Do you think women should be submissive no matter what?

[Anonymous]

So, I’m just asking this question because I’ve heard lots of opinions from some people on social media that women should always look pretty for someone else, always be submissive, always say yes and more. But also some other opinions going against them.

There’s been multiple times where I’ve seen things on social media either videos, posts or articles and it says like something along the lines of “women should be quiet, and submissive and feminine and never fight back. And I’ve started doing those things to try to copy them. But I’ve tried and I still still don’t know if what I’m doing is right or if I should be that way. (Quiet, submissive, etc)
Is this the right way?

[NamerOfStars]

Well, the right way for what, exactly? Women aren't dumb unthinking animals, driven entirely by instinct and unable to reason; they're people. Yes, they're more risk-averse (which is genetic), and often struggle with being more assertive, but that doesn't mean they can't, and certainly doesn't mean they shouldn't.

They're also not a hive mind, and not every woman is the same. I would say that the right way forward- for anyone- is to periodically pause and reflect and suss out what you believe to be right, and to base your actions on that. Call out what you see to be wrong, and discuss it with those doing it- politely and respectfully; there's likely more to the situation than you can see, and your judgement might be flawed in those circumstances- and be the change you want to see in the world.

Your personality may be more oriented toward going along to get along, and that's okay, but there are limits to that. Don't let social media dictate your morals, or you'll find you don't have any. And remember- for pity's sake, remember- that there's a difference between "assertive" and "assholic"; stay on the good side of that line.

[HighValue]

Only follow a strong competent man's decisions that takes responsibility for his decisions and that looks out for your interest as well for BOTH of your long term benefit together. Don't just be submissive to all men and do what they say because you will get used and abused. You don't need to be quite, but don't be argumentative and trying to put down/insult your SO. There is a huge difference. You should also tell your opinions and if you are in a relationship and he makes a decision that affects both of you, you are owed an explanation for his reasoning.

There is no such thing as true 50/50 in a relationship, otherwise contradicting decisions can't be made and there will be an impasse. Someone has to have more decision making ability in the relationship. At your age however, the guy is likely to be inexperienced in life and make numerous bad decisions so I wouldn't suggest just blindly following whatever they say.

One suggestion I have is if you are with someone and they make a decision, think about what is their motivation for making that decision, and if it is in BOTH your best interest, or is it just using you/harming you in some way.

[mamuma02]

Hahaha i can't emagine myself being submissive forever and only saying yes.

I m not a toy to be controlled. Girl do you live in a coult or something? Don't listen to social media shit of making girls lower themself.

I would rather burn the whole earth than let myself be a robot that only is made to say Yes to everything males wants.

Where is the respect in that?

I only respect people who have respect me too and my opinion.

They can do their shit and I will do mine.

[mamuma02]

Thanks for MHO 🥰

[Anonymous]

No but I like a masculine manly man and to feel like he is. I find that by being submissive I can direct my fella to get what I want.

[FilmGuy93]

There's a balance to be found, but submissiveness is generally a good thing, yes.

[Pegases]

No. I think femininity is stressed so much in society today because a lot of women are out of touch with their feminine core, and it makes them cold, repulsive, and ultimately unhappy. They're told that being a woman or embodying femininity is weak, so most women opt to become men. You should be who you want to be, but its in your best interest to choose a path that isn't out of fear, or to appease the crowd of bitter women whom have the most clout today. Strive to become the best version of you.

[Avcfhcic]

You should never copy anyone else! Be you!
I find nothing wrong with more assertive women! Be yourself and if you can't be the quiet obedient girl that some say you should be then so be it.
Even bedroom stuff, there's 25% of women who are dominant or like to act dominant.
You aren't alone!

[SeriouslyFunny00]

Of course not.. we're not robots. Some men in my life taught me to not be afraid to speak up and I'm still grateful for those kings up until this day. ❤️ Just like the other comments here, continue being yourself.

[MCheetah]

No, not always. But most men don't want an aggressive, loud, masculine, macho female. You gotta decide which you'd rather be.

[Berethor]

To her father and her husband, if she submissive to other men it could be a problem.

[Asker]

Well, what if my father is not in my life?

[Berethor]

Then you lack a protector, also it might make you have a daddy issues, you have them?

[Asker]

I guess, I have a father figure. Sort of. I live in the same household as my grandfather but we barely speak but he is there for me sometimes. I can’t really control it because my father is in jail.

[Berethor]

I see, anyway submissiveness is a feminine trait, and most women are submissive.

[Astarlessnightsky]

There is no right or wrong way.

Be yourself, be happy.

[bamesjond0069]

Yes it is the right way. Women who try to be dominant never succeed at life and usually are just shitty people so i never have anything to do with them.

[fonduegirl]

Of course not. That's a bag of patriarchal bollocks.

[Brando10222]

Not true! Women can be dominant too. But in general neutral is better for both men and women

[OddBeMe]

Yes. But only during sex.


Unless I want to be dominated which I’ll say our safe word.

[Pohjolan]

No.

Look in life plenty of people dislike you but no one will like a fake you.

[Anonymous]

I don't want her to be difficult and argue with me about everything, but I do want her to have a personality and be her person.

[EmmaMary]

No, absolutely not... Period.

[swettannie]

well, what do you think?

[Blackcupcake]

no I do not.