She rejected me but wants to hangout?

[bmemes]

So I was introduced to this girl who said she liked me Nd wanted to meet 1 on 1 to get to know me better her friends stepped in and talked her out of it for some odd reason I am a college graduate and I am financially independent and respectful so I'm not sure why they would do that. She then later turned me down but when I started to move on she reached out and asked how things were. We talked and I asked if you rejected me why are you hitting me up and she said she was unsure why. We proceeded to talk for a bit and I went to bed later then she started texting me later and asked a lot of questions to get to know me. We talked until 130 in the morning and she said initiated the plans by saying maybe we can meet up tonight. We hung out in a group setting and she didn't even speak to me at all. I am just confused does she like me and should I pursue or should I move on and let go? I don't want to give up if she likes me and I'm missing social ques.

[CMeow]

Whether or not she likes you is unclear. What I can say is that she is being really rude and disrespectful to you. The best case scenario, provided that her friend knew of you beforehand , is that the friend liked you but was scared to initiate —so this girl got you to meet up with them for her. The girl who invited you is playing games and no matter what the intentions are, someone who tries to play games with another person will not be a good partner to date. I wouldn’t give her your time

[Johann-Sebastian]

I couldn't agree more CMeow. Right here Bmemes, from the mouth of a Woman. Don't waste time on this Girl. She doesn't respect you, or care about you, and doesn't think you deserve her fronting you, and telling you the truth, no matter how unpleasant what she might have to say is. That should tell you all you need to know

[Pinay_ako]

You seem to like her but she’s hot and cold, bipolar, don’t know what she wants type. So beat it and Never look back. Unless you wanna be her friend 😑

[Pinay_ako]

Thanks for the MHG

[Pinay_ako]

Keep us posted for updates

[bmemes]

Pretty much ended up ghosting not much of a loss if she listened to her friends about my character instead of getting to know me but is what it is and your welcome for the upvote.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Females that want a partner in crime will talk a married woman into cheating, you didn't have friends for her friends and that was probably why you got cock blocked all by itself. She may have turned you down directly due to her friend's influence... women tend to go along to get along.

With all that said, what was the group setting for the meetup... were some of the same influences around? If you want a chance you got to get with her 1 on 1, simply put.

[bmemes]

She did not want to do a one to one anymore becuase of horrible rumors one of her friends said about me and setting was just a basic lobby with pool tables couches and some balcony.

[D_Bone_Steak]

So the 'friends' of hers are even talking shit about you to her... damn dude, they're 100% cock blocking. She's obviously interested if she's the one hitting you up for the meet-up.. but she got the meetup, and then didn't talk to you... again, was it a girl that was around, that would probably snitch on her to whoever doesn't like you so much or maybe that girl was around during the meet?

You gotta get her alone... not like come over to my room and lets play video games type stuff, but just simply away from the influence of of the other girls. Coffee or a breakfast date maybe, BUT make sure to exclude those fucking "friends" of hers. If they show up with her for coffee, then I'd say just give up. Dealing with that much cock blocking will just equal some blue balls. That's my opinion though. If the worth = effort + time to you that's up to you. All I'm saying is the effort will probably not be as hard if you can get her to ditch her fucking friends for a bit.

[bmemes]

Recently I was thinking it was her female friend who had a crush on me who was trying to stop her from being with me from jealousy. Becuase it was her friend who always asked me all the female questions that indicate attraction. Asking me futureplans, what I thought of another girl, religion shit like that. I do know I failed shit tests from the girl I liked dont know how that happened. And the rumor was I was an organ trader and some shit.

[bmemes]

And you were right I got snitched on for playing poker with them on campus.

[bmemes]

Her friends who talked shit never even met me to even say those horrible things.

[Sandeeppingping]

My guess would be that she expects you to initiate the convo with her, and in a group bro you have to act like you're a G, like you're the main guy, just be smart and loud and funny, that's it, but to ease your mind a bit about what she thinks in terms of liking you, I think she likes you but not enough, so again she's still unsure, do what I said in the 1st 4.5 sentences I typed and you'll be good my man

[bmemes]

She had her back to me the whole time and seemed like she didn't even want me near her since everytime I got close she pulled back she didn't even make eye contact.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

She invited you out then never spoke to you?

Move on. Best case scenario, she's so unsure of herself she can't make a move - such a passive partner isn't fun to deal with. Worst case, she's only invited you out as a dare and is using you.

Just firmly tell her you're not interested.

[bmemes]

She kept initiating going out as like maybe we can meet up then changed the location like 4 times then proceeded to nor look in my direction or speak to me her friend spoke to me the most and asked me the most question.

[bmemes]

" maybe we can meet up tonight" I hadn't even suggested a date much less even asked her out since she rejected me.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I already answered your question. See above.

[YollyM]

She could want to keep you as back-up while she pursues other guys and eventually make herself available to you when it's convenient to her (all else has failed). Assuming that you would still want her.

Perhaps she genuinely is not romantically attracted to you but she likes your aura and feels like you two could be good friends.

The only way to know for sure is if you ask her point-blank.

[bmemes]

Fortunately refusing to play back up is the one boundary I won't let be broken.

[Chazmatazz269]

She’s playing with you. If you like being a toy, play along. If you don’t, ignore her. She obviously doesn’t respect you and she’ll either grow bored of you or she’ll dump you when she gets a better offer.

[bmemes]

I dont understand human social dynamics well I Excell in academic setting and intellectual pursuits but human social and sexual behavior baffles me. How do I even get and maintain a woman's respect?

[Chazmatazz269]

Mostly through your job. Either make a lot of money, wield a lot of power, or do something deeply important like saving lives. That’s the one constant in western society. Beyond that, it’s going to be case by case. Some women respect smart dudes. Some women respect physically strong dudes. Some women don’t respect men at all. If you want to be around women, you’ll have to learn how to figure out which is which early on lest you get trampled often or badly. Ask questions about their fathers and men they admire. If they can’t answer or proceed with a rant, run. If they can and do, pay attention. You’ll learn what they respect about men and why. Then you can decide if you have similar qualities to which she’ll be attracted.

[bmemes]

I'm a senior level position at 24 making 50 in about 12 months I'm at 65k after promotion and after I finish my masters I'm well into the 6 figures I'm also 6'2 and well built will this be beneficial?

[Chazmatazz269]

None of that means anything to me. That’s a question for the females you’re interested in.

[SoftCliff]

She seems wishy-washy, immature and untrustworthy. She doesn't know what she wants, changes her mind every day and listens to her friends too much. Move on while you still can, before you end up getting hurt

[Johann-Sebastian]

Bmemes you said she Rejected you, you also say than in a group setting, she never spoke to you at all. I see 2 options, 1 walk away and forget about her. 2 tell her straight out you wanna date her, and ask her out. If she says yes, good work. If not, and she gives you the "i think we should stay friends" spiel, tell her no thanks, and walk away. Don't cop Girls coming and going in and out of your life, they'll do that shit if you let em, it just messes with your head

[bmemes]

I tried that but in the end she still pushed and even set boundaries saying I will not waste time and I allowed her to rope me in thinking her intentions were benevolent.

[Johann-Sebastian]

Forget that Bmemes, YOU be the one to set the boundaries. Forget what she says and does, worry about what you say and do instead. It's obvious she has no intention of dating you, otherwise she'd be dating you already. A confident Guy asserts himself, sets boundaries, and doesn't let anybody cross them, especially Women. she's clearly not interested, or if she is, she's having trouble committing, and being wishy washy about stuff. Wash your hands of this Girl and walk away, let some other Guy deal with her overgrown 14yo HS Girl bullshit. What she wants, is your attention, on her terms, when it suits her. Stop making excuses, saying "I tried, but". She's doing this because YOU'RE allowing it to happen. The problem isn't what she's doing, but that you're tolerating it, and allowing her to do it. Cut ties with this Girl once and for all. Block her everywhere, and have nothing more to do with her. Let her call you an asshole, or whatever she'll say, she's not dating you, and has no intention of doing so. You're not ruining a chance with her by asserting yourself, because whatever small chance you had with her is clearly gone. She's NOT into you Bro, wake up, smell the coffee, and walk away!!!

[ElementoP]

A woman's "friends" don't want what's best for her, they want what's best for themselves. If they just got dumped, then seeing their "friend" single too makes them feel better

[ElementoP]

"Girl, you don't need that guy. You can do SO much better. You don't need no man in your life girl, you're independent! Let's go out and have fun girl, forget about that guy!"

[bmemes]

The sad thing is I'm a top earner In her country I make more then most men in her country of origin which is ridiculous becuase I could have given her an amazing life if we matched and were able to build something if we were compatible.

[7barbieringz]

No. She's a narcissist and wants the attention from you but she'll just string u along, she won't care about hurting u or your feelings

[slatyb]

She’s a waste of time. If she were interested she would have given you attention with the group. She just wants your attention when she’s otherwise bored.

[FilmGuy93]

She sounds extremely rude, but I don't know that she's friendzoned you. I would take that as a cue to leave though. You don't need or want a head ache like that.

[cth96190]

She wants to keep you orbiting in the Friend Zone until she is done fucking the bad boys, then decides that she is ‘ready for a good man’.

[Smoothing]

@bmemes listen to the advice from the ladies. They know what they are talking about.

[ArtemisSilver]

Ah, what you have here is a time waster. Unless you have something non sexual in common that's worth your time you should probably decline.

[art84]

If a girl invite me and didn't talk to me cause of her group then I would forget her. Sounds like she is playing games with you.

[Tommy789]

If I were in Your shoes I would dismiss Her as someone who wants to play head games.

[Staximus]

If she likes you she would stand next to you and talk to you

[Shiningtempest]

@bmemes This indicates she's either indecisive or an irresponsible person.

[bmemes]

I guess I'm just confused I don't want to keep my hopes up just to think I got played

[KrakenAttackin]

Fuck no. She wants to fill her friend zone/Simp bench. Just walk from her.

[Scottswife]

Sounds like playing major hard to get or she's just nervous?

[bmemes]

Was all of this a shit test from a woman's perspective changing locations changing the time I had to wait to see her it was just fucking ridiculous how many hoops I had to go through just to be ignored. I wasn't desperate about the meet up I promised her I would see her and kept it.

[Johann-Sebastian]

When a Girl is into a Guy, she makes an effort, when she's not, she makes excuses... fact... All the hoops she puts infront of you to jump through, are designed to keep you from getting too close. Girls make rules for "Nice/Good Guys", and break them for Bad Boys/Guys they find attractive. Most guys don't realise that Girls use those so called rules, to keep undesirable Guys at arms length, and away from her. She's NOT interested, surely that has to be obvious by now. Tell her being friends with her doesn't suit you, , that you''re not interested in that, then walk away. And more to the point, stick to that and don't damn well give in. When you give in to Girls like that, you're showing them you can be manipulated, pushed around, and that you'll give in if they push hard enough. Sorry Bmemes my friend, it's time for you to discover your damn scrote and walk the hell away from this Girl

[bmemes]

I walked away and didn't put up with it but before that i even planned on going out with my friends but she kept saying we won't be able to hang out if I go out. It was just fucking stupid. I felt like I wasted my time trying to keep a promise I shouldn't have.

[Avicenna]

Ask her what her expectations are

[bmemes]

About what relationship status and from me?

[Iron_Man]

You’re probably not gonna like that

[bmemes]

What do you mean?

[Iron_Man]

Just being a friend

[bmemes]

I've made my intent clear that I won't settle for being friends I'm just not sure what her intent was and even openly gave her the go ahead to reject me and I would respect the descion.

[Iron_Man]

You’re just gonna end up being upset and hurt it’s better to Move on

[scott04sa22]

She’s not mature enough for any relationships

[Guy13]

That’s good…

[Guy13]

Still giving you a look 👀 still. Better than Nothing. You are being tested.

[bmemes]

I figured she was shit testing she tried the empathy and the waiting game with me. I backed off and gave her space Nd haven't reached out in a day and half and the last time I heard from her was her liking a message I sent on insta been quiet since then.

[bmemes]

Should I wait another day or next her?

[Guy13]

I don’t know as the details escapes me. Go with your Gut? Someone has to be gracious, right ❓🤷🏻‍♂️

[Guy13]

How about call 📞. That’s personal and would be a huge surprise…borderline Sweet 🤔

[bmemes]

I'll give it a shot

[Guy13]

💪…You will have done all that’s possible. You are in position of Power. She’ll look back at some point…. IF. she games and kills it

[bmemes]

I haven't felt this way in long time I feel the massive urge to protect and keep her safe I just don't want to ruin it.

[Guy13]

Phone call says personal. 💪

[In_Trance]

Block her

[bmemes]

What's the reasoning I can't make big descions like that without understanding the why

[Blueeyes81]

Move on.