trials and tribulations in life that have left me feeling... lost.
Its a red flag in that you need to watch out. However its not necessarily because somethings wrong with her.
My girlfriend has few female friends and upon finding out its because she doesn't know any good girls. My girlfriend is the take notes in church and stays up late on Friday night... to bake cookies and cake for the neighbors. So i can see why she doesn't have lots of typical girl kinda friends. She has more guy friends but they aren't close nor is it that unbalanced a ratio.
But yeah many times it does mean she's a ho or at least very inappropriate with men. So definitely something to look out for.
My closest friend is a guy but honestly it isn't related to gender. Girls are more sensitive so they are drama indeed sometimes. For boys they don't have strong hormone rush and aren't emotional so there isn't much drama with them. However I go along well with my sister who is girl. Depends of the kind of girls or boys you are surrounded with. Not necessarily a red flag.
I don't know if it's a "red flag" but in my experience it usually means they cause/love drama. It's just not true that women are more dramatic than men. If all the women she hangs out with have drama, that says more about her as an individual than about women as a whole. So if you don't like drama, she's not a good idea.
Anyway I think men and women can definitely be friends. I have a few guy friends.
More often than not, there's only drama when you don't treat someone well. Girls can usually sense when someone (male/female) equates feminine (looks, hobbies, colors) with inferior, so yeah, we aren't warm and fuzzy to those with that mindset.
I think it depends. If she's got like a friend group, that's one thing, if she has a bunch of guy friends who aren't connected in any way, especially if she rotates through them, that's a big red flag to me
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I have more guy friends than girl friends because we woman can be so nasty to one another. I have two girl friends we get along great but trying to talk to the other girls in the year it turns into a shouting match no matter what the conversation starts out like. Guys are just so much easier get along with which is why I have four of them :)
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Means, motive, and opportunity. All women have the means to cheat. Having male friends gives her plenty of opportunity. And pleasure is a motive all its own. I've seduced enough 'loyal, happy wives' to know that letting her have male friends is foolishness
Of course. Although, it doesn't mean that she wouldn't focus on you if you hit all of her requirement checkboxes. The problem is that a woman could have 30 checkboxes and only tell you about 2 so ya never know.
For dating an relationships? Yeah, Don't date women who just hang out with men all the time and expect to go on friend dates constantly. She can be a "pal" too but you don't date those types.
‼️‼️‼️ Make certain that she’s not one of those Sports loving, one-of-guys beer drinking, no leg showing, know more about Guy stuff, and might kick your 🚼/dominate 💪 you Women ‼️‼️‼️
I personally dont think it's a red flag although it does annoy me when other females say it as it's a dumb stereotype. Just don't hang out with people that hype up drama.
The topics most women talk about I simply have no interest like for e. g.
Talking another women. Down, gossiping, being bixtchy.. they aren't things I approve of and that seems to always be the order of the day. I want to hang with people who are above all that
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