Girls, Why do you girls/women hate it when your boyfriends/husbands enjoying playing video games?

[Anonymous]

While you pay more for your stupid purses.

[Anonymous]

Because you neglect your woman and everything else. It’s not the fact that you’re playing video games (although one can argue it’s not very manly and attractive for a grown man to sit and play video games like a little boy but whatever, it’s not really about that) it’s the facg you’re sitting there for hours and don’t want to do things together and do nothing around the house either. Like my ex was into wow and we were long distance, he’d still ”have to” just play a ”little bit” even when I was there and had traveled 5 hours to his place to spend the weekend. He’d sit there for several hours while I was just on his bed waiting for him to finish so we could actually go out and do someting. He’d also get up after having sex to play his game instead of cuddling, he’d call me in the evenings and then be like hey I got to go play now, my friend’s gonna log on soon and shit like this. And I know of women with gamer boyfriends or husbands who’ll just play for hours every day. 12 hours like nothing, and leave her to take care of the kids and household. Won’t do date nights, movie nights etc because they wanan game. It’s a NO from me. I’ll never date a man who plays video games again. Absolutely not.

[Asker]

Who hurt you?

[Asker]

I guess you don't want your boyfriends to have any fun but you probably want to go out with your girlfriends to a club or something all doll up to look like a stripper.

[Opinion Owner]

Who hurt me? Did you even read what I wrote? And no, if him having fun involved neclecting me, the household or our (future) kids then I don’t want him to have ”fun”. He’s a grown man and she’s his partner - he’s not a teenage boy and she his mom. But maybe you would love it if your girlfriend/wife neclected you and your relationship, didn’t do shit around the house and just let you deal with that and your kids alone everyday while she was playing candycrush 6-15 hours a day? Good for you if that’s the case, but most people don’t want it that way. If he was playing an hour or two here and there, even a full day every once in a while if we weren’t doing anything specific anyway, things would be different. Then he could have his ”fun”. But when it turns into hours every day and putting the game before life then it’s big NO and unfortunately a lot of gamers get addicted and take it too far. And no, I’ve never gone clubbing even once in my entire life, I don’t drink and I haven’t touched my makeup-baf in I think 2 years. I don’t even know where it is. So shut the fuck up with your bs.

[Asker]

Okay, Karen. I don't believe you at all.

[AmyHew1tt]

That sucks. I don't think I could ever date a guy who games regularly. I'm sorry you had that experience.

[AmyHew1tt]

Because unless you're good with time management, you neglect everything else going on and give some fictional characters more importance than the actual people in your lives.

I think most women would tolerate it, if gaming men in their lives ever displayed self-limitations and again, time management. But I know I have never met one. Most of the men in my family are big gamers. My uncle spent more than a thousand bucks on some sort of zombie game last week without even talking to my aunt about it. My cousin used to spend literally every day in his room playing games. I constantly hear my dad say he'll be done in two minutes again and again for an hour, and he leaves her to do everything that needs to be done. I dropped off a box of kittens at my friend's house the other day for his family to take care of, and he loves cats, but he didn't even look up or acknowledge them or me he was so stuck in his game. All my friends with gamer boyfriends come over to their houses and end up being left for hours while the guys 'finish this part.'

We wouldn't hate when guys love playing video games if they didn't sap so much from our relationships with them, or if they could display an ability to balance things.

And this isn't the Edwardian age. We can and do buy our own purses. But from your replies to the other commenters, I can tell you don't care for the answers given and have no intention of trying to see things from the opposite side, so I don't really know why I bothered giving my own reasons.

But that said there are some people who manage healthy, fulfilling relationships even when games are involved. Usually, the girls involved either like games too, in which case it's a win-win, or they're an 'I' person and prefer spending time on their own or with their friends instead of their partner.

[ShellyB]

It is mainly about the time involved and the tunnel vision. To me a game is something you play for a few minutes at a time when you are bored or have a little time before something else. When it gets treated like blocking out half a day or something and ignoring me and everything else in the real world, that is when it is annoying.

I have no idea what it has to do with purses, I guess you are just comparing costs, which is not the main issue.

By the way you asked the question and I noticed several girls answered you and you wanted to argue or put words in their mouth like you did not believe their answers. If you actually want to know the answer I would read what people say, if you just want to vent we are the wrong people to do anything about it. JMO!

[Cynicaldreamer]

As a gamer, let me give you some friendly advice: find yourself a gamer girl to date!
Non gamers aren't as understanding as gamers when it comes to our hobby- trust me, I used to like a guy that hated gaming and thought me playing was stupid-

Needless to say, things didn't work out between us.

Most women get upset that some guys can't maintain a healthy balance between real life and gaming- and I will admit, gaming can be a major timesink, especially if you're hardcore. This gets harder if you have kids, work, school, etc...

You can try finding a game you both like, or teach her to play some of yours as a way to bond. Or set aside x amount of time each day just for her... no gaming, just "couple time."

[sunflower00]

There’s nothing wrong with gaming. Like others have said the issue is when it’s 24/7. Like, I’ve been to a boyfriends house before to visit him and he put on his headset and played games with his friends for literally 10 hours straight, meanwhile I was awkwardly sat in the corner of the bed with nothing to do but go on my phone. It’s just rude & neglectful. There’s no need to make plans with someone and then ignore them the whole time it’s just a waste of the other person’s time, and also ends up leading to neglecting housework/hygiene etc. which is a big problem.


Nothing wrong with gaming itself though just do it in your own spare time

[Jemini_Crocket]

I used to be a big gamer, I love games still, they're a nice escape from reality and just fun, but I always knew gamers are a no go. I would never date one. It's okay to play from time to time but everyday? For hours? Just no.

Most gamer guys do neglect and ignore their families, partners, households just like the Anon sis has said, and there are so many ways and other things to do that are more fun / fullfilling.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It's only a problem when he no longer pays attention and does stuff with his girlfriend or wife. Other than that, gaming can be enjoyed while maintaining a healthy relationship. My sister and her husband are gamers and they love playing on switch or 3DS together (they're nerds as well).

[Stressyalaire]

It's not about how much money it costs, my man. It's about the time spent on the activity. If you spend so much on a game that there would be no difference in his life if he was single, we got a problem.

[Asker]

You girls do the same thing but with shopping. You girls get lost in your shopping the same way we men do when it comes to video games.

[Stressyalaire]

"you girls?" You think we're all the same?

[Asker]

You girls do the same to us men.

[Stressyalaire]

So you do think we're all the same, confirmed. Until you get over that little problem, you'll be able to truly understand the answer I gave you regarding gaming.

[Reem12345reem]

bc u play sooooo longgggg consistently and u get so absorbed by it , there's no problem with playing video games , i'd love to play that too , but most women will feel ignored if u stayed so long playing

[Sour-rose]

Are you feelin' okay? Most bishes who feel that way is because they ain't gettin attention. If I get me my own special man, we playing games together or we ain't, and that's okay.

[On_cloud_wine]

I wouldn’t have an issue.. it’s a healthy hobby.. addicting but stimulating, exciting and fun.

[Anonymous]

I want a man, not an immature boy.

[Asker]

We men want true women but we don't get that. We men don't get that.

[AmyHew1tt]

Given your view of women, is it really a surprise you can't find one? And honestly, what's in it for a woman to have a relationship with a guy who puts gaming over spending time with her?