Why do so many women hate when their man plays video games?

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I can understand maybe the guys that don't give their women the time of day and they are addicted to the thing and that's completely understandable but many women seem to be against the idea of video games in general, I know some will say it's immaturity but video games is basically tv you can control there's barely any difference, if anything watching tv is worse cause you ain't doing anything, some games require strategy and thinking, there's even a trend of videos where the guy records himself turning on the console and when it beeps, the woman wakes up 😂

RoboticKnight · Accepted Answer

First off, differentiation. This is the single most important thing anyone can learn about themselves, for any relationship. It means, knowing that someone is their own person and that what they do may affect others in different ways, but allows each person in the relationship to make their own decisions, good or bad.

I've played video games in different forms for over 40 years. The short version, is that guys like to create things - it's in our nature; Guys also like to break things. Videogames can satisfy these instincts with immediate results, compared to a hammer & saw to build (or, deconstruct) something. (Sorry, this may be a long write-up)...

Computer vs Console: PC's do carry a higher level of sophistication above console games, not to mention that PC's can do more than *just* gaming; even if a PS or Xbox can too, it would be pretty limiting (I don't know, I've never had either but there's only so much that can be done with a controller vs keyboard+mouse). While I don't have any real statistic on the matter, I can say from personal experience that console gamers have some maturing to do before they can be trusted with adult responsibilities.

Types of gaming: "Shooting games" (first person shooter type, like call of duty or modern warfare, never played either) is just an entertainment outlet - playing these games is not directly a warning sign, just the same as someone watching the Kardashians isn't inherently a narcissist.

Playing over long periods at a time: game developers are to blame for this one. It's not addiction, but more so these years about games being goal-oriented, and push the player to strive for the next "thing" (game accomplishments psychologically amount to building something).

What to do:

If someone is on a game for extended periods of time - let them know you'd either like to be included, or, that you would like to do something with them as well/instead of gaming. If they persist, do your own thing while they game. If that's all that ever happens day after day, week after week, re-evaluate the relationship.

One last thought (while trying to keep this short, 'cause I can go on... LOL)

Most games are a complete waste of time... Some games are just entertainment in the same vein as TV, music, or books, as some people have said; And some games, can provide insight and deep learning. Which does what for the individual is part of that person's journey through life.

TooHot2Care · Accepted Answer

I used to be a gamer, and let me tell you something? There is no more worthless a waste of time than gaming.

With TikTok and Social media? You're at least in the know and have something to talk about people with and know what they are on right now.

With gaming, you only connect with other gamers who are sweaty, emotional, worthless geeks with body weight problems or too skinny to be a threat. Gamers have issues with hygiene, bad social skills and tend to be insensitive dipshits. Funny thing is, they all have the same unhinged delusion that they are intelligent.

A woman wants her man to be ambitious, to do something she can brag to her friends about, and most importantly : To spend time with her.

You can't DO that while gaming.

Xoxocutekitty · Accepted Answer

Usually it's not just the video games itself, but the lack of time he's investing into the relationship.

2 hours playing video games isn't that long. But depending on when that two hours falls in a day it could mean maybe he's NOT: picking up food ingredients, cooking, plating food and/or rounding up the kids, helping with dishes, or appreciating his partner doing it for him (honestly the last one is the biggest kicker).

Like imagine if a wife came home after work and relaxed for 2 hours on tik tok. Wouldn't someone wonder why she never once thought her husband might be hungry in two hours and that it's an easily anticipated problem?

Obviously on a weekend what people do with their free time is a little different. There is still however a basic understanding that people need to eat twice a day and either you act like roommates or somebody is the selfless one and figures it out for the other.

Anemone978 · Accepted Answer

Well lots of times I have no interest in the game he is playing.. then since my husband is the worst kind of gamer he will sit in one place for like 3 days straight to complete the game.. while he ignores me, plays on the main tv, so that is what I have to watch and expects me to serve him his meals.. then when I play games he always insults the games I play or he has to play it first to which he spoils it for me and I don't even want to play it..

Sure I like to play games but it isn't an addiction and I can still have conversation while I play.. I also will not sit and play a game for days on end, because I have shit to do.. So for your man to do that and not want to go out or give you any attention is a complete turn off for women. Also a lot of women see it as like a child's thing, since gaming usually started in childhood they don't see it as something for adults..

Evelump · Answer

Lol I actually love video games, I wouldn’t mind if my boyfriend played them as long as he let me play too, or at least played an entertaining RPG that I could annoyingly commentate, like Legend of Zelda (or anything Nintendo really). It would be if he were ignoring me completely while I had asked to spend time with him what would be hurtful, but one shouldn’t expect full attention from their significant other at all times, so I understand that too. Like you said, as long as they’re not addicted and on their console at all times, there’s no problem with it! 😂

Nxtawm · Answer

Hmm I don't know ig it probably is them thinking it’s immature like you said but otherwise I can’t think of why unless the guy is addicted to it. I don’t rlly see the problem with gaming but that’s probably because I play them too so I wouldn’t mind too much if he plays with me occasionally or just watching him play 🤷‍♀️ there’s a lot of misconceptions about games ig

Sofargone93 · Answer

Because that's attention they feel they deserve. You can be playing call of duty or what ever you like with the boys online and your girl will be sitting there mad asf because you're having too good of a time. They want you to wired up and agressive with them like when you're getting beat in Madden. They want all that energy. My wife will literally walk infront of the tv butt ass naked... Only then will I pause the game because it might be a while before I see anymore magic. Sometimes she just wants to play with YOUR. joystick.. Lmao.

front2back · Answer

I've known at least 3 women who had trouble with boyfriends/husbands over video games.

It's because it's a waste of time overall and it's time you can't even share with her. At least with TV or something you can cuddle together even if she isn't really interested.

I say this as someone with a gaming PC myself and has played videogames most of my life, it's a waste of time and is no different than women being heavily invested in reality television. You don't have to stop playing games but especially during the limited time you have together prioritize her over War Thunder.

BrownSugar00 · Answer

If I ever got a boyfriend and he played video games, we're match made!

I love playing video games, although I prefer to play games on my PC, though I chose PlayStation over Xbox any day! I'd just play along with him.

AmeerX · Answer

Same reason I don't play it anymore. Playing games means you are not working and when you are not working you are wasteful. I love strategy games a lot and I would love to play them but I do it like fortnightly only when my friends come. Otherwise I want to focus on my business and land. It's like doing the strategy stuff but only no reset to it. I feel better when I am working now more than the gaming. Because I like the uncertainty

LazerBean · Answer

It's associated with children because that's mostly who people think of as the main consumers. It's just how a lot of non-gamers think. Old men are just as bad about seeing it that way.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I think it's only if they're playing so much to the point they don't pay attention to her, help out with stuff, doesn't get enough sleep, etc. But if they are then there shouldn't be a problem at all. One of my sisters and her husband are both gamers. I wouldn't hate my future partner if they played video games, as I do too sometimes (I'll go on a playing binge once in a while).

aceleon · Answer

there is sadly a judgement against games which needs to be stopped, if guys doesn't play games, then how could we spend the time? since we need to find ways to kill time or human life is too damn long.

overthinkergirl · Answer

if he's addicted to video games than it's a no. but if he has boundaries and he's also affectionate towards me then i don't have any problems with him playing video games. i would however be more uncertain about shooting range video games

Lisia · Answer

Lol I love gaming so idc tbh as long as he wants to game with me I'm happy

Uby10000 · Answer

Well if she's in your house i can easily see why...
Jokes aside, it's probably because they aren't interested into it, and is up to you to do whatever you want with your life. However, if she feels like is the wrong thing, talk about it together and try to find some compromise. You shouldn't give up on things you like only to make her happy nor you shouldn't give up on her if you think she is important in your life

HouseMoat · Answer

They don't care if you play video games.

They just don't want you ALWAYS playing them. Especially if you're married and living with your spouse. If you never do anything around the house, and are always playing, she's going to feel used.

Also, she may want to play with you too. Invite her to play every so often, see how she reacts

sparklycoconut · Answer

Aren't you a virgin? Why are you always asking questions like this as if you've ever had a girlfriend

mobiusforniner · Answer

Because biologically, a man whose sole interest and past time is playing video games shows lacking ambition, closed minded thinking and a refusal to better himself.

not exactly qualities becoming of a responsible father and husband.

RavVid · Answer

My cat walks over my laptop keyboard to get my attention. Much the same dynamics.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

They’re probably the kind of people who think gay marriages cause hurricanes

Anonymous · Answer

Because they always need attention. Always want to ruin a man’s fun.

Holsen · Answer

I know man, it’s so judgmental and stereotypical like they think the man is childish or not committed or not a good fit or not good traits amd so on!

Radiate143 · Answer

I see them as a massive waste of time and are a huge turn off. And guys who play them 100% of the time play them way more than they think they do.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve a sneaking suspicion it correlates directly with how much on demand attention they are used to getting. My girl would rather me play video games than go out. Her reasoning is she knows I'm safe.

TheGuyYouCrave · Answer

Its cuck energy. Its like soiling a field with jelly beans and hoping for something fruitful to come out.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Because those women are boring. Better question is, as a gamer, why would a guy date a girl who isn't into videogames

AviatorTom · Answer

Maybe because they want to be number one in the guy's life, not a game controller.

Willoughby23 · Answer

Make her watch the part in grand theft auto where you bang a hooker.

sheikalana · Answer

I don't mind. I'd rather my husband play video games than going out all the time.

DextroShade · Answer

They don't like it because it takes away their man's attention, as video games require more attention than TV.

Staximus · Answer

Because a lot of guys ignore their women for hours while playing video games. Video games are for kids.

Nuget · Answer

Try including her.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Jealousy. They lack the requisite manual dexterity and hand-eye coordination. 🤔😂

Dnice1 · Answer

I don't, I'd be happy to join in on the fun. I love playing video games 😊

Kayokenx3 · Answer

She's not a gamer herself. And also, the misconception that she feels that he put more attention on playing online video games and not her instead.

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Nikki1989 · Answer

Video gamers are one step away from being zombies and about as intelligent.

YAsQuen · Answer

women dont like when their man relax. He could be working or bettering himself so he can provide better in the future

grega239 · Answer

Because he's not paying attention to them. Women hate that

Unycorn · Answer

Waste of time in 99%.

VictorMachiavelli · Answer

It’s because the average gamer is a dork.

Holsgj · Answer

My girl don’t she plays with me 😂

Slim57 · Answer

It's a lack attention I think

Nifrayu · Answer

I've never met such a woman.

jahaims · Answer

Ignorance

Evelyn99 · Answer

I don't.

Anonymous · Answer

not if he looks like Henry Cavill

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