Why are women attracted to toxic/bad boy men?

[Anonymous]

I wonder if it’s not toxic men women can be attracted to, but rather the elements of that. Spontaneous, unhinged, unpredictable, mysterious. Like we can be attracted to that chaotic type of energy if we’re adrenaline junkies who need a consistent and steady flow of excitement.

Being attracted to the loner, depressed type of guy. The social outcast, the nihilist. Getting attention from him when he rejects everything else, then you become addicted to it. But those kind of men eventually get bored of their current muse and move on back into their sadness or else their latest dessert.

I don't know, I’m just thinking out thoughts

[JPresidente]

Because of most of them have a mixture of risky behavior, some alpha traits, they like to dominate women and are rude to men and most others and have a carefree, I don't give a sh*t attitude about life that some people wish they had. This is appealing to some women who lack self confidence, have a daddy complex, part of them wants to be treated like dirt and part of them thinks they can change the man somehow.

[DavidRaul]

Well there are good guys who just like to live their life to the fullest without being depressed, shut down in their own room. Good men are still out there, But women end up with the wrong men everytime

[Asker]

Well this isn’t all women, just a significant percentage of them. When we’re under 18 I’d say maybe 15% and over 18 maybe more like 10%. Maybe not anymore, but I’d say most women want healthier relationships. Just a lot of us are attracted to unhealthy ones

[DavidRaul]

Well thats what i am saying

[AmeeraM]

Girls are attracted to bad boys not women I grew out of that faze by 22 you’ll know when you come across a man & not a boy

[Asker]

I agree, but I think plenty of older women are still attracted to it; they just logically know why to say now.

[AmeeraM]

They’re still attracted because they don’t value themselves once you figure out your value a bad boy isn’t ***

[Asker]

Eh, maybe

[AmeeraM]

Wym maybe It’s the truth there’s no such thing as a bad boy just an annoying boy that says & does immature things

[Asker]

Just maybe

[AmeeraM]

Better to realize now because some women never do unfortunately

[Asker]

🤷‍♀️

[TheSpaceGnome]

"Like we can be attracted to that chaotic type of energy if we’re adrenaline junkies who need a consistent and steady flow of excitement."

Play a video game.

[Asker]

Stakes aren’t really high the same way as with a video game. As well as with a man and a woman, there is sexual tension in that relationship as well. It adds a layer of thrill from the most addictive drug.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Play a video game.

[Asker]

I’m not arguing a video game is healthier, my point is that’s like telling a opium addict to take tylonal instead. I’m just saying it wouldn’t work against that desired feeling,
People are much more thrilling, complex, and unpredictable than videogames.

[TheSpaceGnome]

I reiterate, play a (good) video game.

No higher adrenaline rushing thrill exists in my opinion.

[Asker]

Video games are pretty boring in comparison to the human experience and the complex differences within each persons function.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Nah, I'd say in most cases the reverse is true. Most people are so boring that I avoid them. I tend to find mental differences in people to be irritating or dull, rather than interesting. Ideas and hobbies are far more interesting to me, but only the ones I like.

[Asker]

I think it’d be more interesting to talk to a person than to play with the toy he made.

[TheSpaceGnome]

No way lol. I could spend 90% of the day playing with the creations of an artistically talented woman.

Or with the creations I make for that matter.

So much so, that if a woman is not an artisically talented gamer, I won't even consider her as a possible SO.

[Danny_dan92]

Cause bad boys hold more protective elements and aren’t afraid to defend themselves

[Asker]

Are you sure those aren’t just dark triad traits?

[Danny_dan92]

What?

[Asker]

Dark triad traits. Negative personality traits that mimic or charade as positive ones.
Competence swapped with manipulation, confidence exchanged with narcissism.

[Danny_dan92]

I guess?

[Wwwyzzerdd]

For some reason women are attracted to narcissism

[Asker]

I think it’s because it mimics confidence in sort of a dark and exciting way

[Anonymous]

I think it's usually because people who are toxic end up with someone equally as toxic. Decent people won't put up with them.

[UniquelyBasic]

Its a proxy for confidence mostly.

[Asker]

You think so?