Men vs women telling a story about the other sex to the other sex. Why are the responses so tilted?

[Anonymous]

I broken up with my girlfriend a month ago, and naturally people ask me what happened. Short version being we had nothing in common so I didn’t see it working out long term. I tried to break things off as painless as I could, tried to do it the right way. Knowing there will always be hurt feelings, my ex decided to be vengeful , and did something very malicious weeks later.

When I tell this to guy friends the response is, “sorry to hear things didn’t work out. And that her malicious act, was not good.”

Now when discussing with female friend, the response is, “that’s not a good reason to break up, let me list the reasons why. And the malicious act is because her feelings were hurt, and that I needed to have taken a better look at the relationship before letting a get to the intimacy level.”

Point is my female friend was adamant, that what I told her what happened is wrong, but that’s ok because she knows better, and remade my breakup into a different situation where my ex is not responsible for her actions.

But when telling me about the not so good men she has come across, makes sweeping generalizations about all men. And anything but believing her 100% means I don’t know what I’m talking about.

An I missing something? Is this typical? Or do I have unsupportive friends?

[Claudia233]

That is not supportive! It's not like you are married. You have nothing in common, you are not happy therefore you continue looking for the right one. It's the simplest thing. You don't like cheese so you don't eat cheese...

In a relationship the most important thing is respect. Whether your feelings are hurt or not you need to respect your partner/friend/coworker. There is no excuse for not being respectful. One day you heal and forget the bad feelings but the mean words you've been told is way harder to forget.

You should be happy you didn't postpone the break up. You don't need emotionally unstable person in your life

[Asker]

That makes sense to me, and more of the response I was expecting from my female friend.

But to have the breakup as I describe it be twisted into, for lack of a better term, my fault. With the ex not being held responsible. Is such hypocritical stance to take, and as always it’s at my expense.

[Claudia233]

If you don't feel like this is your partner then it is actually your responsibility to say so and end things. If you've come to that decision already and you don't see things working out it doesn't matter whose fault it was.