I have a deep voice for a girl, and I sm insecure about it. In voice chat online, whenever I speak there always comes this girl with a high pitched voice from no where and steals the spotlight because she knows she's more attractive than me. I can just have a normal conversation with someone and she will come in and grab the person I'm talking to attention. I feel like having an unattractive voice (deep) as a girl makes people not want to be around me. Literally every other girl I know has a normal or high pitched voice but I have a deep voice. I'm so insecure about it I hate it so much, and the worst part is that I can't change it. It would benefit me if I was male but I am female so it's a curse.
Maybe you feel like this because you are "Under18" but to my experience a deep voice is attractive too because it sounds bold and mature. It should be matched with a confident but calm (not aggressive) personality to get the best from it I guess.
I have a deeper voice than average, a couple of times in online chats people thought I was a young boy, but all the other people online told me my voice is attractive (I didn't even ask opinions). I can't sing and my spoken English has an extremely heavy accent of my native language so I'm sure the compliments were referring to the voice tone only.
But my age is different, and I didn't get direct opinions before I was around 25 so I don't know how younger people might perceive you. I'm 30 so having a "mature" voice sounds usually cool but not sure at your age. On the other side, when I was younger I've been told by one person I talk like a dead cat and that was annoying, which might have been worsened by the fact the voice is low, but it was mostly because I was depressed and flaky, negative, "heavy", and that mood was coming out easily through the way I talked.
I met a girl in real life once who was 19 with an extremely deep voice that led me to remark that (in a positive way) because you don't hear that often at all, but she was talking about her dates so I think it's not "such" an unattractive feature you risk to stay single for long (if it is even unattractive).
Anyway, it's not the voice alone that makes a deal breaker for "talking", you don't really need to have a sexually attractive voice to have people wanting to talk with you (so what, straight guys don't want to talk to other straight guys?), so if a girl comes in an online voice chat and steals your space it's most likely because of her personality/charm, probably she is an extrovert and is all positive and energetic and wins the full attention easily. Or maybe she brings more interesting contents.
Plenty of people I saw on this website associating their social/romantic failures with 1 single trait they point the finger against, as a scapegoat for every problem, and end up obsessing about that, not recognizing the causes are others, and so, missing the chance to work on them.
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how deep we talkin?
Post an audio of your voice, but i doubt it's THAT deep
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