You’re absolutely right, there are women who will take advantage of a nice guy or just flat out not appreciate him. But I also believe that choosing the right woman is an important aspect as well. Knowing yourself is knowing what sort of woman you’re looking for, what sort of qualities she should have and being a good judge of character.
Being a nice guy or even a good girl doesn’t guarantee the person you pick is going to appreciate it and for all you know they can be a complete nightmare. All you can do is try to pick the right person and if they’re wrong, then figure out what it was that made them a bad match and be sure the next woman isn’t bringing that negativity to the table. I can tell that you’re frustrated and probably dealt with a bad woman. Don’t let those experiences wear you down or shape your views on women, though. You want to be able to give someone else a clean slate and not baggage from someone else. I went through a lot while trying to find a partner, being the best woman I could be and it was sooo much trial and error. Now that I’ve found a good person, I almost wish I could’ve forgone all that drama and met him straight away. But that’s not how my journey was meant to go, and clearly yours either. It may be cliche but try to be optimistic, I do believe the right woman is out there, if you genuinely are a good guy.
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I would say girls want a nice guy with status and boundaries. If he is only nice but no status and no boundaries, he is easy to her but not important to her. And you don’t have to be a billionaire to have status if you operate by moral standards she respects. I’ve liked guys that were neither good looking nor wealthy because they held themselves to a high moral standard that I could respect.
Because too many men can’t find the line between kindness and weakness. If you don’t stand up for yourself, all kinds of people will take advantage of you. It’s more common for women to take advantage of men in this way because boys are taught to put girls on a pedestal from a very young age, and almost never taught to put themselves on a pedestal. This indoctrinates into servitude for women. I don’t care who you think you are, if someone consistently places themselves beneath you, you WILL eventually treat them like they are beneath you. Have some self respect. Stop putting women on pedestals. Expect to be treated with respect and respectful women will reveal themselves. Make yourself a doormat and only the users will be attracted to you.
You can be kind without being weak. You can be strong and assertive without being a dick.
Because they don't. Women don't know what they want. They can't respect a nice guy znd just treat him like he's their father.
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