My mum wants to wrestle me again like when I was younger. Should I say yes to her?

[Petedevon321]

Me and my mom over the years have always been close. She is a single mum.
Over the years we used to wrestle a lot like play fighting. I'd always lose. But now she has said that we should try again this week to see who would win now because I’m older and stronger too. I'm a little nervous to say yes because l'm scared that I might lose again. In the past she always used to beat me by using her legs to wrapped around various parts of my body. ie ribs and neck. What if she does that again. I don't want to lose as it will be embarrassing now I'm older. Any advice or thoughts on this will be appreciated. Thanks

[AnyAdviceAppreciated]

I think it's kind of inappropriate behaviour for a mother and son. I think you could just say to her "I think I will give it a miss mum, I don't want to risk hurting you now that I'm older and stronger". That way it looks like you are protecting her and you don't need to worry about losing to her, or the other issue of inappropriateness.

[Petedevon321]

Yes that’s what I’m thinking. I’m not young anymore. I’m in my 20s. Although I’m not sure I can beat her. I’m still quite lanky and skinny. She goes gym a lot.

[AnyAdviceAppreciated]

You could be upfront and honest with her then and say that you don't feel comfortable doing that now that you are older. She has to respect your feelings and surely she has to know at some level it's not appropriate. Just because you are lanky and skinny as you say, it doesn't mean you lack strength either x

[Petedevon321]

Yes. Even though I’m skinny, I’m not as weak as a look lol. I will just tell her. When I was a kid it was just innocent. But let’s say she put me in headlock with her legs like she used to, I don’t know how I will react so it’s inappropriate. Hopefully she doesn’t react negatively to this response.

[AnyAdviceAppreciated]

It's very clear you are uncomfortable with her request. I would just start with the whole innocent I'm older now, I know I'm skinny mum but I'm stronger than I look and I don't want to hurt you. Play it off jokingly because you dont want to hurt her feelings or embaress her. If she doesn't accept that then tell her you don't feel comfortable.

[Petedevon321]

U are right. I will tell her later today. See what happens. Hopefully all is fine and we can move forward. Thanks for ur help

[AnyAdviceAppreciated]

Let me know how you go x

[Petedevon321]

Hey. So I told my mum that I didn't want to wrestle her as I’m older now and it will be weird. At first she agreed, but later when we were watching tele, she just “pounced” on me and I had no choice but to fight back ffs

[AnyAdviceAppreciated]

For real, or are you pulling my leg?

[Petedevon321]

No. I’m serious. I thought she understood when I told her no. But I guess not. I tried defending myself as much as I could

[Anonymous]

That’s really weird that she wants to do it again when you’re older. I’d say no.

[Petedevon321]

That’s what I thought tbh. I feel if I say no though, that she might make fun of me or call me a chicken etc

[Truth0225]

Is this like a sexual thing?

[Petedevon321]

No. It’s not. Genuine question