Why do women get mad when you make the oservation (not in a derogatory way obviously) that a woman's hair color is not her real hair color?

[Anonymous]

Most women change thier hair color. Even if it's just highlights. For example if she's got dark eyebrows, she's probably not really a blonde. I mean it's so obvious. Nobody is saying it looks bad. So why do women get mad at people noticing the painfully obvious?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

Just don't say it and you won't spoil your evening. Although I admit it's not always easy to keep the mouth shut.

Hell, once I said much worse - I met up with a woman who made a comment about my teeth - that they were pearly whites but they weren't "mine", as in I got them fixed and implanted since I had some nasty gnashers a few years prior (my fault I admit). I then replied that she too had something nice but not hers, since she used to be flat as a board up until a couple of years ago but now boasted model-tier breasts.

It went well though - she laughed and said that people better take notice since she paid a lot for them.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

When you comment on things like that, unprompted and unasked, it comes across as a criticism that they don't want their natural color, or that you're shaming them for wanting to wear something else.

[Asker]

So because she's insecure that's his fault?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

More like it comes across as a criticism of her own self-expression because that person is projecting on them. When I had pink hair, I had my fair share of people complaining about me not wearing my natural hair color. I just took it as them not understanding what it was to enjoy expressing yourself in new ways.

[Asker]

Read the question again. I said "not in a derogatory way obviouslsy". I'll give an example to help you. A question was asked on here "what hair color do you prefer A. blonde. B. Brunette C. Redhead. Everytime this is asked I answer the same, "It really doesn't matter to me". "Much of the time it isn't her real hair color anyhow". And sometimes to make my point I include that for example if a woman is really blonde and has dark eyebrows then it's pretty obvious that is not her real hair color.
Any guy who has dated a fair amount of women know all the things they do. The unnatural eyebrow curve, the lipstick outside the natural lines of her mouth, we're not judging. But we're not stupid. Your gender seems to get angry that we're just observant on things you don't want us to be observant about.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I mean, you say it's not derogatory but you may not be aware of how you're coming off. Maybe the way you're saying it, or implying it, makes it seem like a woman is somehow lesser for doing so. Have you ever recorded yourself saying it? Seen what you look like or how you sound?

[Asker]

No. Because I know what I mean. I can't know what all women are more insecure about this then others.