Girls, have you ever been disappointed or let down when a guy you liked (or guys in general) didn't notice your effort of flaunting your best assets?

[Lovelyleaf]

I sometimes feel ignored or not appreciated

[oiqt99]

Absolutely. I’m going through this with my current boyfriend, actually. In past relationships, guys have always emphasized my appearance and complimented me a lot. I’m very insecure so I really appreciated when they would compliment my appearance because I took time to make myself look nice. However, my current boyfriend does not care about putting effort in appearance as much. He hates when I wear makeup and he thinks it’s silly when I’m worried if I look good enough to go out. From the surface level, it may seem like he’s being a jerk when he doesn’t appreciate my appearance, but I realized that he’s just a good man who’s not worried about appearances as much. He finds my natural state the most attractive, and I’m very appreciative of that. I also realized that I’m used to being so insecure, putting my worth in my physical appearance, and constantly seeking validation for it. So, I’m slowly trying to accept myself no matter if I’m putting effort or not. I should not rely on validation from anyone else.