How often do guys realize that they've lost a good girl?

[Anonymous]

How often do guys realize that they've lost a good girl (the one who got away) after breaking up with her, and how quickly do they realize it?

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my boyfriend for more than 3 months. but still not over him. but it doesn't mean like I still love him but I still care. but my feeling is not the same like before. I hurt too much that's y I can't even think about my cherish memories with him. we did lots of things together and we were together for more than 2 years. we loved each others a lot. and we care each others too much. but one day he just left me like a shit. his excuses was tired of seeing me and need to focus on himself. I was being crazy and though that he just frustrated it not true. I believed that he will come back. but when I phoned him, he got angry and said that to leave him alone. but I still wanted to take him back all the time. but he became very rude to me couldn't believe that this is not the one I used to know before. was crying for so many night and still listen all his stories from his friends. but now I realize that I need to let him go and try to move on my life. now I became ok and started eating nicely and happy again. when I heard about him it still hit me sometime but I trying to focus on myself and try to get over him. now I am trying to fight to forget about him but I will never be. but when I see him he is eating a lot and so happy with all his friends around. look he doesn't feel anything about. so now I realize that he doesn't love me anymore and he doesn't want me anymore so I will not hold this feeling anymore on me and will let him go. I was good enough for him and I do really care about him. hopefully one day he realize that he misses me and he loves me if he can't find a person better than me.

[Anonymous]

realistically, never. when people break up, it's over. no regrets, no tears. done

that's not what you want to hear I understand that, but that's the truth

[prettymuscle]

lol that's not true

[HIboi77]

I realize it every day. We were together a long time, and neither one of us was perfect by far, but I admit I got complacent and comfortable, and wrapped up in my own head and didn't notice as she drifted away. I guess I never considered the very real possibility of her NOT being there. I loved her with all my heart(still do) but it took her walking out of my life and into someone else's to realize just how much she made my life liveable. They say hindsight is 20/20, but I've found that to be cold comfort when I go to sleep alone in the bed we used to share, while she's sharing another man's.

[sixstring]

Oops, didn't read the question well enough... Never had it after a break-up, but I did realize I was a sh*tty boyfriend a couple of times.

[Asker]

Lol well than you must not have met the right one?

[prettymuscle]

It will take maybe a year or more to realize what they lost, cause in a day in age what we live in as in a recession, we need people who care about us

[dakotaman34]

Sometimes we never realize it until a few years from the time it happens others may regret it right away. Everyone is different.

[sixstring]

I had that once. THat was almost 6 years ago and I'm stil not completely over her...I knew the second she told me she had a new bf... so f***ed up.

[Anonymous]

Often. But it's not so bad once you meet another good girl. And we always do. That doesn't mean we don't think of past girls from time to time, but one must move on to bigger & better things.

[kheserthorpe]

Any girl I broke up with, the longer time goes on, the more I wish I'd dumped her sooner.

[sixstring]

Wasn't really in love with them. More of a having a girlfriend for having a girlfriend kinda thing.

[actricalian]

We realize it 62.5% of the time, and it takes eighteen days, six hours on average.

[TikiTook]

Lol, are you sure it isn't 62.375% of the time? I think your calculations are a tad off... Not trying to say I understand men more, but it sounds more accurate

[jayduke]

HIbol, how have you managed since she left you? 3 months later i'm still dealing with the pain of having lost her to another man, which breaks down my confidence

[Gregs]

depends on how many other good girls are around

[Shaun]

I realize it, it took me about a month.