Why do some women look down upon men who play video games?

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AzzaBlue · Accepted Answer

LOL!! The negative comments are hilarious.
1) For those of you claiming that video games are for children, well there are millions of players world wide that would strongly disagree with you. In fact, many gaming companies make games that are marketed specifically for adults. Case in point, Cyberpunk 2077 is an action RPG with a rating of R18+. This game was obviously made specifically for children right? Stop talking out of your arses.

2) People who say that video games are a waste of time are hypocrites to the nth degree. What is it that people generally do when they get home from work? They sit down and watch the idiot box all night. I called it the idiot box because most programs these days are boring moronic/ trashy reality shows, or programs that promote "wokeness." No thanks, I'll stick to video games. At least with video games you are mentally engaged and participating rather than staring blindly at a TV screen like a zombie.

3) This comment is specifically for women. I know that this might be hard for to accept but, the world does not revolve around you. Yes, you read that correctly. The world "DOES NOT" revolve around you. Men do not exist solely for you benefit, in fact many men have hobbies/ interests that have absolutely nothing to do with you. So get over yourselves. Now if said men have girlfriends and are spending more time playing video games than with their girlfriend, then I agree that they should re-evaluate their priorities. But if they are single, than it has nothing to do with you. So shove off.

If you don't like video games than that's fair enough. But don't go passing judgement of those that are passionate for activities that has nothing to do with you.

friendzoned4life · Accepted Answer

They think that games are useless.

But as A gamer I will say this the more we play the more we are understanded.

The People online trashtalking you are the ones that really listen when you open up.

Females always ask us to open up but has soon as we do it is answered with

MAN UP!
Other People have it worse
Or they Just laugh about it

If I mention in an online game I am having a bad Day my fellow gamers are gonna ask me what the fuck happened and listen.

Why because they understand
We escape trough the games that's why the games are becoming more and more like movies to have A story to get us to have better grip on life

Like the game life is strange the first version is about grief and letting go off your past cause trying to change it will make it only worse cause you can't

The games actually do what Girls say they do.
So let us be a footballclub manager, soldier, medieval adventurer, super saijajin or anything else for the moment we play cause that's how we deal with life

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

That is not true. That is true for people who think maturity is not having any fun at all or a chance to relax and that is not the case. The problem is that while children and some teenagers have the luxury to enjoy that. As adults, we do not always have that. Plus a lot of women desire sexual and emotional closeness. Most men these days do not build that intimacy with the woman but do so with video games. So when it's time for when men want sex, they use the woman for sex and continue to desire his emotional and sexual desires met, yet when it's her turn, he selfishly doesn't give the same amount.

As I told another user, it is the immature men that don't even consider how the other woman feels. This is why women whether their gamer girls or not get upset because it is not the video games per se that are the issue. It's the kind of men they try to love and women need a lot of attention emotionally. That is something that most men are now uncomfortable with because if you look at their upbringing and history, most of them either didn't have a good family, parents are either divorced or they were taught wrong or even had permissive parents. This is why hobbies, etc aren't what makes a relationship. It is about the standards, character, economic, and other important things that matter.

Bellatris · Accepted Answer

Basically it boils down to ignorance and a lack of understanding. I've played "video" games myself, many times, and they're not "for children" as some silly people below have stated. They involve a great deal of thought, planning, imagination and timing.
Compare this with, for example, watching a film. All you do is just sit there, like a potato, watching what others do on a screen. Borrrrrrrrrrrrring!
Would these women prefer their men to be at the pub all the time, drinking themselves into a stupor? Or always watching football?

coachTanthony · Answer

Many women get jealous of anything or anyone who takes their man away from them. Most time these women don't have hobbies of their own or friends of their own and have made their man their entire purpose in life.

Couples need a good balance. Both need to have things that they enjoy outside their relationship.

Apope16 · Answer

You are 17 years old. So whatever... but if you are a grown man you should not play more than 2 hours of video games in a day. Here is why guys who play video games seem like losers.

1) A lot of guys who play video games have no social skills. They dont know how to talk to women. They are so scared of women they go and talk to their video game buddies instead.

2) It shows you dont have a life outside of the fantasy in your tv screen. Your life is so lame that you need it in a screen. You are not out in the real world doing any interesting. you are boring.

3) She has no hobby to do something with you. Because she doesn't like video games she has no other hobbies of something to connect with you. If you put down the video game what are you doing in real life that she can connect with?

4) In adult hood it looks childish. A girl wants a guy who comes across as older than he is. A guy on his mission and purpose. a guy who i sexy and driven. How many video game guys wear a watch like a grown man? how many work out? how many wear anything more than a jersey, hoodie, or pajama pants?

Nmalinova · Answer

I don't mind them, helps me to fall asleep actually! I encourage my partner to play in the evenings lol! I do understand that it can be too much though if it's ALL weekend or ALL day... I guess there just needs to be a healthy balance, like with everything and I think when someone says they enjoy playing video games there is this typical binge gamer stereotype attached to it! It' all about the balance... I tell people off for being on the phone ALL day because to me this is just as bad as binging video games or anything else!

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

I don't think it's if people play games.
It's if that's all they do and neglect their duties/responsibilities and their personal relationships. I mean if you tell someone you're too busy to see them and then spend hours gaming, aren't you putting the game over that person? Like with anything, when it's done for fun or to unwind after a hard day at work, that's one thing. But if that's all you ever do, that's when it may become a problem.

Bright_blue_eyes · Answer

I read the girl comments and most of them are correct. Playing video games frequently is for losers with poor social skills. Actually, let me correct my statement, playing video games leads to or makes guys losers with poor social skills. Maybe they don't start out that way, but you end up that way. The activity itself "long term" has an effect on your brain & your body. The outcome of that is not attractive to girls. Plus consider this, since video games are addictive a guy will choose his game over the girl, and how do you think that makes the girl's feel? Girls love attention, and they don't want to compete with your little game. They're going to dump you for a guy who gives them attention and a guy who is physically fit. You may not like it, but you know it happens.

FlutteringFeelings · Answer

Some things in life has a beginning and end. At what point do they stop and say “maybe it’s time to let this go and prepare for a new chapter in my life.” Some will use an excuse to say ‘Women play it as well’, ‘It’s a hobby and helps me escape reality’, ‘I make money off of it’. The same goes for both. There’s so much more to do in life as an adult such as, reading, travel, invest, learn how to fish, write a book, create a video game for kids to play. Sitting in front of a game for 5+ hours is an addiction.

If you’re a kid then most of the time it’s either school and play time. If someone is 21+ and is still under the games then I’ll have to question and ask why? What do you get from it besides using it as a distraction? and will you ever give it up?

DizzyDesii · Answer

Its cute and honestly a bit hot and relatable when we’re kids or teens. But once the guy is like 24 and hopefully done with college, it would be nice if playing video games was no longer a daily thing. Maybe something he does a few times a month. I used to game daily but not 6 hours straight like my ex. He put aside a lot of things including health/fitness. I personally only game a month or two a year now. Its just not important anymore. He wanted a job in gaming and i just knew we wouldn't work with how much he played

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

I personally don't have a issue with it especially as my boyfriend tries to get me involved or cuddles me whilst he plays his games but he's not really that big of a gamer anymore anyway since his play station or whatever its called stopped working.

A couple negative I did notice though is sometimes he'd get really angry and aggressive whilst playing and wouldn't pay any attention to me yet expected me to stay in his room with him whilst I just sit there but most the time he knows when to stop and if I ask him to by attention to me and turn the game off he will.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I don't know if all of them look down on it, but I don't see an issue with people who game.

Is having some harmless fun in life such a bad thing, because it's 'not productive', if everything one does in life has to be productive, then good luck enjoying it.

As long as it doesn't take over your life and you're not addicted, thrn who honestly gives a fuck, it's just some harmless fun and people can get a career out of it too, like big fucking deal - not really a gamee myself, but I'd rather play it occasionally than cry over some fake ass chick flick, whilst bitching about someone else's harmless hobby.

HawkPerception · Answer

Immature women. I understand if the guy doesn't give any time to the relationship, but if he has a job and spends time with her, it's completely fine to have his "me time". There's always balance in everything.

When my ex used to come over, I would never game unless she was asleep. I would spend all her time awake doing stuff with her, watching movies, going for walks, restaurants, cook for her, play board games... you name it.

If you live together then it's different. You don't spend every waking moment together and respect each other's space. Again... balance.

Girls that demonize videogames and only think it's for children are low IQ.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I think women just get afraid that the guy is gonna be a gamer to a point where it's a big part of their life.

Like me, I play video games, assassin's creed, I'm in the top 15% of madden NFL players rn. But I work a lot. I make decent money, I spend a lot of time with friends and family, I cook and keep my space clean.

I play my Playstation for maybe 6 hours a week on average. Not counting one or two times a month I'll just get high and stay home for a day. The point is, I'm functional and grounded in the real world.

It's not attractive for most women when you're a guy who just fully embraces being a gamer and you aren't competitive in other areas of life. Maybe you got a lot of purple and red lights plus weird props in your room. It's just a little odd especially if there's other areas of your life that need immediate attention.

Don't look like you have no priorities

Lionman95 · Answer

Because at least some these guys are addicted to these games and are not interested in doing other stuff. Playing video games isn´t a social quality because there is less a difference if you play it as a boy or a man. It´s like a child playing with its toys even if the in game consequences are different.

DollAlone · Answer

Personally i love video games but im usually playing them on my phone. I don't think women look down at them but when it monopolizes most of a mans time and he would rather play video games then have sex or spend time with his girlfriend, its time to get a real man.

Flower7 · Answer

Because of the extreme amount of time that many gamers spend doing that. That takes away from quality time they could be spending with their partner. That can make the woman feel ignored and like she's not getting enough attention. It can cause her to get bored with him also.

Anonymous · Answer

because they make those games their life and they often will neglect their relationships because of it. it does and WILL happen... games first, girls later apparently. i don't care if he plays, but prioritizing that over us and replacing our time with games when we have limited time together really pisses me off.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

My two things are 1 - If he is into video games he might not care about his career or his health or his family and 2 - if he plays video games he might not have time for dates. But I know Ivy League doctors who play video games so it’s not true for everyone.

Anonymous · Answer

We don't we just look down on men who deidicate their entire lives to video games 24/7 and have no other hobbies. It's very unhealthy, and men like that tend to be lazy and have no motivation for anything what so ever. I know because that's how my cousin is.

123lucy · Answer

It's if playing video games is practically all they do and it's like their whole personality. I play video games, so I don't look down on anyone for just playing them.

Anonymous · Answer

Because "spare time" often becomes "all the time" and there are much better things you could be doing. If it's really just a pastime for when you're not busy with other pursuits, it's fine. But when it's your main pursuit in life, it's childish. Women want a man who's mature and wise enough to commit himself to productive hobbies or side jobs, not sitting on the couch wasting his time on things that'll never really get him anything.

ananias55 · Answer

I play them, but I also have other hobbies and I make a decent amount.

The reason some women look down on that is because they don't deem it as 'masculine enough' they won't complain if a guy is working on a car all day, but they will when its video games.

Its just superficial and sure, its not all girls. But we know which ones, cause they're very outspoken.

K-I-S-S · Answer

I don't really care.

I make great money and i enjoy my free time as i want, sometimes i game for 16 hours in a row sometimes i don't. It's not the only thing i do.

As long as it makes you happy and not cause you any issues in for of addiction, not getting anything else done or etc it's all good.

GhostMochi · Answer

Alright, alright look. This can go two ways. If the guy is playing video games non stop and basically pays no attention to his girl, then yeah, of course it would be frowned upon. But, but, if he invites his girl to play games with him or can listen to her AND game, then it's an entirely different story. I feel like this question is more about the guys who straight up game and never make time for others.

Splatzonelover1 · Answer

I play video games and can understand why men like a lot more. It helps men to keep mind off things. I play thrid person shooter called Splatoon 2 , Sims 3 and have always will be gamer and would prefer a guy that also a gamer. It doesn't matter what console or PC that person likes.. every single person is going be different from what you want..

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

No idea, video games are great, they are art, music, adventure, challenge, suspense, thrills, stories, creative outlets, etc. no other form of entertainment is better.

Any woman who doesn't like them a lot gets a hard pass from me, so I guess in some respect I look down right back at those women who look down on me for liking games.

angelcolor · Answer

i actually find it attractive when men play video games because i play them myself, but when it becomes an unhealthy addiction and we don't get to talk or connect that's where it stops being attractive and becomes more of an annoyance

fonduegirl · Answer

I think gamers are hot. Video games increase IQ by 25 percent.

Ms_Vanderquack · Answer

We don't. We do however look down on people who waste their lives by dedicating an unhealthy amount of time to irrelevant bullshit.

Shamalien · Answer

I used to defend video games... then I grew up. What I will say is that watching movies / tv is just as much of a waste of time, so take a look at yourself before judging, but yeah, you can't be gaming 6 hrs a day as an adult... just not a good way to go.

1-2hrs of videogames a day is totally reasonable though, most people spend more than that watching tv

Ironic_Method · Answer

They see it as a kid's thing. It was much worse 20 years ago and is picked up as more accepting. If you're a hardcore gamer, definitely find yourself a gaming girlfriend. It's the best.

gausslu · Answer

I don't know It's not gender, lol, I think "intellectuals" tend to not like video games. This includes nerds/math nerds, as well as psychonaut drug users, philosophers, political people, etc.

games are too sporty. Athletes like them I guess, they are a SPORT, not a deep life experience.

beebella · Answer

Because video games were made for children and some women don't want a man-child.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they want you doing something that will benefit them. They see video games as doing nothing.

The rationalizations are things like he doesn’t pay attention to her enough. They might genuinely believe things like that, but thats not the root cause. They just don’t like the perception of gaming. You could do something else and they’d be fine with it.

doopayo · Answer

Because of the culture behind it. Women just don’t like men who only play video games all the time 24/7

Anonymous · Answer

Because games are a way of escape from reality. If you have a girlfriend and you still wanna escape from your reality=gf, that's a slap in our face

Anonymous · Answer

because they want a working slave
to make money for them
they are prostitutes
and if you think what im saying is a joke

just go on pornhub and try to prove me wrong

ACCEPT THE REALITY FOR WHAT YOU SEE
not how you feel

most women are garbage and a waste of time
THEY DO NOT LOVE YOU

just think about it

taeh_ie2 · Answer

I don’t. Personally myself I play it, but as long as he knows his limits I’m good.

slatyb · Answer

It's not the playing, it's playing them obsessively to the exclusion of all else.

Thedivinechic · Answer

I love nerds that play video games. I like video games.

princeofromance · Answer

Woman should look down upon men who play video games. The key word in that sentence is men. Video games are for children and teenagers. It is time to grow up gentleman.

ManHater · Answer

Because she can't or does not know how to suck cock.

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

because women are losers that had to cheat to be able to even call the game of life a draw. They don’t understand competition as anything being domination or defeats; because they can’t win games against most men, they think games are dumb.

Ninjazzed · Answer

We don’t. We look down on the neckbeards who prioritize it over everything in their life.

Anonymous · Answer

I like them but if thats all they ever do its kinda a turn off. I was talking to a guy and every weekend when he's off work I'd ask "any weekend plans?" AND EVERY weekend it was play video games...

Levin · Answer

Gotta be making that dollar for her to spend, toiling away infernally. Gaming negates that!

kamalravi25 · Answer

I would say girls don't see the bright side of us playing video games. Don't you get it... Finger exercise 😏 for better foreplay.

have_a_good_day · Answer

Because they can't seem to understand that guys need so little to be happy 🤷‍♀️

Shellyworld · Answer

It causes addiction. But a normal video game player is okay

SaraSmithishere · Answer

I don’t look down at them but I don’t understand the appeal

Anonymous · Answer

It literally comes down to nothing more than this... NOTHING pisses off a female more than a male enjoying himself in a way that doesn’t stem from her.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Because she would rather you give attention to her.

exitseven · Answer

There is a stereotype that they are all geeks living in their parent's basement.

Nazgol · Answer

Because it's for kids and it's time to put away the habit after a certain age

ScottSummers · Answer

Yep and its mostly women who spend 20 hours daily on the Fb or whatever, but hey that is not wasting time right?

Hurlyburly · Answer

Because they don't understand their appeal.

kellytheman · Answer

I think that we are trying to get away from reality and rather play video games then give them are attention.

Seppel · Answer

If my girlfriend would dissagree with my was of spending my time I would rather let her Go than giving up the things I like. I mean she is a waste of time then

Anonymous · Answer

Because they are not looking at them

Loveherbut · Answer

Well if the make 100000 a year as a YouTuber they would be fine with it. Women are bitches

blondfrog · Answer

Cause most of the time you can't make any money out of it I guess.

msc545 · Answer

They are worried that we aren't killing ourselves working to earn them money to spend.

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