Why do so many women hate when their man plays video games?

[ChicoFromThe305]

I can understand maybe the guys that don't give their women the time of day and they are addicted to the thing and that's completely understandable but many women seem to be against the idea of video games in general, I know some will say it's immaturity but video games is basically tv you can control there's barely any difference, if anything watching tv is worse cause you ain't doing anything, some games require strategy and thinking, there's even a trend of videos where the guy records himself turning on the console and when it beeps, the woman wakes up 😂

[RoboticKnight]

First off, differentiation. This is the single most important thing anyone can learn about themselves, for any relationship. It means, knowing that someone is their own person and that what they do may affect others in different ways, but allows each person in the relationship to make their own decisions, good or bad.

I've played video games in different forms for over 40 years. The short version, is that guys like to create things - it's in our nature; Guys also like to break things. Videogames can satisfy these instincts with immediate results, compared to a hammer & saw to build (or, deconstruct) something. (Sorry, this may be a long write-up)...

Computer vs Console: PC's do carry a higher level of sophistication above console games, not to mention that PC's can do more than *just* gaming; even if a PS or Xbox can too, it would be pretty limiting (I don't know, I've never had either but there's only so much that can be done with a controller vs keyboard+mouse). While I don't have any real statistic on the matter, I can say from personal experience that console gamers have some maturing to do before they can be trusted with adult responsibilities.

Types of gaming: "Shooting games" (first person shooter type, like call of duty or modern warfare, never played either) is just an entertainment outlet - playing these games is not directly a warning sign, just the same as someone watching the Kardashians isn't inherently a narcissist.

Playing over long periods at a time: game developers are to blame for this one. It's not addiction, but more so these years about games being goal-oriented, and push the player to strive for the next "thing" (game accomplishments psychologically amount to building something).

What to do:

If someone is on a game for extended periods of time - let them know you'd either like to be included, or, that you would like to do something with them as well/instead of gaming. If they persist, do your own thing while they game. If that's all that ever happens day after day, week after week, re-evaluate the relationship.

One last thought (while trying to keep this short, 'cause I can go on... LOL)

Most games are a complete waste of time... Some games are just entertainment in the same vein as TV, music, or books, as some people have said; And some games, can provide insight and deep learning. Which does what for the individual is part of that person's journey through life.

[TooHot2Care]

I used to be a gamer, and let me tell you something? There is no more worthless a waste of time than gaming.

With TikTok and Social media? You're at least in the know and have something to talk about people with and know what they are on right now.

With gaming, you only connect with other gamers who are sweaty, emotional, worthless geeks with body weight problems or too skinny to be a threat. Gamers have issues with hygiene, bad social skills and tend to be insensitive dipshits. Funny thing is, they all have the same unhinged delusion that they are intelligent.

A woman wants her man to be ambitious, to do something she can brag to her friends about, and most importantly : To spend time with her.

You can't DO that while gaming.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Usually it's not just the video games itself, but the lack of time he's investing into the relationship.

2 hours playing video games isn't that long. But depending on when that two hours falls in a day it could mean maybe he's NOT: picking up food ingredients, cooking, plating food and/or rounding up the kids, helping with dishes, or appreciating his partner doing it for him (honestly the last one is the biggest kicker).

Like imagine if a wife came home after work and relaxed for 2 hours on tik tok. Wouldn't someone wonder why she never once thought her husband might be hungry in two hours and that it's an easily anticipated problem?

Obviously on a weekend what people do with their free time is a little different. There is still however a basic understanding that people need to eat twice a day and either you act like roommates or somebody is the selfless one and figures it out for the other.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Sounds like you have personal experience with the topic lol

[Xoxocutekitty]

Lol I had friends with that specific problem. My personal experience was 1. An ex played video games to hide that he was no longer attracted to me, which again isn't the video games 2. Another ex was gaming regularly until 2-4am and then was too tired to function the next day. He did care about the relationship, I think it was the social pressure to keep up with the boys, which again isn't always a video game problem but was the medium.

[Xoxocutekitty]

That said, I've personally wracked up 700+ hours of Civilization in the last 3 years, and probably sunk another 300 in various others. I don't hate video games, just the excuse that video games are more important than X, y, or z.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea I guess people can get quite addicted to it and that's when it's understandable but fair enough lol

[rigmarole]

If people are hungry they cook. People don't need to eat on a time table. Most meals can be prepared in 15-30 minutes. It's really not a big deal. People get hungry and say, hmm what do you want to eat tonight... I see these ingredients in the fridge and pantry we could make x, y, or z... y sounds best to me... OK lets make that and then off you go... What are you eating that takes 2 hours to make?

[monorprise]

@Xoxocutekitty Watching Video games can be a lot of fun, particularly games like civilization which have wonderful music.

[Anemone978]

Well lots of times I have no interest in the game he is playing.. then since my husband is the worst kind of gamer he will sit in one place for like 3 days straight to complete the game.. while he ignores me, plays on the main tv, so that is what I have to watch and expects me to serve him his meals.. then when I play games he always insults the games I play or he has to play it first to which he spoils it for me and I don't even want to play it..

Sure I like to play games but it isn't an addiction and I can still have conversation while I play.. I also will not sit and play a game for days on end, because I have shit to do.. So for your man to do that and not want to go out or give you any attention is a complete turn off for women. Also a lot of women see it as like a child's thing, since gaming usually started in childhood they don't see it as something for adults..

[AlexisTerror]

Damn sounds less like the games and more like ur boyfriend's a cunt.

What an asshole lol.

[rigmarole]

You started wearing shoes when you were a kid. I'm sure you gave up that immature behavior from childhood... Right?

[Anemone978]

@rigmarole I still play games so what are you talking about? I just said "I think that women think games are for kids" that is why they say playing is immature..

[Evelump]

Lol I actually love video games, I wouldn’t mind if my boyfriend played them as long as he let me play too, or at least played an entertaining RPG that I could annoyingly commentate, like Legend of Zelda (or anything Nintendo really). It would be if he were ignoring me completely while I had asked to spend time with him what would be hurtful, but one shouldn’t expect full attention from their significant other at all times, so I understand that too. Like you said, as long as they’re not addicted and on their console at all times, there’s no problem with it! 😂

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's sounds quite reasonable indeed Eve lol

[Nxtawm]

Hmm I don't know ig it probably is them thinking it’s immature like you said but otherwise I can’t think of why unless the guy is addicted to it. I don’t rlly see the problem with gaming but that’s probably because I play them too so I wouldn’t mind too much if he plays with me occasionally or just watching him play 🤷‍♀️ there’s a lot of misconceptions about games ig

[ChicoFromThe305]

There really is but I believe women should get into games more, I honestly think a big percentage of women would find amusement in it as Well, they just don't play or never tried playing lol

[Nxtawm]

I agree, I think a big part of it is they just need someone to introduce them to gaming since it’s still mostly seen as a guy thing

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep I'm like 90% certain they would enjoy video games if they tried em, they got different style of games too so I'm sure there's something they'd enjoy

[Sofargone93]

Because that's attention they feel they deserve. You can be playing call of duty or what ever you like with the boys online and your girl will be sitting there mad asf because you're having too good of a time. They want you to wired up and agressive with them like when you're getting beat in Madden. They want all that energy. My wife will literally walk infront of the tv butt ass naked... Only then will I pause the game because it might be a while before I see anymore magic. Sometimes she just wants to play with YOUR. joystick.. Lmao.

[front2back]

I've known at least 3 women who had trouble with boyfriends/husbands over video games.

It's because it's a waste of time overall and it's time you can't even share with her. At least with TV or something you can cuddle together even if she isn't really interested.

I say this as someone with a gaming PC myself and has played videogames most of my life, it's a waste of time and is no different than women being heavily invested in reality television. You don't have to stop playing games but especially during the limited time you have together prioritize her over War Thunder.

[BrownSugar00]

If I ever got a boyfriend and he played video games, we're match made!

I love playing video games, although I prefer to play games on my PC, though I chose PlayStation over Xbox any day! I'd just play along with him.

[ChicoFromThe305]

PC is best so it's understandable, for starters they aren't ripping you off by making you pay for internet that you are already paying for lol

[BrownSugar00]

I just think that the controls are a lot easier to manage and play with than PlayStation, though I do own a PS2. I prefer older games.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Can't blame you, old games be fire no lie

[BrownSugar00]

They are and I prefer the nostalgia though I didn't grow up with the.! It better in my opinion.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea ps2 games was the king of when online gaming didn't exist ha

[AmeerX]

Same reason I don't play it anymore. Playing games means you are not working and when you are not working you are wasteful. I love strategy games a lot and I would love to play them but I do it like fortnightly only when my friends come. Otherwise I want to focus on my business and land. It's like doing the strategy stuff but only no reset to it. I feel better when I am working now more than the gaming. Because I like the uncertainty

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well if I had a business and land I aurely wouldn't be playing video games either lol

[ChicoFromThe305]

Surely*

[AmeerX]

🤣🤣🤣, hey tell that to my brother who plays games and live on discord most of his time.
So, respectfully I disagree. Not everyone likes to work hard. And I am the youngest one not him so he should be more responsible

[ChicoFromThe305]

Does he have a business and land? Lol

[AmeerX]

It's family business and all of it gifted to him. Some land is with me. So, in short yes he does

[AmeerX]

He just wants to go to Germany. Says injustice to us here was too much. Long story short a fake case many times. But it's made me want to stay while he doesn't

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well that's quite a siblings difference lol

[AmeerX]

Yeah, it is. I just feel a bit unfair considering I am now doing more and more work and I have eye disease too

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep that definitely seems unfair

[AmeerX]

You know the worst part. I am not ungrateful to God and please I hope He doesn't think that way.
I got in arranged marriage situation and my brother says he is not ready yet. I am practically unhappy since that broke up. I wanted to go abroad longer than him.
I expressed I want to go study there. My family declined. He wants to go to Germany and all effort is on him going there. I don't even want to talk about it. I feel wronged that I am not even given a choice.
Every time I take on extra work (freelance), or commit a project or suggest it. I am told hey you increase work. How the fuck am is anyone going to stay competitive if they don't think and implement it in the work. Last was to install solar on the farm for all the Tubewells. And then he said this. It pained me and no one sides with me. It's like I am always doing worth of 7 people.

[ChicoFromThe305]

That seems pretty fucked up no lie bro

[AmeerX]

You know only the tip of the iceberg. The stupid part is that I got 10 cents while I was young and my brother got a 1$. I now know why it was always like this. I didn't know back then. Now, I do because I am told no in everything until I just do it anyway.

At least I know now I can't even follow 10% of the scripture. How am I to follow my parents when I am always told no. I want to do something, I am told no until I end up doing it anyway. I didn't ask for things to turn this way.
Be it Christians with 7 sins, be it 10 commandments, be it Islam. I reject such ideas. I had enough about these long bearded fools who are just getting money fooling people into thinking, "hey we can help you". No they won't, they can help anyone. God is God and these people are not our well wishers. They are fake and bastards for me.

[AmeerX]

@ChicoFromThe305 go get a woman and don't play with their feelings like some people do. It's the worst thing to break someone's heart

[LazerBean]

It's associated with children because that's mostly who people think of as the main consumers. It's just how a lot of non-gamers think. Old men are just as bad about seeing it that way.

[ChicoFromThe305]

That makes sense

[rigmarole]

The average age of a video game player is 35.

[LazerBean]

That doesn't change the fact that most people still see children as the main consumers of video games.

[rigmarole]

Only uneducated people that don't know what they're talking about.

[rigmarole]

58% of men and 48% of women play video games. You're in the minority.

[rigmarole]

Even when you target only older generations (Boomers, Gen X) 50+ you're still at 27% of men and 30% of women that still play video games. Video games are a form of personal entertainment like TV, Music/Radio, Reading, etc. It's just a more modern technology that began in the middle of Gen X with arcade games and the first home consoles. It is a recreation activity that really became mainstream with Millennial onward.

[LazerBean]

I'm not in the minority, because I'm not even referring to me. My husband and I both play videogames. I just have enough awareness of my surroundings to know how the people around me view video games and why. Sorry you're triggered, but get over it. He asked a question and I answered it.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think it's only if they're playing so much to the point they don't pay attention to her, help out with stuff, doesn't get enough sleep, etc. But if they are then there shouldn't be a problem at all. One of my sisters and her husband are both gamers. I wouldn't hate my future partner if they played video games, as I do too sometimes (I'll go on a playing binge once in a while).

[aceleon]

there is sadly a judgement against games which needs to be stopped, if guys doesn't play games, then how could we spend the time? since we need to find ways to kill time or human life is too damn long.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yep and sometimes video games is a great escape from reality, it's a therapy 😌🙏🏽

[aceleon]

even better than therapy at least you don't have to debate on things you don't want to

[ChicoFromThe305]

That's true lol

[mobiusforniner]

Your perspective suggests there isn’t anything better to do with life’s time than to sit in front of a screen for hours on end.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I don't see anywhere in his statement claiming that

[aceleon]

@mobiusforniner dude i'm talking about indoors what can you possibly do in your house if you are not watching things, play games or read books?

[mobiusforniner]

Uh…. well, if your idea of indoor activities is limited to those three things, you need to go full Taco Bell. Think outside the bun

[aceleon]

@mobiusforniner i mean in your house.

[overthinkergirl]

if he's addicted to video games than it's a no. but if he has boundaries and he's also affectionate towards me then i don't have any problems with him playing video games. i would however be more uncertain about shooting range video games

[ChicoFromThe305]

Most people play shooting games lol

[overthinkergirl]

but not all of them

[ChicoFromThe305]

I guess..

[Lisia]

Lol I love gaming so idc tbh as long as he wants to game with me I'm happy

[ChicoFromThe305]

Hm I see, interesting 🤔

[Uby10000]

Well if she's in your house i can easily see why...
Jokes aside, it's probably because they aren't interested into it, and is up to you to do whatever you want with your life. However, if she feels like is the wrong thing, talk about it together and try to find some compromise. You shouldn't give up on things you like only to make her happy nor you shouldn't give up on her if you think she is important in your life

[HouseMoat]

They don't care if you play video games.

They just don't want you ALWAYS playing them. Especially if you're married and living with your spouse. If you never do anything around the house, and are always playing, she's going to feel used.

Also, she may want to play with you too. Invite her to play every so often, see how she reacts

[mobiusforniner]

Because biologically, a man whose sole interest and past time is playing video games shows lacking ambition, closed minded thinking and a refusal to better himself.

not exactly qualities becoming of a responsible father and husband.

[RavVid]

My cat walks over my laptop keyboard to get my attention. Much the same dynamics.

[ChicoFromThe305]

😂😂😂😂

[sparklycoconut]

Aren't you a virgin? Why are you always asking questions like this as if you've ever had a girlfriend

[ChicoFromThe305]

Cause I like to observe, just cause it's not happening to me doesn't mean it's not happening 😂

[sparklycoconut]

Is it really that hard to imagine that you would get upset if your partner spent most of their free time on activities that you're not interested in?

[ChicoFromThe305]

No but I'd just join her activities, you know what they say, if they got no time, you make time lol

[sparklycoconut]

You'd join her activities all the time while she never joins you in yours?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Depends on the activity but yea I don't care if she joins mine or not, I'm the one that enjoys it so it wouldn't matter to me if she joins or not but from a man's point of view a happy woman is adorable to look at so joining her in her boring activities will make her happy, it's not about the activity itself but I believe it would be worth it you know

[sparklycoconut]

Wow that is so cucked. Basically you would be the only one who ever compromises as long as she's happy? Dumb af.

[ChicoFromThe305]

When it comes to involving myself in activities yea, I don't care if she doesn't try mine, if she's doing it because I joined hers then it's out of pity, perhaps you are alright with that but I won't, she either joins out of care or she doesn't join at all, this has nothing to do with sex, you must not know what a cuck is, you see love as an ego game, I can only assume your relationships didn't last long if this is how you treat a relationship, "he did this" "he didn't do that" that's child play, grow up, the effort either comes from the heart or out of the ass, if she's simply not interested in getting involved with my interests, that's totally fine, it's not for everyone, but I'd involve myself with hers, depending on what they are of course, she will express her low some other way, you are seeing it in a very immature way.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Express her love*

[sparklycoconut]

O k...

[DaBiggestBird]

They’re probably the kind of people who think gay marriages cause hurricanes

[ChicoFromThe305]

I've never heard of this 😂😂

[Anonymous]

I’ve a sneaking suspicion it correlates directly with how much on demand attention they are used to getting. My girl would rather me play video games than go out. Her reasoning is she knows I'm safe.

[ChicoFromThe305]

That is very wholesome, sounds like you've found a good one bro

[Opinion Owner]

She's so thoughtful and genuine. I'm lucky to be with her.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Yea bro I'm glad y'all got a healthy relationship going, don't see enough of those nowadays lol

[Anonymous]

Because they always need attention. Always want to ruin a man’s fun.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Well I'm sure it exists

[Holsen]

I know man, it’s so judgmental and stereotypical like they think the man is childish or not committed or not a good fit or not good traits amd so on!