I've known this girl since we were little (she is 3 years older than me), lately we have spent more time together either alone or as a family (us + parents). She has a boyfriend for around 2 to 3 years, but things between them are a little sour. She says she doesn't like texting and prefers personal interaction (is very sociable). When we talk by message she can either reply in minutes or several days. Takes an average 2-3 days to text me back, but never with one word response and often follow up with a question or one extra phrase and tries to keep the convo going. She is a busy girl has a job and lots of friends. Gives me compliments from time to time: "I like your hair", "you're pretty", "I like your t-shirt". Likes to see me with a beard, asks me if I think she's pretty/looking good, asks me if a particular girl is pretty, tries to make me feel better, enjoys the compliments i gave her, asks me for opinions on what tattoos she should get and what watches should buy. Tell me personal things about her and gets a bit intimate with me (recently). Has tons of confidence in me. Showed me a romantic music (with a lot of meaning) that she is recently listening to. Usually i catch her smiling a lot at me. Likes to sit next to me or in front of me in a group of friends/family and usually seeks to be more closer (in her personal space) when we are together there's physical contact (not in a huge amount) and we talk a lot about everything. Whenever i am with her she is happy and with a great humor. Likes to flirt with me calling me "boy" or making fun of my beard etc... whenever we are together we spend a great time!! All the cons i see is the texting time (never leaves me on read but can let me 1 week without a response) and some attention to her phone while we hanging. I am confused... Could she be interested? I want to confess what I feel, what should I do? I don't want to ruin anyone's relationship but I really like her!!!
There is always a possibility that she is interested. Sounds as if at the very least, she is interested in being close friends. There are certainly other things in your details that would lean towards an interest.
The problem is, as you pointed out, that she is in a relationship. She needs to sort that out first before anyone acts on anything. You rightly said you don't want to ruin someone's relationship. That is exactly what will happen if the two of you act on your desires.
It doesn't matter if her current relationship is not going well. She is still in one and SHE needs to get out of it before the two of you can pursue any sort of relationship more than friends.
If she keeps pressing and makes a move, you just need to tell her that you can't until she is single. That is what I would do. Tell her you want to remain friends but cannot get into a relationship with someone that isn't single.
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Hm, do not be a homewrecker please.. it causes a lot of trouble.
If she’s in a relationship then you need to let her be. At some point she will blame you if she leaves him and it is worse than with other guy.
Maintain a friendship without pressure so that she can respect you, and wait.
Well, you shouldn't tell her you like her like that when she's in a relationship. Then she'll have to cut ties with you.
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