What does it mean if a girl seems to have more guy friends than girls?

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Would u say its a red flag

[Cynicaldreamer]

First off, NO, it's not always red flag.
Why do guys automatically assume something is up with a girl if she has more guy friends than girl friends? I don't assume that about men that have mostly female friends... gotta love double standards.

I mostly have guy friends. Why?
Because I get along better with them than most females. I've had bad experiences with most females I've befriended (they're messy, gossipy, talk about you behind your back, fake, etc). Yes, I know not all females are like that: I'm just speaking from MY personal experience.

That and it's easier to be myself around guys than females, and apparently the feeling is mutual as most of my friends like talking to me because they can be themselves around me.

In other words, don't be so presumptuous. Some people just get along better with the opposite gender than their own. It doesn't mean they're sleeping with them, flirting with them, or have some hidden agenda.

[Visionary7]

THIS

[Cynicaldreamer]

@Visionary7 Are you seeing some of the guys comments? My gosh, the ignorance on here 🙄

[VPS13]

I don’t doubt this is your truth but just to play devils advocate here, regardless of gender shouldn’t you keep a standard for yourself of who you surround yourself with? There are toxic men and women out there and wonderful uplifting men and women out there. All about your choices of who to associate with. Generalizations only limit ourselves. What do you think?

[Cynicaldreamer]

@VPS13 You are very correct!
I have NO problem befriending females, if they we click and get along. I have met some nice females in the past, don't get me wrong, or considering my age, most are so busy raising their families. So if I meet someone I like chatting with, male or female, obviously I'm going to talk to them. It just seems in my case, guys are easier to relate to and chat with than females.

How many females my age range like video games, techy stuff, and fitness? Not many : Trust me, I ask!
I'm not stereotyping, but it's hard to find. So of course it's going to be easier for me to relate to guys over females in some cases.

[Grania]

I have both great guy friends and great girl friends.

I don't believe it's necessarily a bad thing/red flag. Guys are often just easier to hang out with - if something's on their mind or bothers them, they tell you and then leave it. Girls tend to overanalyse and gossip more.
For me it's about having a friend (no matter the gender) that I have a feeling of mutual trust with and can have great conversations or share a hobby with.

For lots of girls that's the only intention there is. You'll notice if that's not the case and if she clearly has other intentions, well sometimes that happens as well and then you just need to be aware.

[genericname85]

i would consider it a slight red flag. not dealbreaker level but it's definitely not a plus. i'm gonna skip my reasoning, casue that's complex and it's late where i live. so i'll just say that this girl will be very likely not that feminine. there's an off chance that i'm wrong tho, so i'll still check her out.

[NobleFlight]

That she:
- Finds guys easier to talk to.
- Wants to have more guy friends.
- Doesn't really care but ends up having more guy friends.

[Asker]

Do u think its a red flag

[NobleFlight]

No, not really.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

See you can thank the friends with benefits culture for this even being an issue.. Playing the old lady card but back in my day, your friends were your friends, gender didn't matter... In highschool most of my friends were guys with just a few girlfriends. The difference is we didn't fuck our friends casually. It's not so much if you have friends if the opposite sex
It's the people that blur/cross the line themselves that would see it as an issue. Maybe some men and women don't know how to be just friends, but some do!

[Blaaam87]

No... it’s only a red flag if she doesn’t value a relationship she in with a man. If she isn’t willing to let those friendships go for the man she is with... then it’s a red flag. I have mostly guy friends because I can’t stand the way girls act. Always gossip, being fake and talking about themselves and the latest fashion or complaining. Things I can’t stand. I have more guy friends then women friends.

[Anonymous]

A lot of my friends are guys so here’s what I think: not gonna lie, I’m pretty ugly. So nothing romantic or whatever about it for me. I’ve grown up with three younger brothers so I didn’t really have anyone to be “girly” with since I don’t have a super close relationship with my mom. I’ve gained the personality and humor of my brothers/dad with the body of a woman. I still have some girl friends so that’s cool beans since men can be a little emotionally constipated. So, I guess it just depends on the girl.

[Anonymous]

If it is a red flag or not would depend if her motivations for having these male friends are unhealthy in some way. What is her attitude towards females? If she says negative things about women I would say this is a sign of an emotionally immature person. If these men are trying to get involved with her romantically and she keeps them around for attention and ego then red flag. If she just happens to have more male friends because that is what presented itself to her in life then it means nothing! Maybe she’s in a male dominated industry? Does male dominated activities? You should ask her in a non threatening way and see what her response is

[Anonymous]

Of course isn't a red flag! People tend to make friends with people who feel comfortable. And being honest lately is more difficult find other women who dont want to be competitive with other female friends. So being friend with a guy is more comfortable and easier, guys didn't pay attention to the same topics as women

[Iron_Man]

I don’t date women like that it’s nothing but trouble they use their guy friends as leverage A backup plan. And they tell their friends everything even the sex details And they’re always looking for advice. And when the relationship struggles the guy friend is a white knight in shining armor to the female friend looking to swoop in

[JSmuve]

It means she either hates women because she's a tomboy and hates their drama or she hates women because she's drama and they hate her. It also could mean that she's trying to keep a catalog of guys so she can easily swing from one guy to the next as needed. So it could very well be a red flag.

[Smashingdoozy]

That she relates more to guys
Perhaps had a bad experience with women as friends and struggles to trust them
Just happened to work out that way

[sheikalana]

Means she enjoys male companionship. Women tend to gossip a lot or have futile conversations.

[Coolhandlukeri]

Definite red flag. A) she thrives off of and seeks out male attention and validation
B) she's surrounding herself with people interested in her, who won't hold her accountable for her behaviors, because they're trying to sleep with her. That sort of thing doesn't age well into a responsible adult who you can build a life with.

[wankiam]

it means she has a a varied array of friends... thats all but if you start worrying she is going to fuck all the guys you might as well end it all now because you will end up pushing her away anyway

[Anonymous]

I am usually one of them. Generally I'm a loner, but if I choose to talk to someone, that person would be a guy. Last year I had two male friends and I was feeling very comfortable around them. Girls, in my experience, are very bad at friendships. I relate more to men's psychology and it's just easier for me to communicate with them.

Also, friendships with guys are more interesting cause they can get flirtatious. It makes your day.

[Siren777]

No. I have always had more guy friends. Girls are great too but I've always got along with guys more.

[EternallyCorrect]

This:

[Visionary7]

Not true

[EternallyCorrect]

@Visionary7

100% true.

[KatherineJ]

Why is this even a concern? A lot of women have more guy friends than girlfriends.

[In_Trance]

One thing

[xannyx]

i think the girl would either naturally be more social amongst the opposite sex in common interests or method of communication. or it's either the girl is trying to hook up a lot of guys at a time.

[Anonymous]

It means she is the village bicycle... everyone gets a free ride.

[spartan55]

It means you avoid her at all costs.

[clampfan101]

Nothing to be concerned about, if anything at all.

[Grueso]

Too flirtatious