Things changed for my wife after having two kids, just like I am assuming they change for Everywoman after kids. With me being gone so much due to all the jobs I have to work and grad school obligations, I understand that it’s not reasonable to demand her to figure out a way to line up a babysitter that isn’t in our budget just so that she can go to the gym. And before anybody gives me crap about well there are other ways yada yada you know what yourselves. I am not so shallow or vain that I would break up my family because my wife doesn’t look the same in her 30s after having two of my children then she did at 23. anybody who would consider let alone follow through with that for that reason is dead to me.
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no.. the fucked up part is yesterday for the first time in months i took some photos with my shirt off and posted them on my insta and she goes on a different platform a church prayer forum and bitches saying i'm fat and have a rash on my body etc. this was after me spending almost an entire year since the beginning of 2022 steadily working out hard with tons of heavy weight lifting. i felt like shit really awful after reading that knowing how hard i been busting my ass to get in shape. she doesn't know i saw that even though she went under an anonymous account to bitch. nothing i do satisfies her for whatever reason she hates my damn guts and has since day 1
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No. In sickness and in health is one of the marriage vows. I’d help her as much as I can and I’d hope we could get through to a positive outcome as soon as possible. While weight gains can be serious, the main plan would be to make sure she is healthy and in a good place mentally. I think a little weight fluctuation would be normal throughout life, but if it’s a serious problem then it should be worked out.
Depression, hormones, or age, no, I'd help her through it. Pregnancy, yes, because I'm sterile (CBAVD) so that would mean she cheated.
My wife of 30 years has gotten heavier and her health has declined but I wouldn't think of leaving her now. We have been through a lot together. She stood by me when I had problems, I'm standing by her with her problems. The vows says " through thick and thin, richer and poorer, in sickness and health ". Real love follows those vows.
If she got fat and decided yo not work on it I'd tell her I'd lost attraction to her. I don't know in my book the vows said till death not till she tipped a scale. Would I cheat? I'd sure be tempted. Would I leave? I sure hope I wouldn't need to.
What would you do if your guy just quit taking care of himself, got fat didn't have hygiene and didn't provide? Would you cheat? Would you leave? If he said he'd never work on himself? I would.You don't leave your wife just because she became fat due to pregnancy or some other hormonal changes. It just takes your pretending to another level of difficulty. Pretending that "You are the most perfect person in the world to me and I am the happiest person on Earth". Without that pretending married life cannot go on.
Nope, that's not something that would bother me.
I'm a certain level of demisexual and attracted to intelligence as well. So changes in their body wouldn't make me lose attraction.Every scar, every wrinkle is a story of the days we had and sacrificed to be here.
so, why would I leave her?
I don't have a problem with little chubby to begin with. If she's on the obese side, then I would express my feelings for her to loss some and I would be in her side helping her as much as I could!
No, i married person to share my life with.
If I would need someone other person to jerkoff to I then it’s time to wife and see what am I missing. But leaving anyone just because of change of appearance is sickAll I can say is anyone who does is a scumbag and the woman should milk him for every single dollar for child support.
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